Real self -discipline is to pursue more advanced happiness

What we want to pursue is "endorphins",

Not "dopamine".

Author: LEYLA

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The media person@小 said such a thing.

A few years ago, she went to the city library to check the information, and a boy in high school uniforms was sitting next to her.

There is a thick textbook in front of the boy, but his eyes have not left the mobile phone screen from beginning to end.

When she finished a chapter of obscure English, the boy wore headphones and dancing the net red beauty in the short video.

When she packed things up and prepared to leave the library, the boy finally stopped brushing the video -he clicked on the icon of a game.

So Xiao Coconut said with emotion:

In this era of entertainment to death, it is too easy to get a short -term pleasure. You can brush a short video in more than ten seconds, you can play a game in 20 minutes, and you can read half of the book in one hour. One of the signs of a person's abolition is to indulge in the short -term pleasure and no longer make long -term investment.

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I found no, the peaceful high school boy was actually countless ordinary us in front of the screen.

Are you like this:

It's okay every day, I always like to play mobile phones.

Every day, I always want to play games.

I can't help eating snacks every day when I am hungry or not hungry.

So, playing and playing, one hour and an hour passed.

Being around, it was wasted every day after day.

Eat and eat, the fat of the pound of pounds grows like this.

Professor Peng Kaiping at the Department of Psychology of Tsinghua University, in the book "Live of Living Life", shared four "happy nerves" that existed in our brains, two of which were "dopamine" and "endorphin".

The happiness brought by dopamine is available at hand.

For example, brush for one hour short video, play for one hour, and eat a few packs of snacks.

These easy happiness will make you sink.

The happiness brought by endorphin requires us to work hard and even suffer.

For example, you obviously don't want to move, and insist on going to fitness. When you practice well, you will feel happy.

For example, you are obviously tired and get up to study. When you see the transcript, you will be happy from the lungs.

Both dopamine and endorphin can bring happiness, but the difference is:

The happiness brought by endorphin can maintain it for a long time and finally make you succeed.

The happiness brought by dopamine can only be maintained for a while, and it will eventually make you pain.

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Know the netizen@知 知 知 知 知 知.

As a student, he was the best in the class.

The figure was thin and the grades were among the best. The girls in the class looked at him again.

But after graduating from college, he changed his job several times, but he was still high or low.

On the eve of the New Year, he resigned and returned home, relying on his parents for a few months.

He played the game upside down every day, brushed Weibo, and eaten various junk foods without restraint.

At first, such a life made him feel free and comfortable.

Over time, he became a beard, and his belly was pooping.

As a result, he looked for a job after the year, and the other party refused to interview because of his image.

This time the blow made him more degenerate.

He no longer wants to find a job, only rely on snacks and games to comfort himself, and then appeal to the Internet every day.

His parents were extremely disappointed with him, and his girlfriend broke up.

Once that young man, he eventually became a Xiang Linyu who was abandoned.

Neil Potzman said in "Entertainment to Death":

It is not what we hate, but what we love.

The happiness of a moment is not terrible. The terrible thing is the danger of the comfortable appearance.

When you choose the happiness brought by dopamine, you choose a constant energy.

Over time, life may collapse like a Domino card.

All messed lives are obtained from indulgence.

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We all know that Haruki Murakami likes to run especially.

Since 1982, Haruki Murakami has been running for 40 years, and he has persisted 60 kilometers per week.

But do you know what happened when Haruki Murakami started running?

In the book "What I talked about when I run, what am I talking about", Haruki Murakami told his experience.

"When I started running, it was 30 minutes at most, and I was almost suffocating, my heart was jumping, my legs trembled."

The feeling of suffocation made him want to give up several times.

"But for a while, the body actively accepted the running. The rhythm of the breathing festival became stable, and the pulse was stable."

So in the process, he fell in love with running madly.

It can only run for 30 minutes from the beginning, and can run for a maximum of 3 hours in the back.

From the beginning, I couldn't breathe, and the more I ran away, the more and more relaxed.

The experience of Haruki Murakami confirmed that sentence:

"Low -level happiness can be obtained through indulgence, and high -level happiness can be obtained through suffering."

For the author of "Centennial Loneliness", the same process is the same.

He had a habit when he wrote: never go home.

Even if you ca n’t write, you pace and go back and forth, even if you are angry to remove the door panel of the home, you will never leave your home for half a step.

why?

Because he knew that once he opened the door by himself, he would be attracted by the flowers and enchanting worlds outside. Then, the original writing plan will never be completed.

Keeping the temporary pain and putting down the desire for a while can you achieve a good article and enjoy the real sense of satisfaction.

This is the happiness brought by endorphins.

Kant said: "Real freedom is not what you want, but self -domination."

Things that make you better must be accompanied by pain, suffering and torture.

But if you can grit your teeth and continue to work hard and effort.

After you can taste the real joy in your heart after the practice, you can have a vigorous life.

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Writer@作 作 to lose weight for a while, and it reduced 32 pounds in four months.

Then he reflected himself, why did he lose many fertilizers before, but did not succeed once?

Because he found that although he had the idea of ​​losing weight, he only rely on "forbearance" to fight against "desire to eat".

For example, although I insist on not eating dessert this week, I eat it next week.

Although I insisted not to eat heavy oil this week, I ate a few hot pot next week.

Although I insisted not to eat dinner this week, it was overeating next week.

It may be feasible once or twice, but over time, I still can't control my mouth.

Why do I tell this story?

I want to tell everyone that self -discipline is not a matter of two times, not a matter of consciousness.

Just like you read this article, put down the snacks, stood up and moved twice, and then held the book for two minutes.

But tomorrow the sun lifts, you pick up a new pack of snacks, paralyzed on the sofa, and brush a short video.

The day after tomorrow, you saw a new article and hit another chicken blood.

But the day after tomorrow, you spend another day.

Thousands of ways to come out at night and still go old road in the morning. Life will always only turn in place, and it will never change.

So why did you take the remains this time?

Because he found that the most effective way to lose weight is actually a change in lifestyle.

"I really like a healthy lifestyle from my heart. I like foods with fresh ingredients and light taste from the heart.

Once the preference is established, as soon as the food that is heavy and salt, and the excessive processing food appears, the rejection of rejection immediately appears in the mind. The preference will help you manage yourself ... "

What I want to say is not only to lose weight.

All aspects of work, study, fitness, and life are all.

If you want to achieve something, you must develop the habit of work seriously;

If you want a good grade, you must develop the habit of focusing on learning;

If you want to be graceful, you must develop the habit of insisting on fitness.

When these habits integrate into your daily life, it becomes an inseparable part of your blood, you will naturally say "NO" to bad living habits.

Because you understand, playing your phone all day, you can't help you be a better yourself.

Playing games all day, you can't help you grow up and progress.

Swipe videos all day cannot allow you to have a good body and body.

The true self -discipline should be on the way to pursue "endorphins", not staying in the indulgence of "dopamine".

Only if you can overcome the lazy nature and develop the habit of self -discipline can you enjoy more advanced happiness and taste a different life.

As writer Li Sizuan said:

Fortunately, "timely", after the current happiness, the rest is all pain. Delay and satisfaction, bad in "delay", fortunately, except for the current pain, the rest is all happiness.

What kind of life you want to live depends on how you make a choice.

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