For ten years on the blind date, I am still single

Author | Mao Lina

Edit | Li Chunhui

Teacher Rilk said well, "Whoever is lonely at this time will always be lonely." Tanabata is a social mockery of single dogs. The majority of social and wedding products are particularly unwilling to let go, and strive to use the atmosphere to use it. They emphasized the terrible and love of love, but they must not agree with the first half of the poem- ​​"Whoever has no house at this time, you don't have to build it."

Li Xin (pseudonym) is still committed to "construction". It has been introduced from university, and has been around for ten years. Li Xin joked that he was "a witness to the Chinese marriage and love industry".

According to the company's investigation data, the registered volume of Chinese wedding agency related companies in the past 10 years has shown an upward trend. There are 22,100 related companies related to marriage agencies. In 2019, it is the largest year of newly added wedding agencies. This is just on the bright side. The marriage and love group, the various part -time matchmaker, the unregistered little wedding agency, etc., constitute a larger part under the water.

There is naturally indispensable industry chaos in the middle. "Blind Date has been deceived hundreds of thousands", "Ten Objects and Eight Tresses" and other news are common news. They make the masses and are doubtful about marriage and social networking.

In recent years, Li Xin has also encountered many weird objects. Among these male guests, there were only one side with her, and some were only one step away from the marriage and marriage. In the past ten years, she not only evaluated these men, but also evaluated various blind date channels.

Total difference

Among the blind dates he have seen over the years, Li Xin most missed the foreigner with "brown curly hair and light brown eyes". The two got along happily, and at the time of talking about marriage and marriage, they lost to faith.

"At that time, I had talked about marriage and settlement at home or abroad. Where to hold weddings such as a wedding. As a result, he told me that he was a church. , Must be born, is the kind of believers. "

For Li Xin's parents, the daughter's marrying foreigner is already a compromise that touches the bottom line. Before marriage, he has to wait for the fiance to get married, divorce, and get married? It is a heavenly night. Li Xin himself was difficult to accept, and this foreign relationship ended with a breakup. Li Xin later listened to a friend and said that this person has not got married yet, "there is no sequel."

Another entrepreneurial man introduced by an acquaintance was introduced by an acquaintance. "People are very advanced, and they are also very educated. His family situation has also been investigated. There is no problem."

But this entrepreneurial man who is very good at all aspects suddenly evaporates the world after a date with Li Xin. Friends, people from the company, and even the other family members cannot contact him, and a big living person is so disappeared.

Li Xin also wondered whether the other party was dissatisfied with himself and deliberately avoided it, but it seemed unnecessary. "After a long time, his trustee told me that he became a monk!"

Starting from college, Li Xin has been playing with me. Five girls in the six people had objects, and the roommates began to actively help Li Xin who was in the order. As a result, Li Xin saw a lot of boys from the school and foreign schools, but he never found the person who had a good relationship.

After graduating all the way, Li Xin's parents couldn't sit still. The 22 -year -old Li Xin officially became a member of the Dating Army. "When I first graduated, although I also had a blind date websites such as the Century Jiayuan and Lily.com, I still believed in the introduction of acquaintances at home. After all, I know the roots."

The acquaintances who have introduced Li Xin, including but not limited to their relatives, married classmates, parents and colleagues, neighbors of the neighborhood ... The advantage of acquaintances is that they are not easily cheated. The disadvantage is to involve too much and easily offend people.

As the age increases, the object introduced by acquaintances is inevitable, so the Li Xin family began to bloom more on the blind date channel.

"I have registered for the offline wedding agency. My mother has visited the People's Park and has registered a blind date website." Li Xin said that in these channels, the most self -confidence and the least friendly to women are also the most friendly to women. It ’s better than the corner of the people’ s park. No matter what your income and high value, the older unmarried girl is the bottom level of the blind date contempt.

"Even my mother felt that it wouldn't work there. The divorced baby had to find an unmarried daughter, and she opened her mouth and asked Laozhang's people to help. At first glance, she came to eat the only daughter."

The offline wedding agency always linked to the "fraud" and "wedding entrustment", but Li Xin believes that he cannot be killed. She did know male guests who had matched all aspects of the conditions through the wedding agency, just because "some force majeure" failed to continue.

"Some small wedding agencies rely on word of mouth, especially the kind of for ten years. Teachers of this kind of wedding agency are generally older. Maybe the marriage view is old, but it is not very good at smashing signboards. On the contrary, it is more likely to keep you renewal and upgrade members. After all, there are more people to raise. "

Because someone around him has spent hundreds of thousands of people who have not found the object on the blind date website, Li Xin's family's trust in the blind date website is not high. The three -inch tongue of the Internet matchmaker can't say that the family spends more money.

"I feel that the most unreliable is the blind date website and the chain structure. Secondly, the blind date corner. The wedding agency is so good that it is so good or the acquaintance, and the most secure is the introduction of relatives and friends." As for the current workplace apps, dating friends APP, Li Xin said that she would not try, she felt that "this is something that should be done offline from beginning to end."

From public welfare to business

It is said that love is priceless, and in the years of blindfolding career, Li Xin's feelings are exactly the opposite. The value of love is becoming more and more quantitative. The "blind date" has become more and more traded. In the 1980s, because a large number of educated youths returned to the city, all levels of organizations from the central and local levels were mobilized to solve the problem of marriage for older educated youths.

Early wedding agencies have government support and intervention, which is public welfare. Along with the government's departure, a private wedding agency appeared, and the wedding agency became a price -clearing business.

"There are quite a few kinds of small wedding agents in the past few years. It is a few old aunts sitting in the town, and there are not many introductions to the introduction, and some of them even collect money." Xiaoyuke is still in the era of paper -based files, and high -quality resources in their hands are quite limited. Therefore, this semi -business and semi -interested wedding agency disappeared one after another. Instead, it was replaced by paying a membership fee before entering the door.

A friend of Li Xin, when he opened the door of the wedding agency, he consciously mastered the routines such as the wedding, teacher PUA, and induction of renewal, but he still failed to escape the consumption trap.

My friend was a gentle offensive by the wedding teacher. From the interaction of the circle of friends to the private chat, the role of the teacher in the heart of a friend has gradually changed from "blind date assistant" to "acquaintances who can talk." In addition to blind dates, the two also talk about some topics such as fitness and beauty. Friends do not have defense and collect the list of private teachings, purchasing purchases, etc. recommended by the wedding teacher.

When chatting with others, Li Xin's friends discovered that his private education was more expensive than the market price, and it was just the case. Later, I was inquiring about the cooperative relationship. Teacher Wedeing introduced that fitness students were commissioned. "It should be a cooperation between institutions and institutions, because other people who go to blind dates have also been rushed by like this."

Not to mention the routine of the blind date website, the call bombing the VIP with a price of over 10,000, the quality of the high -quality objects also add money, the blind date of the blind date, and so on. Based on all kinds of chaos, Lily Jiayuan, Zhenai.com, and my Lord Liangyuan have been interviewed by the Jiangsu Provincial Consumer Protection Association and the Shanghai Wedding Management Association.

Regardless of the online or offline wedding agencies, it is very ugly to eat. Catching a sheep can't wait to put Mao light, which is related to the particularity of blind dates.

The threshold of the wedding agency is not high and has the attribute of "abandonment". The repurchase rate of this business is low. Everyone runs a blind date and goes to the old age. It is no wonder that the relevant companies need to work hard to succeed in success. No matter how good the consumption experience is, you can’t be able to do it. Come to consume if you succeed?

New demand has spawned new business opportunities

Li Xin said frankly that if Yun Ying was not married for ten years, he didn't blame the acquaintances without working hard, and the organization would pit people. Just as the story of a foreigner's ex -boyfriend and a monk entrepreneur, modern people are indeed too strange, and they also let her hit.

Thirty years old, Li Xin also had some different ideas. "The object of marriage must be found seriously, not for it. But it does not take the premise of marriage. It seems good to be in love."

There are not a few people with similar ideas with Li Xin. Many young people say that they are safe and safe, but they do not resist the establishment of an intimate relationship, but they have no suitable object and obtaining channels. As a result, some younger blind dates came into being, and the knife was worn to the leeks.

"The condition of the little girl is so good and there is no object. Add aunt to WeChat, pull you into the group, the general organization in the group, young people communicate more, and the feelings will naturally talk about it." During the destination, the aunt took out her mobile phone and called Li Xin to scan the code.

Li Xin, who has seen a lot of strange blind dates, does not dislike the aunt's invitation. After adding the other party's WeChat, the aunt pulled her into a "national high -quality single noble group". That night, the group owner came to add friends to talk to her privately.

The group owner said that the dating group of the blind date is real -name system. It is necessary to provide information such as property certification, ID card, real estate certificate, and pay hundreds of dollars to stay in order to stay in the group. "Anyway, try not much money, just try it." Such group chats may not let Li Xin find a good person who has spent his life, but she feels that it is possible to find an object of falling in love to pass the time.

In addition to paying a group fee, Li Xin feels that this is quite similar to her friendship experience in college: such WeChat groups are not responsible for introducing objects, focusing on organizing activities. "There are activities across the three differences, and the script script of the barbecue flying tray is killed. An activity is about a hundred dollars per person, which is a group of people playing one by one. Are there any below to see whether they are active or not, and the owner will not help you."

In addition to organizing activities, such as the day of the Mid -Autumn Festival or seasonal fresh listing, group owners will also engage in group purchase specialty products. "Friends' business is not at ease." Not to mention, someone really places an order, even if the price is not preferential than the local wholesale market.

After communicating with other group friends, Li Xin found that everyone was pulled into the group. Some people see others on the Internet that others have come to find. Some people are introduced by acquaintances. There are not a few who are pulled into the lease driver like her. Some people are looking for a small intermediary to watch the house. At the same time, I also put the object to the schedule. "

Hard Sugar Jun learned from other channels that the business of such new blind date and dating groups can not only organize activities to sell special products, but large parts such as RVs can also be bought and sold in the group. "Now big cities, especially north, Shanghai, Guangzhou and Shenzhen. Houses and cars are just needed. Of course, some people do business when there are demand." Instead of saying business, the insider revealed to Hard Sugar Jun that there are often many blind date groups in a group of masters. The group of young people organized dating activities, and those parents who added groups for their children are the main goals of real estate agencies and car sales.

In all of the above -mentioned trading links, the owners are almost not directly involved, but only provide group talks about this "platform". But if there is a deal, the owner will naturally receive a generous commission.

When he first entered the group, Li Xin found that the group of friends was very active. Whether it was a group of eating, drinking, and buying a special product of drinking and drinking, the owner called it. After being removed because he was too busy, he was removed for two months and had not been removed in the group activities.

"My parents are going to calculate my fortune recently, adjust the Yuanchen Palace and something. Their friend's daughter -in -law has been adjusted. It is said that the object of the two months has been found." Li Xin, a witness of the wedding industry, will enter the metaphysical blind date. The door.

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