Your family is your fate

Author: Hard See Muye

Fate is the beginning of the story, and change is our life.

Ma Dong once asked a question of psychologist Wu Zhihong in "The Story of Qi Qi":

Many people have all the disorders, unsatisfactory, unsatisfactory problems, and unable to overcome personality obstacles, and those thresholds that cannot be taken over to take over people are attributed to native families. Is it so serious?

Wu Zhihong replied, saying, yes.

Psychological research has long proven that the native family plays a vital role in the personality of people, which will have a long -term and profound impact on everyone's life, and even determine the happiness of life.

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In the marriage of parents, the child's happiness is hidden. American family treatment expert Vicinia Satia said:

"One person has a variety of connections with his native family, and this connection will affect his life, including his marriage."

Whether your marriage is happy and happy may be hidden in native family relations.

"Queen Queen" Wang Siwen said in an interview after divorce:

When she was a child, she felt that she would definitely leave in the future, and she did not believe in marriage very much.

She believes that loneliness is the normal state of marriage, and unfortunate marriage is normal.

Why has such concepts and attitudes since childhood?

Because she has lived in a broken marriage native family since she was a child, the marriage of the elders had a great impact on her.

Almost all the family members were divorced, and she had left twice. Her mother left five times. She married the happiest aunt in her eyes and later got married.

Therefore, when she got married, she lost her trust in marriage and finally divorced.

Coincidentally, after the film, the gold and summer after the film, all the women in her family divorced.

She said: "I really can't see the shadow of a happy marriage from any woman in our family."

In fact, she is very yearning for marriage, but she is always worried that once she enters the palace of marriage, her feelings will deteriorate.

She saw too many misfortunes in marriage since she was a child, so she was not confident to operate a marriage.

As psychologist Frank Cardler said:

"One of the most unfortunate facts in life is that most of the first major suffering we encounter comes from the family."

On a person, you can always capture the shadow of his family.

Parents' feelings are stable and harmonious, and they will nourish their children throughout their lives and bring their children full of energy.

If the parents' feelings break, children will not have a sense of security when they grow up.

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If the native family owes you, you have to win back by yourself. Higashino Keigo said: "Everyone wants to be born in a good family, but you can't choose your parents. What kind of cards are sent to you, you can only try to play it."

Some people are resentful in their lives because of their native families.

There are also some people who keep looking forward, walking forward, constantly healing themselves, and learning to shake hands with this world.

Gorky was born in a carpenter's family, and his parents died, and lived in the home of the grandfather who opened the small dyeing workshop.

Later, his grandfather went bankrupt, and at the age of ten, he began to live a wandering life.

But he did not submit and fate, and kept reading the habit of reading. The wandering life exactly provided him with a lot of rich writing materials.

In "Childhood", Gorky said that the protagonist A La Lasha said:

"We can't choose what kind of origin, but we can choose how to live. If the native family owes you, you can win back by ourselves."

In this world, no family is absolutely perfect, and problems are the norm of the family.

Native families determine your first half of your life, but you can decide your second half of your life.

Know the blogger @Seaseeyoul shared a story.

When the blogger taught in the countryside, there was a poor student in the class. His father died very early. The mother ran away from home and left him and his grandma.

He had to make a farm work every day to cook, and then rushed to school in a hurry. After school, he had to put cows and cut grass.

But the child was not depressed, but he was very sunny. He often ran to the bookstore in the town to read books.

From the village to the town, it takes two hours to walk. He can only arrive at noon in the morning, and sometimes he is hacking when he comes back, but he doesn't feel tired, with a satisfying smile on his face.

The blogger bought a few books to give him when he left the school, and encouraged him not to give up learning.

One day after seven years, the blogger received the news from the child, saying that he was admitted to Nanjing University.

Adele, a master of psychology, said:

"People can have a choice. No matter what the previous life has happened, it has no impact on how to spend in the future. It is also an adversity and suffering. It will become dark and humid moss. "

Many people like to blame their own misfortunes to native families and complain about their origin.

In this world, everyone has pain, and they do not want to crawl out, and others will never save you.

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You are your child's native family. One person has a variety of connections with his native family. The mode of parents' relationship is the model of children's learning.

You are your child's native family. What kind of example do you create for your child and establish a role model, and finally affect the child's life.

The relationship between a person and the native family is his relationship with the entire world.

Give a good native family to give him the ability and confidence of happiness.

Once, Qian Zhongshu and Yang Yan took their daughter Qian Qian to the restaurant for dinner.

When eating, Qian Yan has been observing the guests at other dining tables.

Yang Yan asked her: "What are you always staring at others?"

Qian Yan answered:

"You see, the child's parents are quarreling. You see, the child's parents are talking. I always think that the child of the parent is very lucky, so I am particularly grateful for my parents, because you love each other, Qin Se and Mingming, I am I think I am a very lucky child. "

Qian Qian, who grew up in the affection of parents, knew how to love someone and how to run a family from an early age. Although she experienced two marriages, she was very happy in each marriage.

Especially when she and the second husband Yang Weicheng formed a new family, Yang Weicheng's two children were adolescence.

Children of adolescence were originally rebellious, but Qian Yan conquered them with their love.

After the death of Qian Yan, the step -girl's step -son wrote her to miss her:

"It is more than 20 years with my mother Qian Yan, which is the happiest day in our lives."

The children's personality and talents are in the final analysis of their families and parents.

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I have read such a sentence:

"The so -called growth is to use your own good, make up for the bad previous, and use your own love to make up for those missing love."

Fate is the beginning of the story, and changing life is the entire life.

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