90%of the matchmaker will not tell you!Is this the blind date market?

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The Tanabata is approaching, and the topic of getting rid of order is inevitable again. Especially for migrant workers in first -tier cities, it seems that the order is urgent and far away. Dating.

What is a blind date?

It is to choose a series of privacy topics such as fertility, sexual value, and support value on the right side.

Today, the youth Talk invited a senior prince -in -law in Shanghai@今天 今天 今天, revealing the cruel truths in the blind date market from the perspective of the matchmaker.

I hope that after listening to her telling, everyone will have a deeper understanding of the real situation of the blind date market, so as to better judge whether they choose to enter and how to carry out future planning.

The following is her self -report.

The blind date market is a cruel market

People with glass heart should not enter easily

The blind date market is a very cruel and very realistic market, so I suggest that it is more glass -hearted and fragile, so do not enter the blind date market.

Because after you enter, you will inevitably be selected by others. How old is your age? How is your appearance? What is the family conditions? Is there a room? How much is the income? Many people will be defeated in this level.

The value of women in the blind date market is age and appearance. Age is your fertility value, and the appearance is your sexual value and emotional value. This is why girls do not look good even if the conditions are very ordinary, but if she really wants to get married, she can get a successfulness that she can have at least fertility.

There are some beautiful girls. In fact, she has a bad temper, and someone will pay for it. He sees you so beautiful, and he feels very happy. He feels very face.

The so -called your education, your character, and your family conditions need to be measured on those boys with good conditions.

Because there are too many women they can choose, he will increase these conditions in addition to age and appearance.

What about boys? In fact, the most important thing is your economic situation.

This represents the value of their support. To the extent they can support the future family, support his wife and children, and can support a few children.

If you are in Shanghai, the annual income is less than 100,000, and the age is just not small. For example, if you are over 30 years old, then if you have no house, there is basically no chance to enter the blind date market.

I talked to a boy before, and I was particularly impressed. This boy was in 1991. He was very tall and handsome, but his family conditions may be a little worse. I want to introduce him to girls. He feels hey, pretty good, and then talk about girls' requirements? I hope that boys have the ability to buy a house in Shanghai, and they plan to settle in Shanghai in the future.

He said forget, don't, don't introduce me, I can't meet others' requirements.

Even if he goes to his hometown, he can't find the object, because his hometown does not meet his age.

So he may be the most difficult person, because he does not go back to his hometown, and he really has no money. If there is no way to provide the value of the support, he actually gives up.

Many young people do not want to be on a blind date, they just do n’t like to be called the two, and they are selected. As far as I just said this fertility and sexual value, there is very few women who are suitable for marriage to women who will take the initiative to mention these two words, because this is a very materialized word. I want to sell you for two. In this feeling.

If you don't want to be measured by others. Either you just don't care about the economic conditions of men, you find someone you really love each other. He doesn't even care if you have fertility, it looks good.

Either you are fully developing your own career and so that you do not need to enter these things such as falling in love, marriage, and having children, then I think if you have no way to do it. If you can only go to a blind date, you need to know what reality is.

Shanghai senior matchmaker tells you:

How can blind dates maximize interests?

For those who work in Shanghai, his parents introduced him with limited people, so he will find channels from the outside.

When we come here to pay, there may be thousands of pieces cheaper, and then there may be 10,000 or 20,000 in the middle, but I have also seen the kind of prestigious school, high education and high quality, which may receive 100,000 There are also, I think this may not be in line with my positioning.

There are many customers who have succeeded, but they all have a characteristic, that is, they are either ordinary, so buy a house or something, and they will not have particularly high expectations for the other party. Just buy it together.

Either the conditions of both people are very good, that is, the degree of the same degree than ordinary people, there will not be a lot of people who can choose, so they will think about it. Four.

In fact, the person in the middle is more confusing, so it is difficult to find his own positioning.

This positioning is very important, that is, you have to confirm what kind of person you can match.

Maybe you are more ordinary, and then the income at the scene of the blind date is not very good. If you want to find it, you must have a high execution.

How can you maximize your interests?

Not to say that you want boys to spend a lot of money, or to treat him as a withdrawal machine, but to say that you can better, time save time, and efficiently choose the most suitable person. I usually recommend that they meet for the first time, choose a coffee shop, or afternoon tea restaurant, such a slightly cheaper place.

If you talk well, go for dinner again.

If the girl does not see this boy, it is recommended that the girl said that the money A is actively given to each other. The time saves it, and she can also maintain a relatively good reputation.

But if the boy takes the initiative to mention AA, whether you look at him, the final result is that you should not look at him.

Pulling, he is not just picked on this meal, you may be after you get married in the future. He will ask for aa after marriage, and that A can not get up.

Many girls, she did not know her requirements very well at first, she would have a sense of responsibility and advancement. She hoped that the other party had any hobbies and continued to exercise.

Responsibility is that this family can be supported in the future. Then I hope that you can continue to rise in the future.

So you tell me how much money do you want the other party? Where do you want his house to buy? Has the house value?

I will tell you again, is your request high and whether there is room for improvement.

Fitness, does it have any special benefits to your marriage?

Actually, why do you want him to fitness? There may be a beautiful body, then you say, do you want him to have a beautiful body, right? Don't give up as far as possible.

Hobbies, personality, humor, funny, gentle and considerate. This lubricant is only a lubricant in the process of communication. It has no decisive effect at all.

People who are urged to marry: the earlier getting married, the better

But it's not a big deal to not get married

During the Chinese New Year, there will be a lot of consultation, which is urged by parents.

What are you urging TA to get married? Can you give TA a lot of economic support? Let TA buy a house and give birth to children?

If these can't be done, you should not urge, because they are not easy.

But parents can urge them and promote their anxiety, in fact, because they are anxious themselves, they want to get married.

After 30 years of age, the person who can choose to choose is less. Many successful women, she is indeed to develop her career when she was young. It delayed love.

After she was 30 years old, after her income was relatively high, even if there were no objects, she would not say that I had no place to live. I would not have no money in the case of my illness.

In fact, I will appreciate such women more. Although you have lost many opportunities to find objects, you have become rich.

I am most afraid of that kind, I don't think very clearly, always stingy and stunned. The career did not improve, and then the age was older, and the opposite sex became less afterwards. This is actually a pity.

The advice for boys is also when you are young and more beautiful, and quickly find an object. Because the sooner you look for, the higher the concentration of love.

At that time, the little girl was as young as you. She would not pick you up in particular. She just wanted to talk about a sweet love.

But after the age of 30, girls will only pick your income, your asset status.

So if you don't have to be picked by them, it is actually very passive.

But for those who have no conditions to get married, I don't think you should be attached to this matter. It is only one of the many choices in the event of getting married. You don't have to get married.

If you say you really don't want to get married, you can actually, or you are really eliminated, just if your conditions are not enough, you can actually get married.

You don't have to sort whether you can get married. I do n’t get married, I am a failed person. I am a eliminated person. In fact, there is no harvest except for myself.

You can't get married anyway, why should you be separated by yourself?

Some things are missed when you miss it.

You are like this bus. It is driving away. You have to chase it behind and keep chasing behind. Even if you sit up, you may not have a place.

Your life cannot always be chasing this bus. You need to do a lot of other things. You need to take care of your parents, you need to learn, and you need to work.

I think I want to open a little, so don't force yourself. It's almost possible.

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