Adults cure their four "keys"

In his life, instead of spent the four "keys" in stress, anger, and mourning, it is better to bring these four "keys" to make yourself comfortable and comfortable.

Indisputable

On one occasion, the famous writer Mo Yan asked someone to eat. After the wine was full, there were a lot of meals left on the table. Mo Yan couldn't bear to waste and continued to eat.

At this time, some people sarcastically said: "Look at Mo Yan, you must eat his money back."

Mo Yan at the time seemed to have a loud slap. Later, before Mo Yan went to the banquet, he drank two bowls of porridge and two steamed buns and was full of stomach.

At the banquet, he ate slowly and gentle.

As a result, one person said, "Look at the spirit of Mo Yan's fake modeling, as if he can eat Jia Baoyu only with the incisors."

The prejudice of the prejudice has a set of judgment criteria for people, and the right and wrong of the matter, right and wrong, all depends on himself.

Such people, even if they have seen the big world, can't change the narrowness deep in their hearts.

Therefore, we should not make extra explanations with people with prejudice and have too much controversy.

Moreover, many things can not fight for win -win, arguing with ignorance and stingy people, will only waste your time and energy in vain.

Lao Tzu said, "The husband does not fight, so he can't fight with it."

Do n’t care about who you lose, do n’t fight for who is high and low, do n’t argue with a clearness, and devote more energy into meaningful things.

Not angry

In life, a trivial matter may make you jump like a thunder: the food made by your parents is not appetizing, no one in the family is cleaning, and the child works with his homework ...

Studies have shown that many of our diseases are angry.

Compared with people with peaceful emotions, the risk of angry people suffering from myocardial infarction or acute coronary syndrome is 4.74 times higher than the chance of death with heart disease.

"Zeng Guangxianwen" said: "Tolerance for a while, so as not to worry about 100 days of worries."

If you think about it, a lot of things encountered in life are not worthy of our furiousness. Whenever you calm down and tolerate, the frowning frown can stretch.

As the saying goes: If you are right, there is no need to be angry at all; if you are wrong, then you are not qualified to be angry.

In the event of incident, keep indifferent, and don't worry about getting angry. Sometimes, letting others go, that is, letting you go.

Try to calm down the mindset, look down on everything, look at a little bit, use tolerance, and resolve things that make you angry. Do not let your anger disturb your mind and hurt your body.

Not compare

In comparison, it is human instinct, but excessive comparison often compares jealousy and unwillingness, harming others.

Other people's lives were better than him, and he started to be jealous; his friend's career flew Huang Tengda, and he began to be anxious. Other people's children have excellent grades, and he starts to be depressed; if he does not have anything else, he will be unhappy ...

He lowered his tentacle to live a solid life, consuming his life in his blame and anger.

When people are middle -aged, they may be different from friends who are at the same point.

This gap is not only a matter of hard work and not working, but also caused by multiple reasons. So don't envy, just live your own wonderful.

There is a saying: "The happiness of a person is not because he has more, but because it is better to allow others to be allowed."

Life should have been a "contentment of the content". If you always take the standards of others to measure your happiness, it will often be empty.

Look at others less, look at yourself. Putting down the comparison heart, every stage, winning yourself is the king.

Not worry

The protagonist of "The People Packing in the Set" always thought that there would be a mess in life, so when he went out, even if it was a clear weather, he would bring a rainy gear and put on shoes and warm coats.

He often lives in his imagination, and finally died in anxiety.

Our life is often trapped and trapped by various status quo, thinking, and wrapped. I repeatedly recall some of the things that have happened. It is difficult to release it. Essence

In the end, in the silent internal consumption, physically and mentally exhausted.

Don't worry about what happened, even if it dries with tears and loses his hair, it is superfluous.

Don't worry about what has happened.

Not to worry about things that are difficult to change. Since it has become a fact, no matter how much it is done, it is also troublesome.

Emotional, focusing on yourself, and doing things seriously. As long as you are good at motivating your brains, as long as you are willing to adjust your mentality, the crisis can also become a turnaround, and difficulties can become a staircase of growth.

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