After the husband and wife divorce, who is the last regret for men and women?The truth is worried ...

Two days ago, I saw a data on the Internet:

The survey found that about 54%of people regretted after divorce.

Regardless of whether this data is accurate or not, there are many readers who regret divorce in my background message.

Before the divorce, I couldn't wait to end the marriage immediately. After getting married, I found that the previous marriage was not so bad, and began to miss the predecessor.

Some people say, isn't this a true portrayal of men? After divorce, it should be easier for men to regret it than women?

Some people also say that the price is dropped after divorce, and it is difficult to find the right person. It should be a woman who regrets it.

Men and women, who regrets more? Today I talk to you about this problem.

"After the divorce, I found that the predecessor was good"

I have read the self -report of a divorced man on the Internet, which is very emotional.

After finishing the divorce procedures with his wife, the moment he walked out of the Civil Affairs Bureau, he felt that the air became fresh -he was free.

He is young and will make money. He can definitely find a better one, and his wife is "ugly and fat, and don't like to dress up."

The life after the divorce is very pleasant. I asked friends to drink until the early morning. No one was serially called. Even if the night did not go home, no one chased him where he went.

Whoever thinks, after a few days of happiness, he regrets it.

When I got home, I saw that the ingredients in the refrigerator were about to deteriorate, but they would not cook, the floor was getting dirty, he was too lazy to drag, and the clothes on the balcony were dry for many days ...

He was a little irritable, sitting on the sofa for a while, and unintentionally glanced at the test papers of his son on the table. Then he realized that his son had already been in the third grade. He had 100 points in the exam with his wife's signature.

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It turned out that she was doing so many things at home.

He rolled up the album and saw her when she was just married. She was thin and good -looking, and now she has become a "yellow -faced wife" with a big voice.

He never thought that the marriage made her like this.

And he, after so many years of "shaking a shopkeeper", his wife can still be so good to him, he does not know how to cherish it.

So, is it really easier for men to regret it?

Don't worry, let's take a look at the experience of a female reader.

Two months ago, Xiaoya resisted her marriage regardless of the dissuasion of the people around her.

The ex -husband is good to her, but it is very dumb, and her family is average. She was worried about before marriage, but the family was tightly urged and she compromised.

But marriage does not fade her dissatisfaction, but she will only grow more dissatisfaction in her heart.

She has always been fighting for being better. Now she has no sense of superiority in front of her sisters. Looking at the husband of other people's house, she only hates herself to marry the wrong person.

Soon, she met a more golden and romantic man.

I don't know if she was stunned by sweet words, she still thought that she was better, and she divorced and remarried without hesitation.

But not long after getting married, she found that the other person changed a person, had a grumpy, had no patience, and had a feathers in marriage.

She regretted it.

Get material satisfaction, but lost a person who really treats her.

I regret it after the divorce, often because it is not good

When I am divorced, most of them really want to leave, so why do you regret getting married?

After all, it is not good after divorce.

It is said that marriage is for happiness, and divorce is even more.

A person choosing a divorce, no matter what the reason is to get rid of pain and find new happiness.

However, some people found that life did not think of Ruyi, and even far less than before divorce.

A person who yearn for freedom, thinks that he can get rid of the restraint of marriage, he can live a taste and taste. After loneliness for a long time, he finds that the days of quarrels are nostalgic;

A person who disliked his partner thought that he could find a better one after divorce. After more experience, he found that the first thing he met was the best;

A derailed person thought that he had found true love outside the marriage, and after divorce, he found that the so -called true love is the illusion. The seemingly perfect lover has a problem and shortcomings ...

They regret that they did not cherish their predecessors. In the previous marriage, they could not do my best to pay for it and operate a good relationship.

But can they do it back back?

uncertain.

Those who regret after divorce may regret it if they do not divorce.

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They always have the expectations of another choice. When the status quo is not satisfactory and the problem is not solved, they feel that another choice can get rid of misfortune.

When there is a problem with marriage, they may feel that they may meet better people after divorce, and they will be happier.

After the divorce is not good, I will feel that if I do not divorce, I will not become like this now.

But this is not their fault, no one of God's perspective. Divorce is like opening a blind box. Some people have opened their rebirth, and some have fallen into another abyss.

After the divorce, the better and the better, of course, they will not regret it. Only after the comparison, I found that the people who were not as good as the past did they regret making a wrong choice.

Don't take divorce as a means of evasion issues

Do you have to regret it after divorce?

Not necessarily.

Some people may be more difficult after divorce, but they always endure the torture of the other half.

And those who regret it are that they think they can be happy for a person, but they did not find that the problem was actually on themselves.

Lina and her husband have been married for 6 years and have divorced 3 times.

She felt that her husband didn't care enough about her or respect her. They quarreled two days and two days. When the quarrel was fierce, she couldn't help but divorce, and her husband did not agree.

Until the third time, the husband blurted out: "Leave away!"

At the Civil Affairs Bureau, the staff saw that they were still angry and persuaded them to go back.

The marriage did not leave, but Lina calmed down.

She wanted to understand that the biggest problem in marriage was the imbalance of this relationship and her unconfident.

Two years ago, they had children. In order to take care of the family, she resigned and started a full -time mother.

Without work, without the advantage of her figure, she was worried about her husband's derailment and always wanted to test his sincerity.

As long as the husband was impatient and neglected at all, she felt: Sure enough, he began to dislike me.

The grievances occupied her heart, she wanted to divorce and find a person who really loves himself.

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Can I really find happiness after divorce?

Some people can, some cannot.

For those who escape the problem, when the marriage becomes unfortunate, they will push all the problems to the other half, and feel that as long as you change your partner, the marriage can become better.

As everyone knows, some problems will not be solved, and failure will be staged repeatedly.

Studies have found that a person's problems in the last marriage are likely to appear again in the next marriage, and even the probability of the second marriage failure is higher than the first paragraph.

Of course, this is not to let everyone learn to tolerate and blindly blame themselves.

Instead, I want to say that in the marriage, I know how to reflect on myself and be ascended. Even if they are still divorced, and even after divorce, they will not regret it.

After all, not all marriage is worthy of recovery, such as principles such as domestic violence, derailment, and gambling. You should leave, and there is nothing to regret.

However, if the problem can be solved clearly, but always wants to escape with divorce, then change a hundred people and get a hundred times to marry, and it may not be fully satisfied.

After the husband and wife divorced, who did the last regret?

It is not a man, nor is it a woman, but the poor after the divorce. Afterwards, the failure of the marriage of marriage is mainly on the person who is wrong with himself.

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But divorce is a fact, no matter how regrets it is, it is better to learn to reflect and avoid the same mistakes next time.

In the next relationship, make up for your deficiencies, operate marriage well, and create new happiness.

Pay attention to "readers", and I hope that everyone in marriage has a determination to persist and also have the confidence of abandonment.

Author: Du Yanxin, a master's degree in psychology at the University of London, England, a national second -level psychological counselor, has studied psychology for many years. Sister Xin wants to accompany you with professionalism and warmth! WeChat public account: simple psychology (ID: xinli01).

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