The baby is crying, sick, and bad stool. There is a problem with breast milk?Don't "kidnap" mother anymore

The benefits of breastfeeding, everyone knows that it is not only the perfect ration of the baby, but also reduces the risk of mothers to breast cancer, which is conducive to the recovery of the mother's body.

However, the difficulty of mother breastfeeding is rarely mentioned and understood.

For breast milk mothers, such as raising milk, milk blocking, lack of milk, nipples, nipple cracked, etc., in addition to pain, anxiety, and self -blame, it is even more difficult to get from family and the outside world. Especially when the child is crying, sick, and stool, many people blame their mother's milk problems.

How many difficulties will a mother encounter on the road of breastfeeding? I hope that today's real experience of the story of the story can make more people understand the difficulty of breastfeeding in advance, and give breast milk mothers more support and understanding.

The baby was born

But my breasts are not ready

I don't know if others are like this. My milk processing process is extremely painful.

Even before the birth baby, I read three popular science books and countless public account articles. I bought breast milk underwear and milk -spill pads. I had to be a mother who could insist on breastfeeding. This level.

There is no psychological preparation for all kinds of pain, discomfort, and difficulties. The self -confidence caused by learning is suddenly shattered by real pain.

When I said this, I pulled me back to my child's first three days, and the nightmare was the first three days.

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The book says that the doll should feed closely as soon as possible, and I did it; as much as possible, I did it as much as possible.

But there is no milk. The soft child who is less than three days of new life will burst out of a loud cry at any time.

You have no milk, let your child eat milk powder.

She can't eat enough, don't be hungry.

She is yellow, and she does not eat much milk without jaundice. You look at it yourself.

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The urging of the family around me made me fall into my doubt.

I asked myself for a while, why? Why can't she eat enough to put her nipples into the baby's mouth for 18 hours a day? Intersection Am I really no milk?

After a while, I remembered what the book said. As long as persistence, the more children eat, the faster the milk.

In the evening when I repeatedly asked myself, I couldn't figure out that it was uneasy, guilty, and self -contradictions to me. It was more painful to me from the pain from my breasts.

Yes, delicate and tender they have never been treated so frequently and rudely.

Come to guide the feeding consultant, and the gestures are skillfully stuffed into the child's mouth in the fingers, and the plugged in several times a day is pulled out. Even the children's young and tender jaws still make me feel acupuncture. The same sharp pain.

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Compared with production pain, breastfeeding pain is even more painful.

The nipples were eaten, and the teeth were gritted, scabbing, bleeding, and scabbing ... Every bite of sucking seems to be torture.

During that time, once the child woke up and cried out of the sleep, I began to feel the tension on the chest. While breastfeeding, I even left a scar on my gentleman's calf, which was accidentally kicking when I stomped the most when I was the most painful.

The difficulty of counting the entire breastfeeding period. In addition to opening milk, the hard work of lactating night milk and the problem of insufficient milk are Kan'er; let alone encounter rising milk, blocking milk, mastitis ...

In recent years, more and more mothers have chosen to talk about their breastfeeding pain, so that this once hidden topic has been paid attention to.

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No matter what the child is

Breast milk must be carried

Every time I survive the physiological barrier, each can be said to be a hero.

However, this is just the beginning.

The following persistence rely on confidence in breast milk. Those who affect confidence are often the most close, authoritative, and most trusted elders around novice mothers.

Because of the incomprehension of the elders, there are countless examples of breast milk resistance. A friend said to me that because I had less milk, I was often weaned by my mother -in -law, always saying that the baby could not eat enough; as soon as I heard the child crying, I wanted to feed the child.

Six months ago, the child needed pure breast milk. Mom became a container and a back pot man:

The child cried because the mother's milk was not enough;

The child has a long rash, it is a problem of mother milk;

The child's stool is hard, it is a mother's milk problem;

The child's stool is too thin, it is a problem of mother milk;

The child has more stools, yellow, and black, it's all the mother’s milk problem ...

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Six months later, it would be better to add supplementary food? Sorry, not eating supplementary food is your feeding and affecting their taste. Eating too much supplementary food just proves that your milk is not enough. Anyway, breast milk is still a pot man;

In addition, no matter what time, you are not you, just a human -shaped bottle, not to mention that eating and drinking needs to be restricted, making hair, beauty, and makeup nails? Do not let ...

Want to feed breast milk until two years old according to the World Health Organization's suggestion? You need to fight against your family.

Want to not change fat and don't eat elbow, don't drink catfish soup? You need to fight against your family.

What do you want to eat as you want? No, you still need to fight with your family.

The family is not a battlefield. There are too many things that are raising a baby. No for novice mothers need a tight, bumpy family atmosphere. In addition to the many discomforts brought about by physiological changes, the new mother must also face it. Emotional fluctuations brought by hormone changes.

At this time, support and encouragement are obviously more helpful to her and help her children than doubt and accusations. Adhering to breastfeeding, it is far from the efforts of mothers and children. The closest and closest family members should give breast milk mothers, not obstacles.

External and social discrimination

Make breastfeeding difficult to add difficulty

After experiencing the torture of her own breastfeeding, after the intimate family hindered, the breast milk mother who returned to the workplace from the family would also face more difficult dilemma.

Chen Ming, who said Qi Qi, once described the daily life of sucking the mother -in -law:

Once every two hours, my mother is going to suck milk. Mom held a milk storage box with her left hand and a breast pump in her right hand to find a place. Where do you know where your mother can go? She was looking for a safe, she had to find a warm, clean environment for her to suck her milk.

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If you ask your mothers, where do you find milk when you go to work?

The answers are sour and sad, without a little thick -skinned spirit, I really can't stick to it:

Toilet compartment;

In the conference room, block the door with a chair;

Under the desk of the station;

Cleaning Auntie's rest ...

In order not to affect my colleagues to get things, I even escaped behind the curtains between the debris, looking outside the building, listening to the crickets that my colleagues came in and out of milk ...

Some mothers were dismissed by realistic difficulties and chose to give up breast milk when they returned to the workplace.

Tune the alarm clock at work and milk at colleagues; after get off work, you no longer think about which net red restaurant to check in, but thinking about how to take a car home to feed the baby as soon as possible; it doesn't matter if you do not bring your mobile phone with your mobile phone, you must not forget your milk; you must not forget it; The company can have no air conditioning, but there must be a refrigerator, otherwise there is no way to save milk ... and once you need a business trip, mothers are even more worried.

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Can mothers who do not need to go to work can be easily and happy?

No, if the city in your life does not have enough maternal and infant rooms or private space for breastfeeding, then you will be softened, or you can endure the vision of passers -by: mothers who feed in public are often sneaked by passers -by. It was even exposed online.

There were news reports that a young mother was sneaked by an old man while breastfeeding on the bus. After the old man sneaked, he sent three or four WeChat groups to conduct online ridicule.

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A mother and infant room will not take up too much space. A long time ago, there have been activities such as maternal love in one square meter, and encouraging the institution to leave a private public space for breastfeeding mothers to support breastfeeding mothers. However, the number of domestic mother cities is not optimistic.

In 2019, the First Finance and Economics has released the "White Paper in the Maternal and Baby Room of China". The data show that the five cities with the most distributed mothers and infants in China are Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou, Hangzhou, and Shenzhen. On average, a mother and baby room requires 578 newborns.

This situation is increasingly improved. According to the China News Network, in the middle of 2022, more than 1,300 maternal and infant rooms were built in the city of Guangzhou. Guangzhou became the first in the country. City.

Hope every breast milk mother

Can have your own

Breast milk support system

Breastfeeding is the most natural and perfect method of feeding for almost all babies. Breastfeeding has great benefits to babies and mothers.

As a mammalian, human mother has the instinct of breastfeeding, but why is it so difficult to stick to it?

This is because breastfeeding is not a matter of mother alone. At the moment when she is physiological and psychologically, she needs the preparation of knowledge and the support of her family and social relationships. Although breastfeeding should be a personal decision of mothers, but without the support of family and society, the mother's decision is often difficult to tilt in the front direction.

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The family has more understanding and support for breast milk mothers, actively studying the correct knowledge of breast milk, and sharing the work of feeding babies for breast milk mothers; society provides more hardware support for novice parents.

Medical workers provide more breastfeeding science education and method support for mothers and families; every ordinary person, when encountering breast milk mothers, try to retain their privacy space for them.

The mother who can insist on breastfeeding is a hero. Breast milk is sad, but Guan Guan has to break through hard and bravely. Regardless of whether men, women, and children, whether they are married and childcare, they can become another hero who supports heroes.

Experts in this article

Chen Yun

Cooperative expert

Master of epidemic and hygiene statistics

Liu Suxia

Review expert

Deputy Chief Physician of the Overcare Physician of the First Hospital of Lanzhou University

Plan

Planning: Luna

Capture: moon cake, Lin Yiyi

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