The highest state of speaking

The Petroleum King Rockefeller said a word:

"If communication is the same product, I am willing to pay for the price higher than anything to buy."

Those who do not communicate always build a wall for themselves.

And a speaking mouth often allows us to have good luck and fish in life.

Speaking is instinct, but speaking is a compulsory course that requires continuous learning.

Those who really speak, know how to control my opening, and grasp the level of words.

Bad words to say

"Historical Records" records a story.

King Chuzhuang died of illness because of illness. In order to mourn, he decided to bury the horse with the gift of the doctor.

This move was strongly opposed by the courtiers and believed that Yu was not in line.

Many ministers were dead, but King Chuzhuang still insisted on his thoughts.

While the ministers shook their heads and sighing, the servant ministers You Meng suddenly cried.

King Chuzhuang was taken aback and asked him what he cried.

You Meng wiped his tears and said:

"What's the matter with the great country of Chubang in the Tang Dynasty? The king buried the love of the horse with the doctor, not only not excessive, but also despised.

"I invite the king to bury them with the ceremony of the monarch, so that the princes will also know the great mighty of the great Chu."

The ministers heard the words of You Meng, and they suddenly uproar.

King Chuzhuang was silent, and for a long time, he said: "I did not think about it.

You Meng is familiar with the temperament of King Chuzhuang, knowing that strong words and hardships will only be counterproductive.

So follow his intentions, subtlely advised him, and really worked.

Zeng Guofan said: "persuading people not to point it, they must be beautiful first; people are happy, and their language is easy to enter, and anger is difficult to enter."

When communicating with others, if the wording is too straightforward, it is easy to cause the opponent's resentment, and even cause argument and conflict.

On the contrary, the words are more gentle, and the other person is happy, and it is easier to hear the opinions.

Those uncomfortable words, might as well say euphemistically.

Make others feel comfortable, and make yourself more at ease.

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Say ruthlessly

American psychologist Marshall said:

"Maybe we don't think our way of conversation is violent, but the language does often cause the pain of ourselves and others."

Netizen@Jiang Dongliu shared his experience of going to school when he was young.

When he was a child, his father was very strict with him, and the education method was simple and rude.

If the exam is failed or accidentally made a mistake, it is a scolding to him.

"If you don't have the same time, I will never spare you lightly!" "Dare to do this next time, you go out."

Whenever he was approved by his father, he was particularly envious of his neighbor Xiaojie.

Xiaojie's grades are unstable, but even if the test is bad, his father can always hold back.

His father often said: "You let your dad disappointed more than once, and you must work hard next time."

In the end, Jiang Dongliu was unhappy because of his father's severe blame, he did not concentrate on class, and his grades did not improve.

And Xiaojie, because there is no burden in her heart, the results have improved quickly.

When you encounter something, just say ruthlessly, you can only pull others into the emotional ice cellar, leaving a shadow in his heart.

The soft words are like spring and rain, which is easier to accept.

I have a cousin who joined a primary school last year. Because she had just arrived in the new environment, she was not very suitable. She scored very low in a display class.

After class, she was called to the principal's office.

Originally prepared for approval, I did not expect that the principal only said such a word:

"Teacher Li, at present, parents may not be assured of putting their children in your class. You have to make changes as soon as possible."

The gentle persuasion of the principal not only let the cousin relax, but also made her truly unload the baggage and concentrated on improvement. Soon she won the first name.

Xunzi said: "Good words with others, warming up fabric; hurting others, deep than the spear halberd."

The words of words, gimba with sticks in words often cause people to heal wounds that are difficult to heal.

In the Wenxian language, it can melt the iceberg between people with Rou Kegang.

Speaking softly is not deliberately pleased, but to take others in heart and be considerate everywhere.

Leave three points of softness, and people leave seven points warm.

When opening, the speech speed slowly slows down, the tone is mild as mild, and it is naturally smoother to communicate with people.

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Novel

There is a saying: "Pride is the beginning of failure, and arrogance is the end of wisdom."

If a person is too overestimated, he is destined to lose.

In a certain issue of "You Are You", a job seeker named Yang Xingxiang made a strong words as soon as he came on the court.

He threatened that he was a business wizard, and was willing to help entrepreneurs with wisdom to become famous, and put forward the conditions of 90,000 a monthly salary.

But when entrepreneurs asked his past achievements, he could not come up with a successful case.

Faced with the questioning of Mu Yan, the co -founder of Lily.com, instead of explaining, he said to give the other party a lesson.

As a result, when the first round of voting, the entrepreneurs present all destroyed the lights and eliminated him on the spot.

Lao Tzu said, "Elephant invisible, big sound."

The higher the tone, the more there will be too much interest; the truly powerful person has never had a big voice.

Confucius told a story.

Lu State had a general called Meng Zhi. When the army defeated, he took the initiative to lead his subordinates to resist the enemy's pursuit.

After returning to the city safely, everyone praised him, but he replied: "It's not my brave, it is really my horse refused to leave." Meng Zhi's heroic is obvious to all, but he did not have high toe because of this can.

On the contrary, he has been humble and has no contributions, so people admire him more.

Zeng Guofan has a famous saying: "Don't say big words, do not have a name, do not do overhead, and do not talk too much."

The real strong will never talk about it and brag about themselves, but constantly improve themselves in the low -key.

Walking in the world, looking at yourself, and finding your position.

See yourself small and make things bigger to continuously increase the width and breadth of life.

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Eagerly speaking

The ancients said: "The deep water is slow, and the person is expensive."

Speaking is too urgent, and often given right and wrong for no reason; the slow -moving opening is a good recipe for resolving contradictions and maintaining relationships.

A few years ago, I worked in an advertising company and had argued with a colleague due to work.

At that time, we were responsible for making the first phase of product advertisements. I was responsible for the preliminary coordination and copywriting script. He was responsible for shooting and editing.

But during the shooting, we had argument in many scenarios and composition design.

Once I was in a hurry, I said in front of the entire team: "You have clearly communicated before, can you cooperate, you can change it!"

Suddenly, the scene was froze. The colleague not only refused to dock with me again, but also alienated to me privately.

Although at that time, it was because of the fact that the work had not achieved the expected effect, and my heart was anxious, but such a embarrassing way of speaking not only did not solve the problem, but also caused me to lose a partner of fighting side by side.

Since then, I know how to spend it in my mind before speaking, peel off the emotions and then speak.

I really agree with Senka's words: "The best way to treat anger is waiting."

When people are impatient, the easier it is to say some impulse.

When we are emotionally unstable, when we reach our mouths and wait for a while, things may have different results.

In history, the Langya Wang family is a well -known giants.

From the Western Han Dynasty to the Qing Dynasty, there were 36 queens in the Langya Wang family, 36 horses, and countless people with worshipers.

Unexpectedly, the Langya Wang family is so prosperous, and all the six -character home training is based on a six -character family training:

Slow words should be slow, heart should be good.

As Zeng Guofan said: "Slow words, and if the behavior is heavy, the morality is moving."

It is easy to fall to the ground when walking too quickly.

Communicate with others and leave a little silent time for yourself.

Keeping the person in a person, say something slowly, leave room for thinking, and leave each other decent.

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Writer Wang Meng once said, "Is a person level?

The words of speaking are not a simple Chinese character combination, but a person's inner emotions and the revealing of human realm.

Be a speaking person, not only with his mouth, but also attentive.

Speaking a lot, it is better to say; right, better than to say.

Pay attention to "readers", speak well, warm others, and achieve yourself.

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