Dad helped my mother to wash sleeping and crying, crying 1 year old, experts talked about the child's "love" behavior

China Youth Network, Beijing, August 1st (Reporter Li Huaxi) According to media reports, recently, in Hefei, Anhui, one -year -old Mengwa cried because his father put his mother's pajamas. Video publishers said that they often wore this pajamas to accompany the baby before going to work. After work, the baby could not find a mother and started holding this pajamas. That day, my father wanted to wash it when he saw the weather. Essence

The behavior of children in the news is "love" behavior, and most of them appear on children from June to 3 years old. So, what is "love" behavior? Why do children have "love" behavior? What are the performances of children's "love" behavior? What should parents do in the face of children's "love" behavior? Cui Yutao, a reporter from China Youth Network interviewed the parenting expert and executive director of the Beijing Family Education Research Association, answered questions for his parents.

Mom's clothes are a common athlete for children. Parents do not need to be a fuss.

Cui Yutao was engaged in parenting work all year round. He analyzed that in the news, the child's mother's pajamas have the taste of the mother, so when the mother is not at home, the child will attach it to this dress. Let the child feel that the mother is around, the child will feel that he is safe. This is a common "love" behavior. "We have also seen some big children. If the family washed the soothing object, the child would cry with the family, saying that the taste changed after washing."

In the face of the child's "love" behavior, Cui Yutao suggested that parents do not have to make a fuss. If the child is not an addiction to the mother's pajamas, you don't need to pay too much attention or interfere, especially don't scold and criticize the child. "If the parents' reaction is too excited, it will intensify the child's" love "behavior. Some children even hide the soothing objects.

He said that children live with their parents and other family members during infants and young children. The family's care and care for their children, and parents' unconditional love for their children will make children feel sufficient in inner security. This sense of security is that the child is in the future. Being able to live independence, learn independence, and independent personality step by step.

Cui Yutao reminded the majority of their families that the behavior of "love" is a common behavior of infants and young children. Parents can record with mobile phones to record videos. They may feel interesting and publish to everyone. "But be careful not to laugh at the children because of this, and say that some‘ not big ’and‘ Mom Baonan ’is not good.” This is not good. "

What is "love" behavior? Why do children have "love" behavior?

Cui Yutao said that "love" is a manifestation of a slow transition from an attachment to an independent transition, which is usually a manifestation of lack of sense of security or reduction. The general "love" behavior is also a common manifestation in life. Most of them are normal. Generally, they will not have adverse effects on children's psychology, personality, emotion, and behavior. "But there are indeed some behaviors that will develop into quirks. This kind of" love "addiction will imply the problem of serious lack of security."

For example, he said that children's common "love" behaviors such as hugging and twisting mother's clothes, pillow towels, small quilts, etc., like a fixed doll, family's body, etc.

What are the performances of children's "love" behavior?

"Most children may appear more or less during the age of June to 3 years old." Cui Yutao said, if the mother is not at home, the child must smell her mother's clothes when she sleeps, covering her clothes and covering her clothes and covers her clothes and covers her clothes and covers her clothes and covers her clothes. A fixed small blanket, hug a fixed plush toy.

Cui Yutao has been in contact with some individual cases. Some children will continue a "love" behavior after entering the collective life of kindergarten. He analyzed that because he left his parents to enter a collective life for the first time, the child would ask for a toy or doll in the family to accompany himself to the kindergarten, and even if he did not let him bring the ancestor, he would not go to the kindergarten. "Some kindergartens are also allowed, so that children can hug while sleeping at noon to play a role in soothing."

What should parents do for children's "love" behavior?

Cui Yutao suggested that when parents find that their children show special love and attachment behaviors about a certain item or toy. First of all, do not make great fuss, let alone reprimand, criticize the child, and rebuke the child "willful". Family people should understand that this is a normal phenomenon in the process of growth, especially psychological growth.

It is normal for children to eat and play in life and interpersonal communication, but when they are going to sleep or go out, they like to bring a fixed item and doll. By the way.

"However, if parents find that their children show their extremely strong attachment to a soothing object, when they are addicted to" addiction ", even when they leave this thing, they will not eat, cry and make trouble, or have a normal life. To pay attention to, some response methods need to be taken to help children change this situation. "Cui Yutao said.

Cui Yutao reminded that the child's "love" behavior is related to the establishment of the sense of security in his heart, and the attachment behavior corresponds to the reduction or lack of the child's inner sense of security.When the child shows an extremely strong "love" behavior, it shows that the child's sense of security is seriously lacking or destroyed. At this time, the parents must reflect on where the problem is, find the problem and solve the problem.Touching, living care, and unconditional love can allow children to build a sense of inner security, and also allow children to slowly reduce the demand for the soothing objects. In addition, try to reduce the opportunity to make children feel uneasy, afraid, and nervous.For example, the dark room, alone, etc. "Cui Yutao said.

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