The best way to live after 40 is these three sentences

What is the 40 -year -old life in your eyes? People often use 40 years of age as a division point in the upper and second half.

At this time, your life seems to have been set, there are stable jobs and families, but you are not willing to go on;

At this time, you look far away from the end of life, but your physical and mental spirit does not allow you to do whatever you want when you are young;

At this time, you are busy every day, and you ca n’t finish doing it, but you feel that you ca n’t get up and encounter a bottleneck everywhere ...

Japanese writer Matsuura Matsuya, who plans to retire at the age of 50, enjoy life, study at university, and make up for the regret of not entering the university when he was young.

But when he saw an aging parents, his thoughts suddenly changed.

Matsuura Mataro's parents are not prepared for the elderly life. Many times they have to take care of their children. They are often at a loss. What they say the most with their son is: "Sorry, let you work hard."

As a son, Matsuura Mataro felt that it was natural to be filial to his parents, but in the minds of his parents, he felt deeply guilty.

He found that some elderly people rely on others and accept the kindness of others in their later years. Even if they were their children, they were very hard.

And the same is true of himself. One day he was old. If he rely on his daughter, he would feel guilty; if you rely on society, he would feel uneasy in order to increase the burden on young people.

In order to make his life open and valuable in the second half of his life, he imagined that his 70 -year -old was also the pinnacle of life. At that time, he should be healthy, can take care of himself, and optimistic. "".

If you want to reach such a peak, you must use the 40 -year -old as a new starting point, change the mentality, start again, and step by step towards the glorious 70 -year -old.

How does life after the age of 40 be more meaningful?

Matsuura Mataro gave three answers in the book "Give 40 -year -old New Start" with his own experience.

Matsuura Mataro ｜ Hubei Science and Technology Publishing House

"Looking back at the past, sorting out the past experience, and re -understanding yourself; cultivating gratitude through gratitude people and things around you, learning to let go of everything, starting from scratch."

Life is decades, and the real important choice often has only a few times.

For you, which year did you make a choice that affects your life?

Find a piece of paper, draw a line, starting from the age of 20, to your current age.

Every year, think about where you were, what you did, who met, and who met, and filled out what you could think of in the painting.

Maybe 20 years old, you have been away from your hometown for the first time, and you have met a good friend who has been in dating for decades. At the age of 23, you find the first job in life ...

When writing, you can find that some years can think of a lot of things, and some years are blank.

By sorting out the annual table, you will find more sense of security and confidence, no longer questioning what you do, and living too much.

On the other hand, you will also think of those who have helped themselves, whether they are parents, friends, or strangers who meet. These warm memories will help you become people who know how to be grateful and returned.

Next, you can find the "thank you list", "apology list" and so on in this year's watch. In these lists, you will see what is important to yourself and what you need to let go.

When we can objectively treat and accept our current ourselves, we are prepared for the restart of the second half of our lives.

"Standing at the moment, live better every day; find your own priceless treasure and strive to improve yourself."

In the past two years, many people put "living in the present" on their mouths. How can I live in the present? The book proposes three points.

The first is to abandon negative ideas and give yourself positive psychological hints, such as "I don't do such a thing", "I don't know", "I am very satisfied now."

When people reach middle age, we all have a set of their own ways and preferences. When we encounter what we do n’t want to do, we say “I do n’t do this”. Once you are addicted, it is equivalent to restricting ourselves in a fixed framework. It is difficult to enrich the passage to improve your passage.

A person becomes old and starts with the idea of ​​cutting off learning.

The second is to reduce the bag and find out the real important thing.

Anyone who moved home knows that the most painful thing to move is not moving, but the packaging before moving. Even if you don't think there are many things, you will find a lot of things that are usually not used at all.

The same is true of life. If the first half of my life is constantly requesting out, I have to try everything, and I have to have everything. Then the second half of life is explored inward to find out what is really valuable.

You can list what you need and do not need to reduce the tangible things in life;

You can also "reduce the burden" in spirit, such as discarding some seemingly important interpersonal relationships.

Whether it is material or spiritual, reduce unnecessary hoarding, and find truly valuable things, can you live happily and live yourself.

The third is to work hard to cultivate the atmosphere and become a better self.

Due to the different birth and growth environment of everyone, one person's starting line may be the finish line that one can reach through the life.

Although the starting point of life cannot be changed, we can become elegant and wise through cultivation of the atmosphere.

To do this, you must first understand your ability and know what you are good at. Do what you can do well within the scope of ability, and slowly learn what you can't do temporarily. At the same time, be friends with better people and continue to improve themselves.

"Looking at the future, planning the life of the next 30 years, so that 70 years old can also be the pinnacle of life."

The author believes that the age of 40 to 70 is a stage from middle age to old age. If there is no plan, the day will be counted one day, and the 30 years will pass.

At that time, I regret not doing what I want to do, and the person who wants to see is meaningless.

If you want to reach another peak at the age of 70, you need to formulate a plan in advance to transform the future of nothingness into things that need to be completed.

Just like reviewing the past, we can do a planning form for the next 30 years, divide 30 years into several time periods, think about what we must do and what we want to do, and then fill in the corresponding years.

For example, in a stage of 10 years, what is going to do between the age of 40 and 50, what to do at the age of 50 to 60, and what to do at the age of 60 to 70.

This can provide yourself with clear goals, improve the sense of control of life, and reduce the emotions of anxiety and fear.

At this stage, there are three things that cannot be ignored. One is to work hard to save money and spend money on the blade.

Think about what expenditures are 40, 50, and 60 years old, and then consider how to throw out now and reduce expenditure as much as possible. Want to save enough pensions.

The second is to think about how we will care for our parents when taking care of our parents, so that we have a psychological preparation for the various situations that may occur in the future, and make plans in advance.

The third is to be a useful person and think about how to do more happy things.

The philosopher Martin Heidegger once proposed the philosophical concept of "born to death". He believes that death is unavoidable. Every year, every day, and every hour we live towards death, but Using the countdown method, the concept of "death" is used to stimulate our inner desire to "live", and life can erupt vitality.

The 40 -year -old is the beginning of "born to death".

In "Life of Qi", the host Aya lamented her age, and she has changed from a jumping little girl to a forty -year -old person. Twenty years old. "

In fact, no matter what stage of life, if we can regularly examine our own living conditions and understand what is the most important thing at the moment, we will not fall into confusion and lose their direction.

Whenever and wherever, actively embrace life and plan the future carefully, whether it is 20 years old, 40, or 70 years old, is the best age at the moment.

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