"Don't get married, it is to protect my love."

Sayings:

Is it a good ending if you don't get married for a lifetime?

This question, I want to answer with a lady's experience.

She is Jane Austen. On July 18 last week, she was the 205th anniversary of her death.

You must have heard of the story she wrote, "Aviation and prejudice", "Law and Emotion", "Emma".

She lived 200 years ago, and the life of women at that time was almost only out of the way to get married.

But Jane Austen was not married, and she supported herself in the way of writing novels.

Since 200 years, her influence has continued to spread: her novel has been remaked by countless versions;

Her novels are all love stories, and the protagonists in the story have also entered a happy marriage.

But her 42 -year life did not choose the kind of life that most women would choose at that time.

Instead, it is a life that is more independent and pioneer, but it is also obviously more "courageous".

I can't help but imagine how she will tell her own story if Jane Austen has a column today.

What will be answered?

What kind of life should women go to?

heard about it,

Some people say that my story is "the storm in the tea cup".

Because they are all the storytelling stories of drinking tea and chatting,

It's nothing more than a ball, social, and hexagram,

And find a suitable man to get married.

The regent king at the time liked my novels,

I hope the title page of my next novel is written "Dedicated to the Regent King".

But he also suggested me,

Write some "patterns".

I understand, but I really like to write a small story.

Although the world at that time was in the French Revolution,

But I have lived in the countryside all my life.

it's here,

A ball that cannot be held as scheduled,

A date that cannot go to the appointment on time,

It is much more important than the French Revolution.

I wrote to the regent:

"I don't write a legend.

I think I must maintain my style,

Continue to take your own way. "

My father is a priest who graduated from Oxford,

There are also many collections at home.

I have been addicted to it since I was 11 years old.

In order to encourage me, my father

I also bought me a mahogany writing table.

At the age of 16,

One of my aunt married India for money,

But it was not happy.

I was sad, so I wrote it.

Actually I just want to ask a question:

"Do you marry for money,

Eventually losing a happy life,

Is it worth it? "

You also know about it later, I am not married.

So I must write and support myself.

Yes, the era of my life,

Marriage is a woman's job.

My sister and I have to learn all kinds of talents since childhood,

Music, dancing, painting, knitted,

But not to be talented.

Just to "marry".

Marriage is the only way we get money.

I wrote in the first sentence of "Pride and prejudice":

"Rich single Han always wants to marry a wife,

This is a recognized truth in the world. "

And ladies without money,

Must find a rich single Han as a husband,

This is even more truth.

Naturally, it is very big.

My father's family is average,

Mother's birth celebrities are marrying for love.

After marriage, life is simple,

Mom complained countless times his marriage,

And emphasized with me over and over again,

Money is more important than love.

When I was 25 years old, my father retired,

Take our family to Bath.

There is only one thing when we get there,

Prom.

I only understand this time,

My parents want to make me socially and get married earlier.

Mom asked me over and over again:

"You would rather be a poor old virgin,

Are you despised and become a laughing stock of others?

Love is fascinating,

But money is indispensable anyway. "

My father will also urge me, but it is not so tough:

"Anything, such as poverty,

Nothing can be given to the spirit. "

Think of it.

I promised to propose once, the other party's name is Harris,

He is a distant brother who has just completed Oxford's studies.

He has no charm, he looks bulky and can't speak.

But he is the heir of the family real estate,

Marrying him is practical.

I was 27 years old and was a "old girl".

I write "Pride and Prejudice",

A friend of the heroine Elizabeth,

At the age of 27,

Marry to marry Elizabeth's boring and rigid cousin:

"I'm 27 years old,

I can't have that kind of love's dream anymore. "

But I still can't do it myself,

I regret the next day I promised the proposal.

Many years later,

My niece asked me to consult with marriage trouble,

I wrote in the letter:

"Unless you really like him,

Otherwise, don't consider accepting his proposal.

Everything is better than a marriage without emotion,

Can be endured. "

Yes, when I get older, I am older,

I wrote "Emma".

I let her have a life that does not need to work hard:

She has everything,

Beauty, wisdom, property, and status.

"I don't want to get married.

I believe,

Married women did not do it like me at home.

I can’t expect any man like my father,

Love me, pay attention to me, always put me first,

I think I am correct. "

Some people laughed at Emma to become veterans.

But Emma said:

"Only poverty makes the single be shameful."

There are naturally many small problems such a girl.

Extraordinary, aggressive, and love to play with little cleverness.

I felt that no one would like her except I would like her,

But many people like it.

Perhaps it was because she proved one thing:

When a woman has the conditions to master her destiny,

She does not need to get married.

Yes, not for money,

It's not for the status,

I let Ema make a lot of mistakes,

After some setbacks,

But finally met a man who could understand her.

I like the characters in my pen to experience suffering,

But in the end there can be a complete ending,

You can get happiness.

Perhaps I used to have a chance to have it.

At the age of 17,

I met my first love, Loheroy,

A Legal student in Ireland.

We dance, talk about our hearts at the dance,

There are even plans to elope.

But I finally gave up.

He supports his grandfather's economic support to study,

And I don't have a generous family.

Money is not necessary,

But there is no money, in the face of the pressure of survival,

No matter how happy the love will become a day after day,

Then be destroyed.

I don't want to face these,

So I gave up this relationship.

I heard his name again after many years,

He has become Ireland's famous Justice.

And I also published my own novel,

And let you remember me more than 200 years.

Writing: Turala

Design: Kuizi

Editor: Ding Ding

*This article is adapted from Jane Austin's novel and letter collection.

Late prayer time:

"Cereism is for poverty,

There is always a terrible fear.

This is also the most powerful reason for people to agree with marriage. "

--Jane Austin

"anything,

Nothing can be given to the spirit. "

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