Cultivate a conscious child, you have to learn to use these 6 psychological rules, the effect is immediate!

The premise of self -discipline is a healthy and powerful heart. If you want to cultivate a conscious and happy child, these six rules of raising baby are worth collecting! ——Suro Kai's book source ｜ Uncle Kai tells stories

Text ｜ Ren Pingsheng

Some parents complained to me:

There is no consciousness at home in the summer vacation at home,

Just waiting for school, someone in the mixed demon king at home took over.

Many parents will be confused,

How to do during the summer vacation,

Help children build a good regular schedule,

Develop good living habits and study habits.

These 6 rules of nourishment,

Including children's security, learning management, emotional health and other aspects, help you unlock your child's growth password.

Rest up a child with a happy and confident and self -discipline.

Know how to "follow" the sense of security of changing children's life

"Why do children go to kindergarten?" "What should I do if my child is afraid of being dark?"

In fact, the sense of security of each child is established by the "timely response" of the parents.

When the child is still very young,

You can only judge whether you have enough love from the reactions of the people around you.

It is enough to have a sense of security to make more energy to do more.

Parents do these 4 points, and the sense of security will accompany the child's life.

1. The stability of the supporter and the growth environment.

If the child is relatively small,

Try to be brought by a fixed supporter, it is best to bring your parents in person, and do not frequently replace the supporter.

2. The emotional attention of the supporter.

When communicating with children, pay attention to body language.

Don't talk to others and play mobile phones, playing mobile phones,

While perfunctory him, it would make him feel ignored.

When saying "good night" with the child, you may wish to add a sentence "Mom loves you".

In addition, if "what's wrong, baby? Mom is here, mother loves you", it is not too much to say.

Parents' love will allow children to plant the seeds of "stable objects" in their hearts.

3. Stability and harmony of husband and wife relationship.

If you feel the negative emotions of your parents for a long time, it will form a catastrophic thinking:

Think that the world is full of restlessness, everything will develop to the worst.

The child only feels stable, safe and harmonious,

In order to have the courage to really go to a larger world.

4. Proper emotional problems.

Whether the child is crying or shows fragility,

Don't push him away from his parents,

When the child is still young, he will not soothe himself. As long as you feel anxious, you will be irritable and crying.

Moms need to help him calm down:

Hold up, comfort him, help him relax, and understand how to inquire about the children's current emotions,

Putting it step by step.

In the future, she will know how to comfort himself.

Learn to let Dad get involved

Only children can learn to explore out

Father's company,

It should run through the child's childhood.

A study in the United States shows:

Dads chat and read with their children, reading, reading,

There are few behavioral problems and learning disabilities after children enter school.

Adolescence also rarely goes astray.

Because of the leadership of my father, the child began to interested in the surrounding world.

Get self -confidence, develop creativity, and explore out.

1. Father played with the child to stimulate the potential of the child's brain. Father's sense of power, sense of space, game ability,

More suitable for children to exercise.

And children who know how to "play" are better at innovation,

Child who grew up in a state of "playing well",

Not dislated, nor migrated, and full of vitality.

2. The appearance of his father helps children and mothers separate psychologically.

Most children are more close to mothers,

The appearance of my father,

It is helpful to leave from the dual relationship,

Establish support for outward development,

Form an independent and complete personality.

3. Dad explores more healthily.

Men's rationality and logic point to order, and the majesty and order of order represented by men,

It is also easy to help children build various rules.

Therefore, Dad's intervention can help the children more healthy and reasonable to explore.

Dare to "slow down" children can have good habits

Raising children is like holding a snail to take a walk,

It is a process that requires a lot of patience,

Excessive anxiety, too much urging,

Only the rhythm of children's growth,

Smart parents,

They all have the courage to "slowly".

1. Create a timetable with children.

Use alarm clock, watch and other tools to "visualize" time, when to get up, when to eat,

When do you play toys and read books, enhance your child's purpose of doing things, and try to ensure the regular schedule.

2. Proper children to experience the natural consequences of rubbing.

When he loses the opportunity to do something because he is rubbing, he will naturally understand that he should increase the speed.

3. Use the "order -sensitive period" to establish a good habit.

I told the child to put the toy back to the original place,

The things used should be classified and put well,

Use children's strict needs for order to cultivate children's good habits. 4. Simply arrange tasks for children.

Because the child's memory and understanding are still poor, when you issue a series of instructions, such as "wiping the table, packing up the schoolbag, wearing shoes, and going out quickly", the child's first reaction is not "I want to hurry up", but "I want to hurry up", but " Which one do I do? "

Therefore, the instructions must be clarified.

Tell your children these 4 words, children know how to make friends

Make friends is a very important theme in the life of children,

They will learn how to cherish themselves in group life,

It also respects others.

Some children will encounter setbacks in the process of making friends,

For example, fear of others will not play with themselves, or excessive compatibility in the relationship.

At this time, the parents' approach is very tested.

1. If the child feels wronged, teach the child to know how to choose.

Tell your child: You can choose friends.

If the relationship is unfair, that kind of friend can give up.

Children will understand:

Friendship is two -way, others have the power not to play with you, you also have the power to refuse the request of others.

2. If the child is unwilling to go out to make friends, it is necessary to judge whether the child is "isolated".

Evaluate whether the child lacks his due social skills.

If the child is isolated,

Parents must tell their children clearly:

If others deliberately isolate you and exclude you, no matter what the "reason" is, he must be wrong, and his mother will always stand on your side.

3. Teach children to take the initiative.

Provide children with a wide range of opportunities to participate in group activities,

If the condition allows, the friends who are invited to the child to the house, or encourage the child to attend a party,

And tell the child:

If you like a little friend, you can bravely invite the other party to play with his own house.

4. Tell your child to be strong to gain good friendship.

It is difficult for a 50 -point person to become friends with 90 points.

Must tell the child:

Only by enriching yourself can you truly attract others.

Master these 4 techniques,

Cultivate children who are learning well

"The first and second grades are not comparable, and the third grade begins to differentiate, and the gap between the fourth and fifth grades is large."

In the education community, the "third grade phenomenon" is famous.

Different from the "temporary sprint" in the first and second grades,

The third grade puts forward higher requirements for children's ability.

When the child enters the senior grade,

I want children to make stable progress in learning,

Parents should remember these 4 points.

1. Fixed the goal a little bit.

Demolition of big goals into small targets,

Form a specific, completed small task.

For example: 10 words one day.

In this way, learning will become relatively simple, and children will not exclude. When the child completes the small goal again and again, parents remember to give the child a reward or encouragement, or let the child rest for 10-15 minutes.

Then gradually extend the time of one -time concentration. The brain feels happy to form a positive peak experience.

2. When you feel difficult to enter the state, you can learn with videos.

Although text is suitable for deep learning,

But videos composed of images and languages,

It is the most intuitive and closest to instinct.

3. Help children learn to draw thinking maps.

You can try to draw a mind map with your children, classify and summarize the content of the book, and comb the outline.

This allows children to understand the approximate knowledge framework or goal and quickly enter the learning state.

4. Learn to repeat the knowledge you learned every day.

Only when a child will express your knowledge in his own language,

Only to truly understand and internalize.

Develop "sports habits" to harvest a cheerful and lively child

Li Meijin had suggested: Don't let the child stay at home all day long, otherwise his brain is highly excited and the small brain will not be stimulated. If the brain nerves are not excited, psychological problems are prone to occur.

Helping children to develop exercise is very helpful for children's psychological state.

1. Children who love sports will win on "concentration". Studies have shown that 19,000 students abroad have to run in the morning before class. Compared with their peers, they are not only healthier, but also smarter. why? Because medium -intensity exercise can help children focus on attention, maintain abundant energy, and learn higher learning efficiency.

2. Children who love sports will have better psychological quality. Exercise is the replacement of muscle updates, and there will be various stumbling stumbling. The child's willpower will also be exercised. Moreover, after exercise, the level of serotonin, adrenaline and dopamine will change, which will help children release stress and maintain happiness.

To this end, Canadian scientists have formulated the "Parents Guide to Sports Development Development of Children 0-12":

Children under the age of 4 are not suitable for premature running and jumping, but they can go to the park and playground;

Children aged 4-6 need parents to demonstrate how to run, jump, and exercise in the teaching;

After the age of 6, it is the best time for children to cultivate sports specialties. Skiing, swimming, cycling, and playing balls are no longer a problem; 6-12 years old, under the role of parents' role models, children begin to form their own sports mode.

Learn to "motivate"

Get a self -confident child

Want to make your child confident enough,

Become a person with opinions,

Instead, the child is too sensible,

Support children to toss and try. Parents know how to "motivate",

Children can develop the courage and ability of independent thinking and expression.

1. Find a role model for children.

For children, the role of role models is unparalleled.

It can help girls know how to become a powerful, connotative woman; it can also help boys understand what they agree and support, what is the most concerned;

When the child finds his own interest and enthusiasm, he can better adapt to the future.2. Give children more understanding.When children express, they "judge" less.

Chatting with children is the most taboo.

Do your best to maintain a high interest in your child's topic,

Two points:

Ask more, less comments,

Say more "you", say less "I. I need more teaching, explanation, and more inquiries.

3. Observe and praise the children's efforts.Compared to the talented talent of boasting children, you need to exaggerate the patient's patience, perseverance and his efforts.

Share an praise model called FFC model, translated into Chinese three steps:

Facts+feel (Feeling)+compar.

The children's grades are poor, but there are always time to do the right question, you can say that: "You don't need to teach this question. You do it yourself. The mother is very pleased. Now the accuracy rate is much higher than before."Parents emphasize the meaning of the process so that children can really be enjoyed.

Source of this article ｜ Uncle Kai tells stories

Author of this article ｜ Ren Pingsheng

Image source ｜ Pixabay

Editor in charge ｜ Wang Jiashi

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