The bizarre suicide in the toilet of the famous school's female graduate students revealed the most unbearable side in the native family

Read Reading Jun Tongxia Dictionary has been launched 1940/2000 words

Today is the 3212 Day of Reading Jun with your life -long growth

01

"Forced" child

Writing this article is because of a word when a friend dinner.

At that time, everyone was drinking and drinking happily. Somehow, the topic pulled it on the native family.

As the saying goes, every family has a difficult scripture, and every family has more or less problems.

Everyone has grown up from a young age, and it is inevitable that some of the usual inexplicable grievances and pains are inevitably accumulated.

Today, I just spoke in pain through this wine. In a word, I can feel more comfortable after complaining.

When everyone said the same, when the lively rest, friends who had been silent said suddenly:

"My mother called me the day before yesterday. As long as she gave birth to me, she was great, so I had to listen to everything."

Suddenly, a thunder rang through the sky, and we suddenly looked at each other, and I wondered how to answer.

Friends ignored our silence, only frowned, raised their heads, and poured off a glass of white wine.

After a while, a male friend laughed and said, "Your mother is quite feudal."

"Yeah, yeah, it's a bit over," we have echoed, "But the old man speaks like that, don't go to your heart."

The friend laughed and said coldly, "No, she just wants to control my life, that is, I want to spend my life on my head for a lifetime!"

"Oh, how is this possible," another friend quickly stood up and said in a round field:

"You are all in your twenties, and you are not a three -year -old child. Who can do your Lord except yourself?"

"Yeah, everyone knows that I am almost thirty years old, and I know my life is myself." My friend put the wine glass down and continued:

"Then why can she continue to say this to an adult child ..."

Looking at the scarlet suddenly emerging from my friend's eyes, watching my friend controlled the trembling hands, I trembled my lips, but I couldn't speak a word. Any words seemed so pale at this moment.

Outside the window, the thunder sounded, and the lightning was one by one. My friend finally couldn't help covering his face and cried loudly: "How long will I have too long in this day! How long can I get rid of it!"

Cracking, the heavy rain suddenly poured down, the cry of the friend's pain was covered up.

With a cold wind blowing, I couldn't help but snoring, in the middle, as if I saw Yang Yuanyuan's shadow.

A girl who was "around the neck" by the umbilical cord at the age of 30.

02

The girl who was "suicide"

It was an old case more than ten years ago.

In a dormitory of Shanghai Maritime University in 2009, a female graduate committed suicide.

The way she chose suicide was extremely painful.

Tie the towels and pillow towels together, wrap it around the faucet of the hand -washing pool, and then face the faucet on their backs, and die with a half -squatting method.

The height of the washing table is generally about 0.8 meters, plus a tap of 0.2 meters high, but a distance of about 1 meter.

This also means that in the process of suicide, as long as she has a trace of survival or a trace of survival of her willingness to overwhelm suicide, then this tragedy can be avoided.

But no.

From the beginning to the end, the will of death has always suppressed Yang Yuanyuan's survival instinct until the death of death.

I can't imagine how much strength Yang Yuanyuan used to control the fear of not being died and stand up;

I don't know how strong Yang Yuanyuan has for death to force himself to give up his survival instinct in the case of blurring will.

But I think that the moment she decided to die, she must bear the pressure that ordinary people were unbearable.

Born in Hanmen, lost his father in his childhood, depended on each other with his mother and younger brother;

The college entrance examination is admitted to the prestigious university Wuhan University. After eight years of work, he was admitted to the graduate student of Shanghai Maritime University.

Looking at the education alone, I feel that this will be a good story of the cold gate, a counterattack of life.

But who could have thought that she had a prestigious school degree, but at the age of thirty, she encountered a dilemma of her career, her feelings, and her studies.

The root cause of all this is amazing.

03

The life of being "parasitic" by my mother

Examining Yang Yuanyuan's life, you will find that the role of mother runs through her life.

During the college entrance examination, Yang Yuanyuan's dream was to study in Dalian, but because his mother was too far away and the fare was too expensive, he changed to Wuhan University.

When studying, Yang Yuanyuan should have lived alone in the dormitory, but because his mother did not want to spend money to stay in the factory dormitory, she arranged for her mother to live in school with a small bed of 1.2 meters.

At work, Yang Yuanyuan was admitted to the civil servant twice, but because his mother was unbroken in a small place, she gave up her job.

Picture source: "Everyone's views"

During the postgraduate entrance examination, Yang Yuanyuan was admitted to a college graduate student in his mother Xinyi. He thought he started a new life, but because his mother insisted on living with her daughter, she became a tragedy.

It is conceivable that the mother and daughter will bring a lot of inconvenience to other students in the same dormitory, and it will naturally be required to move away from the school's regulations.

Since then, the mother and daughter have rolled away from many humble residences, and they were exhausted in their body and mind.

But at this point, her mother was still reluctant to let go of her daughter, insisting on eating and living with her daughter, and she was inseparable.

People can't help wondering, why is this? What's more, at this time, Yang Yuanyuan's mother's pension was 1,000 yuan per month, and her body was tough. In addition, the income income from the usual stalls could still maintain the basic needs of her life.

Moreover, Yang Yuanyuan's younger brother has been studying at Peking University with the support of his mother and sister, and has a long future.

He also mentioned that he wanted to pick up his mother to live together, but he was disappointed.

Obviously, it is not only the choice of living on her daughter, but Yang's mother is firmly parasitic like a vine on the little tree that has just grown up, turning it into the only possibility of "logical".

At the moment when the child’s umbilical cord was born, it was cut off by sharp scissors;

But the mother's psychological umbilical cord was like a huge traction line, tightly tied her life.

Obviously, only thirty years live, but the mother's control has never weakened because of the passage of time.

04

"Control" life

Chinese law stipulates that children's adults are 18 years old, which means that they can start independence.

But most of the parents, like Yang Yuanyuan's mother, always can't help but intervene in the life of their children again and again.

From the initial selection of universities, to the later choice of marriage, even the childcare and daughter will inevitably reach out.

I can't help asking, is this a child's life, or the life of the parents?

If this is the child's life, then parents, please let go and let the child go, no matter how many bumps, I believe that the child can handle it by himself.

If this is the life of parents, then parents, please stay in your hands and let your child live, no matter how much you have the idea of ​​"I am good for you", this will not be your life.

Written at the end:

My friend's mother is relatively strong and the desire to control is stronger.

I always like to intervene in my friends, what kind of daily necessities to buy, who is in love with who is in love, and where to work.

My friend is not the kind of blind obedience to his parents. She has an extraordinary personality and will not go against it. Therefore, when her mother is doing too much, she will fight for reason, and naturally no quarrel.

At the beginning, after my friend quarreled with her mother, a word that her mother left:

"As long as I give birth to you, I am great. You have to listen to me everything, otherwise you will not be filial, you will be reimbursed, and the sky is thunderous."

I really can't imagine what her mother said such a position to an adult daughter.

I can only sigh, the so -called filial piety is always so extreme in the eyes of some people.

- END -