Movie "Mozart in Outer Space": Thinking about parent -child education 丨 Conflict

His father Ren Dawang wanted his son Ren Xiaotian to be a pianist like Lang Lang, but Ren Xiaotian liked to look up at the starry sky and dream of becoming astronomers. "Mozart of Outer Space" is a thoughtful fantasy movie based on such contradictions and conflicts.

Parent -child relationships, different issues of world outlook, outlook on life, and values ​​between parents and children are the common topics that are related to every family from ancient times to the present. At the same time, it is also in front of relevant researchers. Psychology, sociology and other major subjects. Because this problem is often not good enough, sometimes it or even bad, so that there are manifestations or hidden tragedies around us every day. "Mozart of Outer Space" can face the comprehensive and complex problem itself, and should see the significance of the film on the subject matter.

Parents are the first teacher of the child, and the family is the child's lifelong school. The relationship between parents and children should be gradually moving from the relationship between the main object to mutual and object. We know that parents and children have independent body, consciousness, emotions, and thoughts. Because the child's growth is a process, it is ignorant, unlimited, completely attached in a period of time, and has no consciousness, or self -consciousness. The child's main consciousness is germinated by a little bit in the process of growth. In this process, if parents can have learning and awakening in this regard, the child's subject consciousness and independent behavior will be seen, so as to get attention, understanding, respect and guidance, the child may develop a healthy personality, parents and children’s children’s how the children and children It will be kept in a benign mutual relationship, otherwise there will be imbalances in relationships. For example, parents with natural authority have been unconsciously controlled and restrained their children for a long time. The child's subject consciousness and independent behavior are suppressed and obstructed, and severe deformity will develop. , To extremes, even leading to crime.

As a subject, everyone faces the world, the world they see, the feelings and understanding of the world, and their future expectations. Parents convey their cognition, experience, feelings, and desires to the children to children. This is normal education and continuation, but if it is like Ren Dawang in the film, he does not put his life, desire and child's life, wish, and wish The distinction is distinguished, and the child is not regarded as a "person" who has his own will, and consciously or unconsciously impacts his consciousness or even impose to the child. The contradictions and conflicts are inevitable. Causes children's self -identity to be blurred, confused, and lost.

There is no doubt that Ren Dawang loves children very much. He is based on the love of Ren Xiaotian. Most parents in real life are willing to do everything for their children. What currently lacks parents is to treat their children as an individual and subject to understand and respect their children's independence and autonomy. When the child shows inconsistent with their own knowledge, emotion, and value orientation, when the child starts to pout, avoid, refuse, and resist, this is exactly when the child's autonomous consciousness and independent will awaken, and many parents cannot tolerate the beak, and many parents cannot be allowed to beak. Regardless of the confusion, anger, and anger, some also punish the children's "disobedience" and "disobeyling" in various ways.

Some people say: The greatest danger of education is that a group of unparalleled parents are desperately childcare. This sentence makes sense, but it is not accurate enough. This generation of people who grew up after the reform and opening up generally received better education. In 2019, China's higher education gross enrollment rate has exceeded 50%. It has entered the stage of popularization. Parents, some are primary and secondary school teachers, university professors, scientists, and corporate executives. Children's education also has various problems. And because of good education, these parents think that they have knowledge and understand everything, but they are more likely to be self -righteous. In fact, the greatest danger of family education is not a group of unwilling parents who are desperate for parenting, but a group of professional books that have read only professional books, but do not read philosophy, especially life philosophy, education, especially family education, psychology, especially development. Parents of psychology are desperately childcare. They are a group of parents who do not understand and reflect on their parents who do not understand and reflect on all the reasons for all the actions. Love is not good, love is unable to, love and no way, is the biggest issue of family education. Such love will indulgent children, imprison the children, distort children, suffocate children, and even destroy the child. Children may need to heal and repair their injuries in their lives. But parents feel wronged and helpless. The most often hear is: "I have paid so much for you!" "I'm not all for you?" "Why are you so sensible?" "How do you let me make me Do you? "It is unreasonable, and the parent -child relationship must be chaotic, and the child's personality development will also encounter problems. There are too many similar cases. Therefore, parents should be educated most, and educators should be educated first.

From this perspective, although this film still needs to be improved in the narrative structure and artistic processing, the problem it reflects is reality and profound. Especially it is recommended that parents watch it with their children. Not only is it lively and happy, but to see if there is any shadow in the play at the same time.

(The author is deputy secretary of the party committee of China Education Newspaper)

Content source: "Literature and Art", July 27, 2022, 4th edition

WeChat editor: Lu Yimeng

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