How can I get along with the child when I grow up when I grow up?Pay attention to these points

The neighbor's aunt Zhang took the little granddaughter in the courtyard of the community and chatted. Grandma Li asked Aunt Zhang, your son and daughter -in -law are gone, did you cry?

Aunt Zhang pointed at the little granddaughter and said, "Cry? I wouldn't go to her mother at all. Her mother came back a few days ago and wanted to hug Nan Nan. Nan Nan hid behind her grandfather and didn't let her hug. At the time, my mother gave her vegetables, and Nan Nan all picked out from the bowl. I taught her to call her mother, Nan Nan was unwilling. Nan Nan's mother was so sad that she told her that the mother was still ignorant, and waited for a long time. Know the bigger ""

Aunt Zhang said with a smile, others also smiled. When I heard Aunt Zhang saying this, she was full of words. After a few months, Nan Nan asked his grandmother to bring it. Nan Nan's father and mother went to the country. Each year is a few days off. Nan Nan lived with grandparents since he was a child. Naturally, the closest person was the grandparents around him.

Mom is naturally sad when she sees her daughter so excluding herself. Nan Nan is regarded as a "left -behind child" in the city. Mom and dad are not around. They grew up around the grandparents. They got too little care from their parents, so they would be sparse.

In the recent hit drama "Star Han", the female lead Cheng Shaoshang is also a left -behind child. She was born beside her grandma from being born.

Because grandma hates the mother of the young businessman, she doesn't like this granddaughter. The second uncle did not like this sister -in -law. When raising the niece of young businessmen, she also hated her mother and did not raise well to get revenge on her sister -in -law.

As a result, the mother and daughter who hadn't seen each other for more than ten years met. The hostess and the young businessman are rusty to her mother, and her mother marchs and fights. With her father's southern war, she is still looking forward to her daughter in the family. Unexpectedly, he settled his daughter at home, so that the daughter was tortured, and she didn't know a few words.

Seeing the daughter of Xiao Shang's biological mother, Xiao's biological mother, she wanted to make her daughter a reasonable book and become a ladylike lady. Her mother saw her crooked neck tree, and was anxious to take her right. Because love is eager, the daughter is always spurred.

However, her daughter grew up in the bad situation where her grandmother did not hurt, and her uncle did not love the bad situation, and she could not change for a while.

Mother's spur, education, and what she does to her mother, in her daughter, just does not love her. The mother's knowledge of the cousin is always the same as that she is missing and eating less when she was young. Compared with young merchants who lack discipline, they are targeted everywhere. They are difficult everywhere.

For left -behind children, what is the lack of?

It is love. Since childhood, he has not received the care of his parents. He is eager to be around for his parents, and longing for them to ask for warmth. Cheng Shaoshang's mother, was it wrong?

She actually loves her daughter too much, so she hopes that her daughter is doing well, but she forgot to give her daughter more love. Use love to influence your daughter and make your daughter better. Coincidentally, as a mother, she uses the identity of parents to intensify the contradiction between mother and daughter.

The mother asked her daughter to literacy, not to achieve the goal and not allowed to eat. Some of the young businessmen, the cousin must have it. This seemingly fair and fair, for her biological daughter, her mother is more eccentric.

In this way of education, young businessmen must be dissatisfied. In this way, it can only make the contradiction greater and let the daughter have a rebellious psychology, and want to escape from the mother's control as soon as possible.

How should left -behind children educated?

Get off the children first and give children more love.

Since childhood, as a parent, as a parent, you must first put down your body and use love to influence your child. Don't meet for a long time, don't pick the shortcomings of children first, and care for the child first.

Ask what the child needs, let the child accept the love of his parents first. This is the most critical. The child's love from the bottom of his heart will be open -minded to his parents.

Do not use the identity of parents to make children fear. First of all, learn to love children, and lean down to be friends with children. Only in this way can the distance from the child.

2. Teach children's rules

No rules no standards. Children have to make rules since childhood. What can be done and what can be done.

Because they are not with their parents for a long time, children may have all kinds of deficiencies. If it is not a big problem, don't rush to correct it for the time being.

Instead, it is necessary to tell the children of state -owned and national laws, and family rules have family rules. Some principled problems must be established. For example, cross the road to see traffic lights.

Before, a mother said that taking the child to cross the road, the child broke through the red light, and the mother educated was wrong. The child said that the grandmother had been like this before, and she didn't see anything. Although it is a red light, isn't there no car on the road?

This approach should strictly let the child correct. Can't be lucky. The rules of this must be observed.

That is to say, as parents, they must establish good rules for their children, do not steal or grab, do not take other people's things, and abide by the rules of social order. These must be done.

3. Even if you are not with your child, communicate with your children more and pay attention to the child

Leaving children will be a little inferior to children of the same age. Others can have business with their parents and can be coquettish. They, their parents are not around, and they are sad. By the grandparents, many children's hearts will be buried silently in their hearts, making the child less childlike, more mature at this age.

Therefore, if you have conditions, bring your child around.If it is really inconvenient, communicate with children more, now the technology is developed, and I have a video chat with the child in my spare time. Ask the children what happened around them.It is convenient to pick up children for a few days during holidays.In short, when you communicate with your children, children will be close to their parents.Otherwise, children are unwilling to share their minds with their parents, and they are already accustomed to carrying everything by themselves.

It is hoped that every parent can care more about children, communicate with children, and always pay attention to all the dynamics of the child, and can communicate with the child's heart and heart.

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