The longest relationship between people: trouble with each other, gratitude to each other

Author: Insight on onetong

No one can live as an island.

There is a saying: Reliable relationships are not encountered, but cultivation.

There is no proper fate in this world. Long -term feelings focus on operations.

If you are troublesome, you can go deeper with your friendship;

Thanks for each other, and the relationship can be maintained for a long time.

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Trouble with each other is the link between the two parties. There is a plot in the best -selling book "Puppy Money", which makes me feel quite impressive.

Jia's parents bought a house, but because they did not understand financial management, the life at home was very difficult.

One day, they took a puppy called Qian Qian.

And the puppy's master, Mr. Jin, is a master of financial management. He had a car accident not long ago, so he couldn't take care of it.

Jia made a suggestion: "Dad, why don't you talk to Mr. Jin about your financial situation?"

His father hesitated: "I think he will not be interested in this."

Mother also echoed: "You should not bother others."

Later, under the persistence of Jia, his parents agreed to go to Mr. Jin and asked him to give suggestions for the financial situation.

Unexpectedly, Mr. Jin was happy to provide help. With Mr. Jin's suggestion, the financial status of the family improved a lot.

Two people meeting with Pingshui also became closer and more intimate.

In life, the rules of many people are: Do not bother others, try not to ask others to do things.

We always think that troubles others will cause trouble to the other party.

But as the psychologist Wu Zhihong said: If you don't bother each other, the relationship will not be established.

The best way to make others like you is not to help them, but to let them help you.

Because in the process of troubled others, the other party's "needs" needs meets a sense of accomplishment.

Therefore, seeking help from others in a timely manner is to take the initiative to open a door.

When you roll up the courage to say for help, you release a friendly signal to the other party.

And this is often the best opportunity to start friendship.

In 1933, Ba Jin came to Beijing from Shanghai and founded the "Literature Season" with friends.

Without the confession of the writer, Ba Jin often worried insomnia at night.

Friends suggested that he went to Bingxin to give a manuscript for the publication, but Bing Xin had already been famous at the time, and he had no hope of being too big.

What he didn't expect was that when he tried a try, when he came to visit, Bing Xin entertained him enthusiastically and agreed to the invitation.

The friendship between the two gradually deepened.

In the winter of 1940, Bingxin's physical condition was not good, and the economy became increasingly tight.

In order to earn the cost of living, she had to entrust Ba Jin to help him publish the "Bingxin Works Collection", and Ba Jin also helped.

Bing Xin once wrote a word to Ba Jin: "Life is enough to be confused, and the world is regarded as the same as the same."

The two literary giants, despite their non -often meeting, are constantly favored, and they have spent 60 years of ups and downs in each other.

Qian Zhongshu has a very vivid metaphor in "Siege City":

Borrowing a book is an excuse for a man and a woman. As soon as you borrow it, the relationship will be ambiguous.

Friends are the same. If you trouble me, I bother you, you come and go, your feelings are deep.

A good relationship is not their own wonderful, but crossing.

Through moderate trouble, pull closer to each other's psychological distance.

There are ownership and missing each other, and their feelings can stabilize and last.

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Thanks to each other is Gan Lin who nourishes people's hearts. Master Xu Beihong, a master of art, came from poor. From an early age, he followed his father who was a private teacher and learned to paint and sell to subsidize his family.

In 1915, he encountered a dark moment in life, and his father, wife, and young son died one after another.

Lonely, life is difficult to sustain, and the strikes that followed, making him miserable. Xu Beihong, who was like a deadly gray, came to Shanghai Bund and intended to settle himself.

After the friend Huang Police Huang Dan discovered, he brought him back to his home, and the two were sleeping and sleeping together.

Huang Policion's stubborn income was not high. In order to solve the problem of food and clothing, he took Xu Beihong to the unit cafeteria with his lunch and gave him a corner in the morning and evening.

He also introduced the work for Xu Beihong to make Xu Beihong earn the first 30 yuan selling manuscript.

Under the stubbornness of the police, Xu Beihong's situation gradually improved, and he slowly had a place in the art circle.

And Xu Beihong has always kept this kind of kindness in mind.

In 1947, Police Huang was arrested and jailed for reason for reason.

Xu Beihong knew his heartache after he knew his situation. As soon as he arrived at the National Beiping Art College, he asked Huang Police to come to Peiping and let him be a cashier who watched the student's student aid. Essence

Two people supported each other to become a good story at that time.

Sincerely, like a key, can open the closed heart lock between people.

It does not require too many skills and means to intersect with others. It is enough to give it.

A person who knows how to be grateful and willing to treat others will also be treated well.

When actor Wang Kai was unknown when he debuted, there were not many works. With the work of Director Kong Sheng's "Pretender", he became popular all over the night and ranked among the front -line actors.

At a awards ceremony, Kong Sheng came to the stage to awards to Wang Kai. Wang Kai kneeling on one knee, thanking his knowledge for his encounter.

When receiving the play, Wang Kaining was willing to push off the invitation of other directors, and also to play the actor of the team of Director Kong Sheng's team at noon. In fact, there are many actors who cooperate at noon, but because of Wang Kai's knowledge, he has repeatedly won him many dramas such as "Langya List" and "Dajiang Great River".

Hayao Miyazaki once said: "In the vast sea of ​​people, meet, know each other, keep each other, and no one will be smooth. Only with a grateful heart can you have love and happiness for a lifetime."

People who are expensive to know and know how to drink water can make good popularity for themselves, and get wider the road of life.

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Hu Shi was going to Shanghai to study in Shanghai. The mother was not assured. When he sent him to the station, he said:

You are going to a bigger world. I can no longer help you. Let's go through it yourself and send you four words -learn to ask for help.

No one can live as an island.

There are two lines between people. If you do not disturb each other, you will never intersect. Good relationships start with mutual trouble.

But don't forget, no one is born to whom, know how to give back, and don't forget the grace, people will be happy to help you.

Like a praise and encourage friends.

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