The helplessness of adults starts with "calculation"

Text/Liu Xiaoshang

I have heard such a sentence: Once a person starts to calculate, he becomes an adult.

The reason why adults are called adults is because in the process of becoming mature, they have to lose some innocence and have to face helpless reality.

In the vulgar world, no one will have the privilege of "unscrupulous". Therefore, in the face of money, time, and feelings, a lot of expectations and considerations.

In life, there is nothing to calculate appropriately, but remember not to make it calculate.

Calculate money

I believe that most people are the same. When life suddenly stops or income is unstable, we can only calculate the coming and places of money more carefully, no choice, and no retreat.

Just like a very generous colleague, after the mother's illness fell, she no longer rushed to pay for it; friends who always liked traveling started to do part -time jobs during the break; cousin who looked at the face was already in the night market. The stall ...

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In reality, no one can be able to get free and easy when lacking money. The so -called decentness often becomes worthless when lacking money.

After hearing this sentence: If you have shoes, who wants to bare your feet?

Indeed, the world of adults seems to be free, but it is often trapped by a few broken silver.

Sometimes, for life, we have to let go of your comfort and take a more difficult way to go.

Wang Erde once said, "When I was young, I thought money was the most important thing in the world. Now I am old, so I know it is true."

The experience has made us mature and let us gradually see the truth of life. As a result, one of the signs of adults became calculated, calculating each expenditure, and leaving themselves with enough capital to resist risks.

Only by accumulating it at the moment can we work hard after dealing with the storm.

calculating time

There is such a plot in the recent hit drama "Welcome":

Aunt Sun and Zhang Guang were sitting in the yard, watching a few old people who gathered together to exercise, and said with emotion:

"Look at us, like a group of birds, looking for warm places everywhere, others are rushing on the road. Only our old guys slowly chase the sun.

"We are like the sun in the winter. Looking at Liangtang, we don't have any strength. A gust of wind and a snow will disappear at any time."

The elderly will have a fear of the passage of time, because their life is counting.

As our children, we also have a fear.

Fear of being wanting to raise and kissing, fear of being too late and waiting. However, such anxiety and concerns are often a unsolvable question.

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Time is fair, but life is very worried. We can't do everything in everything. We can only choose to choose from. After choosing a job, we can't care about the family; the future choice means sacrificing the present.

There was a video of a lot of people on the Internet.

In the video, a white -haired elderly took the bus alone because he couldn't scan the code. He stood next to the door and got it for a long time without success. Finally, he turned to get out of the car and said embarrassedly, "Don't delay everyone."

But the next bus will wait half an hour.

The helplessness of the old man is uncomfortable, because most of our parents are at this age, but we cannot accompany them and become their backing.

Therefore, we always calculate time and weigh the work and family, parents and ourselves. Then, I look forward to the slower time and leave more opportunities for yourself.

Only when you really know "not waiting for people", people can learn to accompany and cherish.

Life is long, but also short. I hope that while we are busy running around, we can leave more idleness and cherish every time we meet, and less owed.

Calculate feelings

Once on the radio, I heard a period of experience of listening to Si Sisi about his cousin.

The cousin of Beibei for 6 years suddenly decided to return.

The family supports her choice, but she has doubts: Why did she choose to break up with her boyfriend who had been with each other for 3 years?

Si Si accompanied her to talk late at night, and she thought that her cousin would cry, but she did not expect her to be extremely calm:

"I can't bear it, but this should be the best result. We are all foreigners who work hard from our hometown to work in Beijing. We do the day after day, we can't make much money, and it is difficult to gain a foothold in the future.

"He doesn't want to go back, I can't just consume it like this."

Sisi looked at her, understanding what she said, and feeling her reluctance, but it was a pity. Unfortunately, a beautiful relationship is helpless about cruel reality.

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Many people say that feelings can easily lose to reality. Indeed, if you can, who is willing to always do a choice question?

It ’s just many times that we have to calculate and weigh it. It’ s not that the courage is not enough, but we know that there is no result in the future.

In life, everyone is difficult to escape to eat and dress, and the reality of hydropower and gas, so sometimes, feelings are always pale in the face of reality.

Some people may say that such considerations are too material, but this is the most rational choice after you and I are struggling.

There is such a sentence in "Ding Ding Code": "Life is the accumulation of continuous choices. Choosing is choice, it doesn't matter right or wrong."

Although he was tangled, he eventually accepted it all.

For the rest of our lives, I hope that we can meet the right person at the right time, will not be inferior because of our identity, and will not cause differences because of retention, let alone give up the option to give up becoming emotional.Adults, please love yourself and love others.

Writer Li Shanglong mentioned in the book that a friend asked him: "Is there only calculations left in the world of adults?"

He replied: "Calculation is right, as long as you don't calculate, as long as you don't care about it, you will not live up to time."

Take it seriously.

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No one can be spared.What we can do is to choose a way that suits us in our own life; in our world, calculate the acceptable results.

Then, no baht must be compared, not tangled internal consumption.

Please believe that although life is as helpless, but keeping persistence and love, everything will get better and better!

Author: Liu Xiaoshang, love life and text.Editor on duty: Zhang Aoyang.

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