There is a small little at home ｜ Three steps to help the baby build a family rules

Dongying Daily/Aida Camp News Family Rules can help children clarify their due performance at home and models that get along with other members. The recognized family rules can meet the needs of each member, and at the same time, it can also enhance the child's sense of security at home.

With the increase of children's age, their social nature will continue to develop, and one of their performances is that they can start to understand and abide by the rules. The formulation and compliance of family rules can help children grow better into "social people", and at the same time can help him develop self -control and other abilities. Therefore, when you find that the child's language ability has developed to a certain extent and starts to understand the rules, you can start trying to formulate some simple family rules.

When formulating and helping children abide by family rules, parents may need to consider the following aspects.

first step

Help him understand family rules

The rules that help children understand are some basic principles he needs to follow at home. These rules can help everyone get along better. You can tell your child in simple and specific words, such as "Mom and Dad and Babies are going to play a game together. In this game, the baby and parents can do something, and some things cannot be done. The game cannot continue. " You can formulate different rules according to your children's age.

Step 2

Develop family rules with him

1. The family mobilizes, invite children to discuss family rules together

Family rules may involve many aspects. Some rules involved in safety, such as not playing fire, swords, etc. These rules require parents to formulate directly and do not need to be discussed. Many other rules can be invited to formulate them together. For example, to discuss the rules before going to bed, including a few activities that you can do before going to bed.

Inviting children to formulate rules together can make him feel the equality between family members and his right to speak in the family. In addition, the child's participation in the formulation process of the rules represents his rules, and he has certain control, so he may obey the rules more seriously.

2. To hold a family meeting, what are the rules of discussions need to formulate

Before formulating rules, you also need to determine which aspects of rules. Generally speaking, safety rules are essential, which can ensure the most basic personal safety of children. Other aspects such as daily schedules, etiquette behaviors, and ways to get along with others may also become aspects that need to be considered.

Before formulating the rules, you can convene a family meeting of all family members to give everyone a chance to state their own ideas, and finally discuss the need to be included in the family rules.

Remember that family rules can be adjusted according to the age of the child. With the change of the child's age and the changes in needs, you can discuss the adjustment of rules for a certain time.

3. Production of family rules, record each rule

Because the child is young, he may also forget after confirming the rules. At this time, it will be very helpful to record the rules according to entries. Of course, young children cannot read the text, so he can invite him to draw the rules in the form of pictures and post them to various places. For example, the safety rules can be posted on the wall of the refrigerator or living room, and the rules before bed can be affixed to the bedside. Paste the rules in where he can see it at any time, and can continuously strengthen the rules.

third step

Supervise him to abide by the rules

After the rules are formulated, you also need to urge your children to abide by the rules, which is a gradual process.

1. Timely and positive reminder

Although the rules are completed, the child may need your reminder in a certain situation. You can always remind your children in a timely manner in the early stage, such as "Can you talk to me with a whispering voice before a nap?"

Try to remind them in a positive way instead of a negative way such as "don't talk loudly", which can help children to obey better.

2. Point out the result of breaking the rules

You also need to let your child understand the results you need to face after breaking the rules. You can discuss an agreed process, such as when he breaks the rules for the first time, it will be reminded; the second time may be severely warned; if the behavior appears for the third time, you need to bear the corresponding results, such as being ordered to stop doing something Things and so on. Once this process is confirmed, you must do it, you cannot "open the law outside the law." Because once you break your rules, the authority in front of your child will be weakened, which may cause the "road of rules to abide by" to encounter obstacles.

3. Show up in time

Children of all ages like to receive the attention and praise of parents, so your praise can strengthen the generation and maintenance of his good behavior. When you find a good behavior of your child, oral praise or encouragement is enough. However, if you find that your child has made progress in some more difficult changes, you can give him some special rewards, such as the whole family go to the park to play together, or allow a piece of mouthful to eat after meals.

(Reporter Liu Weiwei)

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