The partner who makes fun of each other is happier

What are your expectations of getting along with your lover?

Is the crime respectful as a guest, or is it like a buddy everyday to joke with each other?

Psychologists at the University of Harler-Vottenberg University (MLU) (MLU) published a study in Journal of Research in Personality. Higher, the quality of sex life is higher.

Psychologists conducted an online interview with heterosexual couples. The content of the survey includes: relationship satisfaction, the way to laugher/laughter, sexual satisfaction, and frequency of quarrels.

There are three ways to respond to laughter/laughter:

H Gelotophobia: Fear of being laughed at

H Gelotophilia: I like to be ridiculed

A Kataglasticism: I like to laugh at others

turn out:

方 If you often provoke the other party's funny, then the relationship will be more satisfied and the satisfaction of sexual life is higher;

的The people who are afraid of being laughed, have a low relationship and sexual satisfaction with sexual life, and will underestimate their own moral quality;

似 If two people deal with fun in a similar way (for example, they like to laugh at each other or they like to be laughed at), then they will be happier;

人 Those who like to make fun of others may also be more humorous, and they will deal better in interpersonal relationships.

A study in the early years found that people tend to have a humorous spouse, which will make life full of interest and more pleasant. But it should be noted that joking is not unscrupulous to laugh at each other. In the relationship, it requires a "safe context" -

The so -called safety means that you have to believe with each other with each other. When you make fun of TA, you actually have no intention of abandoning each other, and you also think that TA is cute. When you eat a lot of TA and do not judge the connotation of TA figure; when you make fun of some small mistakes that you accidentally commit crimes, it does not mean that you are ) Strike.

Of course, although "making fun" is conducive to the relationship between partners, it is not applicable to any relationship. Maybe some people are more sensitive and emotionally insufficient, and they are not able to accept jokes.

So this requires you and your partner to build a "safe context" first. Then we can believe each other, assured each other, and deliver each other.

It is not easy to find a suitable mode of getting along with each other in intimate relationships. After entering the marriage relationship, it requires a better way to maintain the comfort in the relationship.

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references

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Brauer, K., Proyer, R. T. (2018).To Love and Laugh: Testing Actor-, Partner-, and Similarity Effects of Dispositions Towards Ridicule and Being Laughed at on Relationship Satisfaction. Journal of Research in Personality.doi:10.1016/j .jrp.2018.08.008

Author: Luo Xiaohu

Edit: KK

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