There is a high emotional quotient, called sincere

Author: Insight · Li Siyuan

Smart is worse than sincerity, savvy is not as kind.

There is a question on Zhihu: Which behavior can the most reflect a person's high emotional quotient?

The highest praise answers, there are only two words "sincerity".

We always think that being savvy for people, but in fact, sincerity is to knock on the bricks of others.

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Sincerity is an attitude with people. In 1928, Shen Congwen was appointed as a lecturer at Peking University. At that time, he was only 26 years old and had only elementary school diplomas.

When he first went to the podium, in addition to the students in the original class, there were many people who came to listen to the class.

The scene in the classroom was unable to say a word in a word of nervousness.

After a while, he slowly calmed down and started lectures.

But I was ready to give a class hours, but it was only finished in just ten minutes.

The classmates are wondering: this is still earlier before the get out of class time, what should I do if the rest of the time is?

At this time, Shen Congwen picked up the chalk on the blackboard and wrote a whole class: "Today is my first class, there are many people, I am scared."

As soon as he wrote, he immediately caused a kind of kindness and applause.

Writer Shakespeare said a word: "Honestly, the most impressive heart."

Treating frankness of others is often easier to win the understanding and consideration of each other.

In "Non -violent Communication", the author Marshall Luxembourg has said one thing.

Once, he was invited to teach courses for students in a school in the slums in the city center.

When he walked into the classroom, the students below seemed to have a great precaution in him.

He asked hello, and the classmates turned a blind eye. He tried to introduce himself, and everyone was ignored.

He felt more and more uncomfortable, but still maintained the so -called professional image, and he continued to lecture without any matter.

Finally, a student suddenly said loudly: "You hate black people, don't you?"

He froze for a moment, and then realized that what the students really cared about was that he did not reveal his heart.

He immediately explained: "I don't hate the black people. I just nervous, because I met with everyone for the first time, so I urgently hoped to get your acceptance."

When he expressed his true thoughts, the students' attitude immediately changed significantly.

There is a line in the movie "Can't Touch": "In fact, many times, you don't need to do anything, just sincerely."

The most afraid of communication between people is to hide and disguise.

Only when you are sincere with others, you can completely open the other person's heart.

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Sincerity is a comfortable cultivation. People are mutually mutual, respecting others from the heart, and you will gain the respect of others.

Once Feng Xiaogang and Ge You went out together.

A young man walked around two people, and then asked Ge You tentatively: "Ge You?"

Ge You nodded politely, and the young man panicked a folded white paper from his pocket, "I'm sorry, only this piece of paper."

It turned out that the young people wanted to find Ge You's name. Ge You signed while signed, and ridiculed with a smile: "It's okay, it's not a bad bar."

When the young man left after the signing, Feng Xiaogang in the side was emotional: "With your reputation and status, how can you be so polite to all movie fans ..."

Ge You looked at him, and said with a rare seriousness: "This is the case, for me, maybe it is the 50,000th time, for him, this is the first time."

Master Jian Sheng Meow once mentioned a point of view: "The real high emotional intelligence is to be able to appreciate the emotions and positions of others, and to perceive the real needs of others."

The degree of comfort you can make others often determine the height you can reach.

In 2014, Ni Ping hosted a public welfare program "Waiting for Me".

When the second issue was recorded, every time the help person came on, the first sentence of Ni Ping said always: "My legs are not good, so I won't stand up."

It turned out that her legs once made a TV series in the ice for a long time, and the cold was not healed for a long time.

After recording the whole process, Ni Ping's words did not know how many times he said, and colleagues once asked: "Every helper must say it again, are you not troublesome?"

She said: "Although it is more troublesome, it is at least polite to each helping person, and it has brought closer each other's distance and relieves their tension. In this sentence, I will continue to say it in the future."

A person's education is not just a politeness, but also the sincerity of pushing himself and others.

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Sincere is a reassuring character. I have seen a small story.

When a young man went to the interview, when he was about to enter, a sudden old man rushed over to catch him and said, "I can find you, thank you too much! Last time in the park, you saved my daughter."

Honest young people replied, "Old, you have recognized the wrong person"

The old man insisted: "It's you, it's not wrong."

The young man comforted: "I know you are urgent to find a benefactor, but I am really not the person you are looking for, and I have never saved people in the park."

The old man finally loosened his hand and asked, "Did I really recognize it?"

The young man passed the interview smoothly that day.

Later, he met the old man again, so he stepped forward and asked him if he found that person. The old man said, "No, I haven't found him."

After returning to the post, the young people were very sad. He felt the old man was pitiful and talked about the matter with his colleagues.

Colleagues laughed at him: He was not pitiful at all. He was our boss and had no daughter. That was just a test. It was not too much to see your character.

Buffett once said: "Relief is more important than smart."

You have a bit of ability to trust.

Every point you have for others will be assured of others to you.

Kobayashi, the founder of Japan Shanya Securities Company, was a salesman at a machine manufacturing company in his twenties.

For a while, he sold the machine smoothly. He signed a contract with 33 customers within half a month and received a deposit.

However, afterwards, he found that the machines sold were more expensive than the same performance machines produced by other companies, so he immediately took the contract and deposit. question.

Unexpectedly, this move was moved by the customer, and no one was destroyed.

San Mao once said: "Reliability is a sword that is not good in society. You should bring it everywhere."

Because the interests are for a while, trust is the one -lifetime.

Sometimes sincere seems to let you eat the loss in front of you, but you can help you in exchange for a long -term people.

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Harvard University has made a point of view that a person's achievements account for about 20%of the IQ, but emotional intelligence accounts for 80%.

Getting with people, cleverness is not as sincere, savvy is not as kind.

Because of ability and talent, it is the weight of doing things, but reliable and practical is the foundation of the world.

The inner discipline and sincerity have the power of moving people.

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