What behaviors will make the other party feel that you are "down"?

Author:Cool brain Time:2022.07.28

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Translation | Liu Zihan

Grade -Cool Brain Creative

Artist | Old carving worm

Edit | yj

When getting along with others, what small details will make you feel that you and TA are not "one people"? Dating such people will not only make you feel unhappy, but even consume your emotions. Recently, netizens on Reddit have shared the characteristics of their unwilling people.

"Those who don't apologize for their mistakes. They often blame the problem on others, complaints that stay in verbally without making actual changes to themselves."

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"Experience rules: If someone often says the gossip of others in front of you, then they will often gossip with others."

Reply: "I still remember that a few years ago. When I met a new neighbor, she told me all kinds of gossip and personal information about everyone in this block within 10 minutes. Tell me my husband will never tell her anything about us, because she will tell everyone. To this day, this is still an accurate evaluation of her. I also always remind myself not to do things similar to her. "

Reply: "I also did the same thing. Whenever I heard someone asking my neighbors about us, they could only speculate that we kept distance in life. Whenever they tried to target us, we It will change the topic. Over time, this method has proved that it can bring me a way that is easier to live in the same place. "

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"Those who use your embarrassment in front of friends as jokes"

Reply: "Your description is like observing my parents"

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"I am a girl. One of my classmates talked to me once. After 2 minutes, she said that she had never a female friend because all women were" bitch ". Then why do you talk to me? what?"

Reply: "Warm reminder: When someone says they cannot get along with their same gender members, because they are ________ (jealous, dramatic, losers, etc.). Those in your mouth. "

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"Those who do not respect the waiter or cashier"

Reply: "Some people always deliberately throw the garbage on the table and ground of the restaurant and wait for the waiter to clean up, and call it‘ this is the job they should do ’

Reply: "Although this sentence is old -fashioned, it can indeed explain a lot of problems. My former friend was like this. I hate going out to eat with him. I always remind him not to be so rude to the waiter, but he was so rude to the waiter, but he was so rude to the waiter, but he was so rude to the waiter, but he was so rude to the waiter, but he did I will still be rude. I have to compensate his rude by more friendly and generosity to the waiter.

Reply: I have time to be friends with him than I should do, because I was young at that time. At least I learned a good lesson from him. Today, I can no longer tolerate to become friends with such people. "

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"Those who use their so -called 'straightforward' as their excuses to express their dissatisfaction, and this is actually a appearance of malicious and disrespectful. Especially when these people cannot accept your backbone of their" blunt "!"

Reply: "The people are not straightforward, they are just pure bastards. But I do admit that some people just lack self -awareness. They just do not know that there is a better way to express what they want to say, or have a 'mouth mistake Syndrome '. To distinguish between the two is the key to the same sense. "

Reply: "I am typical of the second case-I can never accurately convey what I want in the first time. My view of the first category is that these people are so self-intoxicating (and absolutely lack Self -consciousness), so that they think their inferiority and often harmful opinions are so wonderful and worth sharing. "

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"Those who have never expressed gratitude to what you and others do for them."

Reply: "I lost many friends because I was not good at notice that others' goodwill and gratitude to them."

Reply: "My brother used to be such a person in the past. When we praise him, he will only say‘ good ’if we do n’t really say‘ good ’.”

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"(Except for those obvious characteristics of being abandoned, such as paranoia, derailment, rapist, etc.).

I also hate people who are sticky, jealous, and insecure. I couldn't send me 20 messages to those who did not have time to reply to the information. Whenever I want to reply to these long -story news, I feel like you are doing family homework, which makes the fun of making friends. And I always feel nervous to be friends with such people, and I want to reply to their news immediately, but it will only make me more afraid of chatting with them. Face -to -face communication will alleviate many similar phenomena. "

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"Those who always bring their children or partners to those who have a friend's party. You will never want to find the opportunity to meet them alone."