Psychological chat | "minimalist life" is the life of a monk?

Source: Visual China

What is "minimalist life"? In the eyes of the letter from Ma Jun, it is "a wooden house, a lake, and the moonlight in one place, and you can become the whole of life." However, after a period of life, he suddenly discovered that he "like a plant that lost water. "The heart is not settled at all." Psychologists said that some people in life have some misunderstandings about the concepts of "minimalism" and "disconnecting", thinking that they are just throwing the East and West. To truly achieve "minimalism", we must first start with the needs of being kind.

Talk: My "pseudo minimalist life"

For a while, I longed for "minimalist life". Like Suloro, during the seclusion of Lake Walden, a wooden house, a lake, and a moonlight can become the whole of life. It happened that I had a month of holiday, so I returned to my hometown on my back and thought about living the "minimalist life".

I arranged a simple task for myself: reading and writing. In addition, watching the flowers in front of the court blooms, and the clouds are rolled with clouds. In the small courtyard of his hometown, there is a small vegetable garden taken care of by his mother, which grows various time -deserved vegetables. I have a plan to arrange three meals a day: those who can pick up materials in the small vegetable garden will never spend money to buy; the food is mainly pure natural green vegetables, enjoy the taste of returning to return, and experience the taste of life.

In addition, I cleaned my computer table. One table, one chair, one, one book, a computer, and one mobile phone made people think of "Mr. June 1" Ouyang Xiu. I still remember that American writer Stephen King has a "small table theory", which is a model of minimalist life. When he wrote, a simple small table was able to Wen Sicong, and the big table with a beoned wood was exhausted. My table should also be simple and simple. Do not have gorgeous decoration, otherwise it is easy to distinguish when writing. In the past, my computer desk was often raised with water with water. The pen holder was also carefully selected and beautiful. It is only a very simple thing to abandon the decoration, but it is actually a very simple thing to abandon.

When I live in the city, I have to make a light makeup every morning, so I face a new day in a better look. Back to the countryside, you can't see a few people, you might as well let yourself go back to the simplest state. I no longer make up, and sometimes even skin care products are not used. They face the sky, so as to make every pore on my face breathe fresh air.

Seeing me like this, my mother complained and said, "This will not be allowed to buy it, and then you won't be allowed to buy it. Is it necessary to live such a life?" Simplified life, a bowl of porridge, a glass of water, enough Essence Too many materials are in exchange for extravagant life, and the essential products of the soul do not need to be purchased. During that time, the word "extravagant" was the target of my erection, and it was about to hit it. My mother said that I wanted to prepare a table of meals on my birthday, and I said it was too extravagant. My father said to change a new chair for me, and I said it was too extravagant. Minimalized life, a meal, a scoop drink, in the lane, the material is simple, the soul is abundant -I almost doubt that I have the realm of the ancients.

In the first few days, I picked vegetables in the small cuisine garden, and I was a little bit of leisure of "picking the chrysanthemums under the fence of the chrysanthemum". However, after a few days after eating coarse tea and light rice, I gradually felt the taste and could not swallow. When I was writing in front of the computer, it felt uncomfortable for a long time. Especially one day, I passed in front of the mirror in my mother's house, and suddenly found myself in the mirror. I'm stunned, is this me? His face was pale, his hair was dry, his eyes were dim, his face was ashamed, like a plant that lost water. I carefully looked at my own state, and I was annoyed in my heart. After checking this time, I did n’t read a few books, and I did n’t write a few words. I am too formal, but in fact, my heart is not settled at all. My minimalist life is actually a "pseudo -minimalist life".

I lost my helmet and abandoned armor, hurried to the city, and lived back to my original life. It seems that minimalist life is really not what everyone can enjoy. The realm is not enough, I am afraid that it is only a minimalist in form, and it may not be able to achieve the abundance of the soul. I comfort myself that minimalism and exquisiteness are not contradictory. Proper pursuit of exquisite life does not prevent the longing for minimalist life. So, I put on a new curtain and tabletop, bought a bunch of flowers in front of the computer, and made a light makeup. It feels like exquisiteness is the kindness and respect for life.

Ma Jun

Analysis: minimalist life starts with the needs of good treatment

Minimalism seems to have become a life that many people yearn for. People have stress from all aspects -the gap between life, work, interpersonal, reality and dreams ... minimalist, which means to restore simplification and to save Jingjing. The letter from the letter is very yearning for the "minimalist life". She wants to "like Solo, while living in Lake Walden, a wooden house, a lake water, and moonlight can become the whole of life." She started to live a minimalist life. Practice is "I have arranged simple tasks for myself: reading, writing"; "those who can pick up materials in the small vegetable garden, never spend money to buy"; "No longer makeup."

Simplication and disconnection are both the concept of guiding life. The purpose of minimalism is to allow people to expand the most valuable things in life and abandon anything that hinders us to get them. Dispostering is an item that does not need, unsuitable, uncomfortable, and uncomfortable, thereby improving people's choice and determination. The ultimate purpose of the two concepts is to make us happier and easier. However, some people have some misunderstandings about these concepts. They believe that minimalist and disconnection are throwing things. For example, the letter said: "In the past, I often used water to raise a flower on my computer desk. Beautiful and ornamental. "In the description of the believer, it can be seen that she enjoyed flowers and pen holders, but she also thought that" abandoning decoration, only a 'break off', in fact, discarding is a very simple thing. . "This seems to be to disconnect for the sake of disconnection. I did not consider my real needs. So "After a few days after eating coarse tea and light rice, I gradually felt that the taste was faint and difficult to swallow." "When I was writing in front of the computer, I felt that the wooden chair was too uncomfortable after a long time." Pale, dry hair, bleak eyes, gray face "; What are the real needs of the believers? Just like the different concept of happiness, everyone's needs are different. How to know what their needs are to get the life that we really desire in our hearts. It is not easy to think of this problem clearly. We always try to embark on different paths. This process needs to find a balance between theory and practice. It will experience many internal contradictions and conflicts. To reunite again, finally realize the spiral forward of life, and choose the road that suits you best. After practicing, the believers knew their "too formalism" after practice. She also said, "It seems that the minimalist life is really not everyone can enjoy it. The realm is not enough, I am afraid that it is just a minimalist, and may not be able to achieve the abundance of the soul." She still regrets that she is not enough "realm". She Obviously, the spiritual world such as "realm" and "soul" is more noble than the material world. In fact, this is not the only criterion for judging, and it is the most important thing to conform to the original heart. The letter also comes to "minimalism and exquisiteness are not contradictory. Proper pursuit of exquisite life does not prevent the yearning for minimalist life." Yes, minimalist life is not a life of ascetic monks, but loyalty to their own nature. The purpose is to enjoy a happy life. She "put on a new curtain and tablet, and bought a bunch of flowers in front of the computer, and also made a light makeup." Curtains, tablets, bouquets of flowers and light makeup give people a beautiful and beautiful feeling. She said: "It feels like exquisiteness is the kindness and respect for life." Yes, understand her needs, treat her needs well, and later, her life after returning is stronger than the previous happiness.

Jiang Bing (National Secondary Psychological Counselor)

(Yangzi Evening News reporter Wang Rui)

Edit: Qin Xiaoyi

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