If you are gentle and firm, you are happy for the rest of your life

Lin Qingxuan once said:

"Look at the world with a pure heart, live with joy with joy, and use the feelings of normal life, and to get rid of it with a soft heart."

A soft heart is the valuable quality of touching life, and it is also a big wisdom that makes life more tough.

In this hard world, be a soft person.

01 True kindness is soft.

Lao Tzu said: "Shangshan is like water, water is good and benefits all things without arguing."

Kindness is a soft side in life, such as water, gentle, generous, moisturizing and silent.

A soft -hearted person has both the minds of Hainan and Baichuan, and sufficient wisdom to express the goodwill and sympathy.

Mr. Yang Yan wrote a prose called "Pharaoh".

Pharaoh was a disabled tricycle. He blinded one eye. He had a brother who died early, leaving two nephews, but one was not better than one.

Pharaoh pulls a dilapidated tricycle every day. All of them are the tricycle, but the Yang Yan couple feels that Pharaoh is a simple and kind person, so he has been secretly helping him.

Because Pharaoh was one -eyed, other guests were unwilling to take his car, fearing that he could not see clearly, and then hit someone.

But the Yang Yan and his wife didn't think so. In order to take care of the business of Pharaoh, Qian Zhongshu and Yang Yan often took his car. In order to make him earn more money, Yang Yan often called Pharaoh to help them send things.

Their goodwill also won the friendship and gratitude of Pharaoh. A few days before the death of Pharaoh, he dragged the disease, with the good sesame oil and the "unclear" eggs, to visit the Yang Yan couple.

Goodwill is not shouting loudly, but a kind of care from the inside out, a speechless force.

Lin Qingxuan said: "The soft heart is the lotus, and the wisdom is open because of compassion."

Soft people, kindness and not publicity. While care, they are concerned about the self -esteem of others and know how to leave a decentness.

This respect for life is the greatest goodwill, and it is a warm and warm morality with humane and temperature.

02 Mild is the best family language.

Knowing someone asking: "What kind of wisdom of your family has the wisdom of life that you admire?"

The answer to the highest vote is: "I have never seen my parents blushing over."

Indeed, in the eyes of family members, the most beautiful thing is not wealthy, well -known, but a warm and warm family atmosphere.

Mildness is the best family language.

A psychologist once traveling with a newlywed couple. During the trip, he observed:

This wife has a poor temper, and she will blame her husband for reasons because of the delays of the plane and bad weather.

But the husband's temper is particularly good, and the response to his wife can always maintain a mild attitude, and silently help his wife to clean up his luggage.

After a few years, when the psychologist visited the couple's house, he found that his wife's personality became gentle and patient than that year.

Ask the reason, the wife concluded: "He has a good personality, always treats me tenderly, and naturally has grinded my bad temper."

There is a saying: "If you want a gentle partner, you can be gentle to your partner first."

The family atmosphere is like the soil. It is always honest. If you plant melon, you will get beans.

If the seeds of violent seeds are sowing, then the whole family will be used to communicating with quarrels;

Only with soft hearts as seeds can we understand the truth of gentle waiting.

The so -called bone blood relationship is also the warmth that flows through hard and cold.

03 Only when it is soft can it be more tough.

In life, it is inevitable that you will encounter setbacks, the bitterness after failure, and the difficulties in confusion are part of the unavoidable part.

The strength and independence in many people's eyes are to build a thick shell for themselves to resist the wind and rain outside;

There is a word called "Gang extremely folded", and things must be reversed.

The ancients often metaphors: the teeth are hard, the tongue is soft, and the teeth are gone, but the tongue is still useful.

The real growth of life lies in this: soft, but more tough.

Softness does not refer to weakness; weak people not only easily hurt in life, but once they fall, it is difficult to get up.

Softness is not escaping, but a kind of calmness.

Just like a small poem:

Although the lights in the house are extinguished,

But I am not afraid of darkness,

Because there are always stars in the sky.

The most beautiful rose is thorns,

But I don't afraid of roses,

Because I have a rose garden, I only appreciate it without picking.

Lao Tzu also said: "The world is weak than water, and the strong who is strong can win, so it is not easy."

The real strong, as soft as water, can be accepted, can be calm on the ground, and is always ready to welcome the sweetness in life.

In the long journey of life, only a soft heart can have a more tougher and lasting vitality.

In this world that is shrouded in reinforced and cement, we must know how to protect the life of life, so as not to let it desertified, and prevent it from becoming hard, rough and cruel.

Instead, letting a mild mood and kindness have more emotions, and more, so as to accommodate and nourish affection and love, and let a warm and soft field grow in the heart.

Source: Dulantea (ID: dulantea)

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