Girls who have a family treatment and restore scene, "chaos": I have never been "for no reason"

The Yangtze River Daily Da Wuhan Client June 15 (Reporter Mao Yin Correspondent Dalisa) constantly comes to each other. Angry children and parents who are almost out of tears are full of tears ... On June 15th, Wuhan Psychological Hospital's heart and body The therapist and nurse in the medical ward restored a real family treatment scene, and finally discovered how the child became a "problem boy" in the eyes of his parents. Psychotherapist Sun Ye said that what parents need to control are not children, but the good heart that thinks about their children.

Xiaoxin had a good academic performance when he was a child. He was the kind of "child of someone else's family", but he did not fit. Parents thought that it was not important to learn as long as you learned well. After going to junior high school, Xiaoxin and her classmates often conflict for a small matter. Under the trouble of various interpersonal issues, she became old -fashioned, her grades also fell, and they often conflicted with their parents at home. To hurt yourself. In the process of "怼" parents, Xiaoxin can see: 14 -year -old girls can not even wear anything to decide by themselves; they are not allowed to ride a little farther away; she likes small animals again and again again and again Buying a puppy, but was always abandoned by her parents ruthlessly ... She expressed: "Why should I follow what you said?"

The psychotherapist of this family treatment is Dr. Sun Ye who has rich experience. After the family members were seated, the therapist briefly introduced the relevant rules of family treatment, and then asked everyone's demand for this treatment. The mother opened first, mainly feedback was the child's learning and emotional problems. Before the mother said, Xiaoxin interrupted her mother and stressed that she did not lose her temper for no reason. There was a reason for her, but every time she said that her mother did not listen. At this time, the father on the side stopped Xiaoxin's speech, and the mother looked at the therapist aggrieved, and said that the situation at home often happened. The therapist expressed his understanding and once again clarified the mother's treatment appeal. After that, she expressed Xiaoxin herself. She felt that she would have some problems occasionally, but more problems were parents. They couldn't understand themselves, always criticized herself, and made her emotions more uncontrollable.

After clarifying the demands of family members, everyone finally discussed the goal of this treatment. It is to form a new interactive model for the family, a solution mode that is conducive to emotional conflict. In this regard, the mother raised opinions, hoping that Xiaoxin could make self -emotional adjustment and control, especially if she could no longer lose her temper to her family and in school. Xiaoxin was very dissatisfied with the opinions made by her mother. When the mother spoke many times, "You said this, can you do it yourself?" The therapist asked Xiaoxin's question and asked family members to ask family members for this. What is the expression of expression. Through such a question, family members feel that Xiaoxin has a strong aggressiveness for her mother, and this strong emotion is that Xiaoxin always feels that his mother is blaming herself, not giving opinions.

The therapist explains the psychological characteristics of the youth, especially the self -esteem, and suggested that family members consider the relevant factors to adjust their opinions. After some discussions, the whole family determined that Xiaoxin could accept the emotional reminder method. Xiaoxin also provided some ways and promised her mother to adjust her self -emotional adjustment first.

Li Wentian, director of the Heart Medical Hobbies, introduced that psychological diseases are not a single process. It is difficult for many young people to relieve emotional problems through self -adjustment. Sometimes more understanding and support for family members, so many teenagers are even more even more than young people. Suitable for family treatment. Family treatment is to focus on the interaction and relationship of family members, assist the family to eliminate abnormalities and morbid conditions to perform healthy family functions.

The child does the wrong question, the parents are more frustrated than the TA; the child's homework is not completed, and the parents are more anxious than TA; the child's academic performance is not good, and the parents are more painful than TA ... Li Wentian said that many parents like to love their children with their own will, Use your own will to oppress your child's will. On the surface, this method is indeed very efficient, but in the long run, it is easy to allow children to move towards two extremes: it is not thorough, everything depends on parents, and has no autonomy; if not completely resist, everything is against parents against parents , Full of attack. No matter what kind of result, it will eventually limit the growth of children. Only by letting children feel that they are "protagonists" can they grow more motivated. What parents need to do is: when children show their determination to become better, they will help TA grow up with a "supporting role" attitude.

[Edit: Yu Lina]

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