Mom is not happy. As a child, do you dare not be happy?

In the past week, I was repeatedly read two books of the same author's peace of mind, and I couldn't help but be attracted by her thorough raising wisdom.

Whether it is "Re -growth" or "Leading Behind Far", I find that the common points in these two books are related to myself, about the growth of parents.

Being a real parent, growing up is the first priority of his parents

For the first time, I knew that being a parent to "be a real parent" was in the three books about the awakening of parents in Shafali Sabari.

Goodbye this time, as if I had strengthened my consciousness of being to be a real parent. I felt that I was familiar with it.

Anxin said in the book:

"Real parents mean to break the myth of my parents' omnipipients. I am not perfect to admit that I am a parent. I am limited. I can accept some behaviors, but I can't accept some behaviors. When it is not wrong or wrong. "

My personal understanding is to admit my limitations and also accept my bad side. As a parent, we don't need to become perfect. We only need to follow our hearts and make our inner more complete.

For example, one night, the younger son said that he would sleep with me again. I was a little sleepy at the time, so I refused him impatiently.

As a result, the younger son also moved angry, his face sank, and his mouth loudly "without sleeping without sleep", he quickly walked into his room and locked the door of the room.

The moment I saw my son's anger, a particularly strong feeling struck, and I felt that I was too impatient and could not bear it, but I was so qi and blood at the time.

so what should I do now?

Later, I ran to the door of my son's room and apologized to my son. The child is the child. He quickly forgive his mother, and we reconciled again.

Of course, at the younger son, he also knew very well that the mother was not perfect, and the mother also had many poor things. Even in the process of raising her brother, my mother has made a lot of mistakes.

Perhaps I am willing to open myself, be willing to face the real self, and at the same time treat the child as a friend to respect and understand, the younger son seems to be able to understand me.

Real and true encounter is precisely because of each other's sincerity, and my children and I have a lot of intentions and rarely use their brains.

That's right, being a real parent, growing up is the first priority.

From the past, I have done a real self, and I feel that I do n’t do anything to believe that I can believe that I can do it. These positive and high -energy beliefs are brought to me by learning.

When I dare to face my true self and be the most authentic myself, I can accept, see and allow my child to be himself.

We are all true.

If your parents grow up, children can grow happily

Thinking of a case that I had been in contact with before, a mother paid for the teacher who said she dared not to be happy.

There is a house and a car at home, and there is no shortage of anything. Her husband is considerate to her, and the child is also obedient, but she will always be afraid that such happiness is fleeting. She does not belong to herself, and she dare not be happy.

Whenever I am happy, I think of my mother, and then I immediately fall into the lost valley. Her father and mother have always been in bad feelings. Mom often counts her father in front of her, saying that her life was destroyed by her father.

After the teacher took the mother to take a deep breath, she meditated for a while, and soon established her body and mind.

In the end, in the in -depth exploration and connection of the mother's inquiry about this mother, she found the fundamental to the problem. She could see the unconscious entanglement of herself and her mother, and also accepted herself. Go out.

The reason why I want to express this case is that the point I want to express is that the emotional state of the parents has a significant impact on the child's life.

When parents are full of anxiety and cannot grow themselves, and they cannot take responsibility for themselves, it is difficult for children to break the spiritual shackles from their parents.

For example, this mother who came to consult, she has been trapped in her mother's emotional state.

When her mother was trying to shirk, but unable to grow up, she was unable to grow up as a mother, and she dared not be happy alone.

As long as you are happy, you will feel sorry for your mother. In this regard, I actually feel deeply.

Before we embarked on the road of self -growth, I felt that my troubles and unhappy were caused by children, all of which were wrong.

After learning to grow up, I found that everything is actually in myself, and I am the person who has the right to decide happiness.

Really, only when parents grow up and grow into real self, they are willing to be responsible for themselves can children grow happily and worry -free.

At the end

There is a word in "Leading Behind Far":

"Parents are the best healing divisions for children. Our reflection and actions can heal children, our patience and acceptance can help children. This little soul with wisdom seeds in the inside will bloom, grow, and have power to go Facing possible storms outside. Because he knows, there is a steady love here. "

As a parent, it is inevitable to make mistakes in the process of raising children, but the important thing is not to do not make mistakes, but to learn to reflect on yourself, work hard, and give your child the best love and the best love and action to give your child the best love and the most. Beautiful self.

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