In the workplace, do you notice these helpless reasons?

In addition to personal thinking can cause acquisition and helplessness, factors such as family environment, study environment, workplace colleagues, and social fashion can also lead to a person's acquisition helplessness. For example, the method of education of excessive discipline and overly doting can easily cause acquisition and helplessness.

Regarding the helplessness caused by over -discipline, some scholars put forward a term: emotional ransom.

Psychologist Susan Furde said in the book "Emotional Strange": "Emotional extorters know us very much, know our weaknesses, and know some secrets in our hearts. To achieve certain purposes, they will use this layer of intimacy to force us to make concessions. "

Those who are extorted by emotions have not been satisfied for a long time, and they are unable to break away from the restraint of the people around them. If the inner self -consciousness is not strong enough, it will be easy to fall into the helplessness.

Adults swallowed the workplace and adversed, often originated from emotional extortion of family environment in childhood.

Although most parents in the family love their children, due to various reasons, some parents' love is to extortion children in the name of "love", "care", and "help".

For example, a child is not good at communication, but likes to think and reveries, but his parents have suffered losing losses because they are not good at interpersonal communication. After many attempts, children have never met their parents' standards, so they become dumb, stay away from interpersonal communication, fear of lively occasions, and even suffer from depression and completely abandon social activities, which will eventually drop out of school. Children no longer want to try to change.

If parents do not realize that their emotional ransom causes their children to learn helplessness, but only find psychological counselors everywhere to treat children's depression, then only cure the standards and the symptoms, and the child's depression can easily recur often because the root cause is just right. Parents' own education methods.

The more common environmental factors in the workplace are more important environmental factors.

For example, if you enter a new unit, you have a specific and detailed work plan, and you have done a very thorough survey in the early stage. If you want to enter the unit, you will implement it according to your plan, promote the work as soon as possible, and make a building.

However, the original unit has a set of potential rules, and the work efficiency and schedule of step -by -step work are also different. There are also differences between people from people from people. If you don't understand the actual situation, you are likely to touch the wall everywhere. As a result, your work is difficult to advance. You feel exhausted and have a great sense of weakness.

The long -term influence of this environment has formed the solidification of thinking subtly, and the result will also cause people who are helpless to be attributed to themselves. Traits, such people have been dyeing for a long time, forming a cultural atmosphere. Everyone in this atmosphere generally attributes the problem to themselves, thinking that everything is their own fault.

This is what people generally pay attention to women in the workplace, but in recent years, there are more and more male depression in recent years, but it is accustomed to being considered strong and powerful in men. Love, escape reality, lack men's temperament.

And if men in the workplace are suppressed by their habits for a long time, and the depression of the entire surrounding environment, once the outbreak is erupted, it is likely to hurt others.

In fact, the inequality of men and women in this kind of people's subconscious also exacerbates the crisis caused by the helplessness.

In addition, each of us will encounter more or less failure, mistakes and some negative evaluations in reality. Some people are influenced by the traditional Chinese culture "three provinces and my body". Failure is attributed to yourself, and even because of excessive self -introspection and reflection of yourself, "exaggerated fantasy" and "self -introspection damage" occurred.

At the same time, I also thought that I had done my best, but the result was still failed, so I concluded that I believed that the effort and not working were similar, so I lay flat to form a acquisition and helpless. Unwilling to play subjective willpower to change and create opportunities.

In the education we received from childhood, we asked to hear the words of parents or teachers, and to be obedient. When we made mistakes, parents and teachers taught us. The purpose is to hope that we reflect on our reasons for correction, and then let us write inspections, reflection or summary. The education we have received from childhood to small to we must find more reasons from ourselves.

But there is a problem here that if the subjective factors are emphasized overly one -sided, and as a result, we often cause selective neglect of objective factors and do not consider the impact of other external factors. Thinking of everything, as long as we are subjective efforts to the limit, we can get our wishes and achieve our own goals and purposes.

Many young people who have first entered the workplace are because such habitual thinking has closed themselves, and they can't jump out in a small circle, and then form a helplessness.

At this point, the phenomenon is thinking, and the reason behind the thinking is culture.

Chapter 5 of Lao Tzu's "De Dao Jing" "Zhonghe" said: "Dao Sheng is one, two life two, two lives and three, three lives all things.

How can I solve the professional psychological imbalance caused by the helplessness?The key lies in the imbalance between the yin and yang of selfishness and selfishness, which will be difficult to endure.Back to Lao Tzu's thoughts, you may find the strategy of cracking the helplessness.

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