The hardships that parents don’t want to eat will eventually fall on their children, and raising children can really not be lazy.

The bitterness that parents don't want to eat will fall on their children

When parents really can't be lazy

When parents, the most afraid of being lazy

Do not work hard, but pin all the hope on the "chicken baby"

Or when the most educated and guiding children, all kinds of excuses to push the responsibility

Remember, for children, parents are the best and most important teachers

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A few days ago I saw a blogger named@Australia Xiaoliang shared such a thing

A former colleague told him that he wanted to wait for his child to grow up and let the child study abroad to study abroad

The reason is that she feels that the domestic environment is too rolled. It is better to be happy abroad, so the blogger replied:

Actually, a carefree child who can live abroad

Most of them are locals. These children not only have various national benefits, they can also apply for family subsidies and unemployment benefits

Enjoy the right to go to school for free, and whether it is school or finding a job than others, but for immigrants from foreign children, it is not necessarily

Especially Chinese children, if you want to stand abroad, you really have to suffer hard work, and life is very hard.

Then the blogger also advised the other party to say

In fact, I want to make the child comfortable, it's very simple

That is, adults have to work hard and eat all the bitterness that should be eaten

If you want to go abroad, you will go abroad first. When you come out of the world, the child will naturally be very comfortable.

Otherwise, if you don't work hard, you look forward to sending your children out in the future, and it will undoubtedly transfer the hardships you have not eaten to the child!

Indeed, in life, it is not difficult to find

Many parents always habitually want all the hopes to pin on their children

However, the reality is that parents are the starting point of children

Many times, what do parents look like?

"Looking for a dragon, looking at a woman into a phoenix" is a very beautiful wish

But parents should also understand the truth, if you can't do anything, you don't work hard

So how do you ask your child to be out of place?

Therefore, as a parent, you must remember

You do n’t want to eat hard, all will fall on your children's shoulders in the future, so be a parent, you must not be lazy!

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I chatted with a friend before and talked about the college entrance examinations in the past few years

I said unpredictablely, I really envy those indigenous people in Beijing, and my life is so good. I am easier than others.

I thought my friends would refute me, and by the way, I criticized the difficulty of the Beijing test papers

What do you know that friends have returned to me slowly

"Grandpa is coming early, if you start now, your offspring can lie flat."

I really think about it.

Take a friend around me, for example, the ancestor was originally rural, but the friend’s grandfather is very inspirational.

I have been admitted to the university all the way, I still bought a house in the city, and I set up a factory

However, this friend’s father has been lazy since he was a child. When he grows up, he doesn’t want to struggle, so he is thinking about being old.

When I did n’t do a serious matter in my life, when I was the friend's turn, I had to work hard from scratch.

Because of this, this friend often said with emotion

"My dad should be able to fight for some anger, even if it's not so mixed? I don’t need to work so hard now."

Many parents have not been able to go in the way, not in advance

But always the hope that the children can take the ancestors and make their faces. In the end, it can only be "a bamboo basket to hit the water for a while", and even the relationship between parents and children is not good.

Like the recently broadcast "Happy to Wanjia", the Wang family supports the whole family and supports Wang Qingzhi

Is Qing Zhi excellent? Very excellent, but when facing his girlfriend Ani, he was inferior in his heart

why? In the final analysis, the native family is not good, and the parents are too promising, especially the father of Qing Zhi

Imagine if Qingzhi is the child of Wan Shantang, then even if he has climbed the other party

I don't think he will inferiority, because Wan Shantang dares to make a dare to do it, and he is very responsible!

So, instead of persecuted the child, it is better to work hard by yourself

Rather than getting the child, it is better to roll yourself, only parents strictly ask themselves

For example, do a good example for children

Then the child will follow up naturally

03

Someone once said such a sentence:

"Three generations always have a generation of people to suffer, either you suffer, or your child is suffering."

As a parent, how do we bear to let our children suffer?

The parents of the protagonist Zanne in "Why don't you think the home" itself is poor in family, and life is not guaranteed.

But they don't want to fight to improve their lives

Instead, give birth to a child in exchange for government relief and increase the labor force of the family.

As a result, Zanen and other younger brothers and sisters have suffered from a child

Not only do you often endure hunger, but also bear the burden of load -bearing life

And the younger sister was sold to the vendor by her parents, and finally died because it was difficult to produce.

So at the end of the movie, this little boy Zhan En, who had suffered life, decided to sue his parents

I want to tell the world through my own experience

"If your parents are unable to raise your child, don't regenerate, you don't raise it, why don't you think"

In life, we often hear some parents say

"Children and grandchildren have children and grandchildren, I can control so much"

So these parents are so at ease to choose "lying down", or ignore the education and guidance of children

As a result, the child is not suffering haha, or because of the lack of education and was eliminated by society

One of my relatives, as a teacher for a lifetime, did not even fall in the end

The reason is that when the house price is low, the teacher's salary is also low

So when everyone was buying a house, this relative felt that if I spent money to buy a house

Then the two sons will go to college in the future, and marry a daughter -in -law will have no money.

So the old classmate gave him a place to buy a house, but he did not hesitate to refuse

After that, I have been renting a house with my family

As a result, it was difficult to provide both sons from the past few years.

But the children's work must be arranged, and he has to pay for him to marry a daughter -in -law and buy a house.

What is even more terrible is that compared to house prices more than ten years ago, today's house prices are really rising. I do n’t know how many times it

So this relative had to borrow money everywhere, carried hundreds of thousands of debts, and bought both sons and married a daughter -in -law.

But he and his wife can only live in a small single room rented

At this time, the relative remembered the friends who helped him to buy a house in the same year and told the other party to tell the other party

"I regret not buying a house at first. You see you buy a house early, and there are at least two suits in your hand, but I have a debt in the end."

And every time a family gathering, this relative will say

"When parents do n’t pin their hopes on their children, they have a chance to rise. If they live better, they must seize the opportunity, first work hard, and work hard to live. Come on "

Yes, it is not difficult to find in life, those who don’t know how to improve ourselves

Blind the trouser belt, and send the person who wants to be on the child

The child is either a white -eyed wolf, or it is completely reduced to the old people

On the contrary, those parents who can pay more attention to improving themselves and work hard

Their children often become more confident, and they know more than grateful, and they will be more interesting in the future.

mutual encouragement!

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