[Psychological Health] The so -called growth is to slowly accept your ordinaryness!

Wang Guozhen wrote in "Ordinary Charm":

"I won't despise ordinary people, because I am a member of ordinary people. I have the wishes of ordinary people in my heart, and the sadness and joy of ordinary people are printed in my eyes. What I find is also the answer that people are seeking. "

Growing is a process that discovers and accepts ordinary. Life, in the end, need to reconcile with your own, ordinary life.

You and I are all named and born in the world. Unknown, all beings, we work hard to survive.

Most people do their best, and after all, they can only have an ordinary life.

People will live throughout their lives, but they are abducted by the world, do not abduct themselves with worldly fame, and be the enemy of ordinary self.

01

A few days ago, when I packed the old book, I found that the English -Chinese dictionary was posted on a note -you will eventually be extraordinary.

The kite of memory floats back to the high school era.

When I saw myself, my waist pole was straight, and after Zheng Zhengzhong wrote "You will be extraordinary", and carefully paste the note on the English -Chinese dictionary. The sacred face is like the Bible on the Bible.

At that time, I dreamed that I was in the North China University, dreaming of being a big scientist, and dreaming of changing the world ...

I regard myself as the exaggerated father and the Yugong who moved the mountain, and a spirit of spurring myself, showing the heroic nature in the crossing of the sea.

But everything looks like a joke:

In the end, I did not admit to Tsinghua University of Peking University, nor could I become a big scientist, let alone change the world.

I used to think that I was omnipotent like a superman, but after tossing for more than ten years, I found that I couldn't be ordinary.

I can't do what others can't do.

I can't do what others can do.

One day, when reading an article, I suddenly saw a sentence: "We work so hard, but to become an ordinary person."

There was a pain in my heart, tears flowing.

02

Since childhood, the question we have asked the most is: "What is your dream?"

We scrambled to answer: "I want to be a star", "I want to be an entrepreneur" ...

If your dream is just an ordinary person, you will be scoffed by your elders and teachers.

A reader called "TT" left a message in the background:

In middle school, Grandpa asked us a few grandchildren and children: "What is the ideal?"

She replied, "Housewives."

Grandpa immediately held a family meeting and conducted severe criticism and education for her.

From small to large, we have been educated to be a dragon and phoenix among ordinary people.

Therefore, we often have high expectations for ourselves. When we cannot complete such expectations, we will add expectations to children.

But we forgot or ignore a little:

A person's life is probably ordinary.

90%of the world's people are ordinary people, 9%of people have small success, and 1%of people can make great success.

Therefore, for the vast majority of people, moving towards ordinary is our final ending.

As the ancient saying says: "You have the reputation of a prodigy, you are pregnant with great ambitions, long and unknown, but in the end, it is the same as the grass and trees."

One day, I will become the father who watched my son's swing, you will be silently stacked with a shirt and thinking about the previous woman, just sooner or later.

03

Many Chinese people have been fighting with ordinary life throughout their lives.

We hate that unsuccessful self.

We complain about the unsuccessful child.

We complain about the unsuccessful parents.

Double Eleven saw a data: 80 and post -90s purchased 85%of sleep aid products. Why is the post -80s and 90s have such a great mental pressure?

A netizen replied: "The two generations of our two generations have grown in an era of high economic growth. The education from a young age is to teach us how to become excellent and how to win others in competition."

Writer Liang Xiaosheng was invited to give a lecture at a university. When he communicated with his student, a boy said amazingly: "If I before the age of 30, before the age of 35, I can't get rid of ordinary, then I commit suicide."

Liang Xiaosheng asked: "What is extraordinary?"

"To have a certain social status, you must have a considerable amount of money, or you must have a certain power ..."

Later, when Liang Xiaosheng received an American friend.

My friend asked: "You seem to be afraid of what you are in your hearts, what is it?"

Liang Xiaosheng replied: "I'm afraid of an ordinary thing."

My friend asked: "What is it?"

Liang Xiaosheng said, "It is the life of ordinary people itself."

Friends are extremely surprised:

"It's too incomprehensible. Most of us are willing to be ordinary people, live an ordinary life, and take an ordinary life. Do you really think that ordinary is not good enough to return with terrible things?"

is not that right? We are not afraid of death, we are afraid of ordinary.

04

Lin Yutang said, happiness is simple:

"One is to sleep on my own bed, the other is to eat food made by parents, the third is to listen to lovers to speak love, and the fourth is to play games with children."

Chen Daoming said that happiness is the couple sitting under the window:

"She embroidered her flowers, I cut my leather bag. The leaves outside the window were silent, and the time in the house was quiet."

There are big immortal and small immortal in the world. The big immortality is the world's must say to you. Those who do not know you remember you after you die, but the small immortal is just a person who loves you remember you.

One day, a friend asked me, "What are the most important things you have done in your life?"

I replied, "The most important thing I have done in my life is to accept that I am an ordinary person, that is, accepting my family is an ordinary person." Then, he asked, "Don't you think ordinary life is boring?"

I replied: As an ordinary person can feel the bitterness and bitterness, it is enough to report to me to come to this fireworks all the time. "

If we can't be a poet, we can also be a poem.

There are no protagonists in the world. Most people may be willing to be lonely and ordinary.

Accepting ordinary is the most extraordinary thing.

05

Like the line of the movie "的":

"Do you know? In any direction of the wind, the grass will fall in that direction. When I was young, I once thought I was the wind, but in the end I was bruised all over the body. I realized that we were all grass."

The so -called growth is a process of discovering and accepting "I am ordinary" -finally understanding that I have limited ability, so I began to accept my ordinary and small.

Perhaps the most important thing for a person's life is to admit that he is an ordinary person.

In this life, the so -called maturity is four acceptance:

Accepting parents is an ordinary person,

Accepting yourself is an ordinary person,

Accepting a partner is an ordinary person,

Accepting children is an ordinary person.

Then on the basis of acceptance, then use the ability to grab happiness from ordinary life.

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