I don’t know how to talk about a period of love, all of which have these three characteristics

Author: Chen Dali

I have always felt that many girls around me couldn't talk about a relationship.

Girls who can talk well in love actually have a lot of commonalities in the personality and mentality of love: rationality and love as the only one in life. Essence

However, with my observations in recent years, it is not easy to love "reasonable".

Those who are not in love are also common. For example, selfishness, sensitivity, and always thinking about "good love is smooth and neat, I don't need to work hard" ...

I summarized a few points, hoping to encourage everyone.

1. Emotional outlook is unrealistic

The requirements for lifelong partners, just as the requirements for life, should not be too harsh, nor can it be whimsical.

A few days ago, I went to work with my boyfriend to date. On the dinner table, he ate a few sips of dishes and put down the chopsticks and said to me, "You see the girl behind you, it seems like a friend in Beijing before."

It is very typical. Because of the good -looking, he started to surround a group of wealthy children at the beginning of college. For a weekend, ordinary college students need to save money from living expenses for a weekend, but she takes a luxury car and lives in a five -star hotel. Since then, she has no way to accept the life that is not on that level. She said: "My other half must be very generous, take me to spend, give me a rich life, I don't mind everything else."

——I think she has made concessions as long as she has money, but she has a skinny pocket, no family background, and no elite parents who support her long -term development. She is always briefly selected.

We told her, maybe a rich man also values ​​the other half of his family? She didn't believe it.

There is also a friend who always imagines that he can find a perfect spouse: he can not ask himself to pay for the marriage relationship, willing to give up his preferences and lifestyle for himself, he must be careful, considerate, humorous ... .. It can meet almost all needs of their material and feelings.

I just want to say that this is not looking for a partner, but is pursuing a perfect illusion.

Love is not a family, not "this child has a toy I like, you can walk with me". Choosing a partner must not be unclear and high, and put his own view of mate selection in the cloud.

When you ask others to bring these, you must first answer: What you have, can you bring equal value to the other party. You can answer more than anyone: why are you selected.

2. Self -logic first

It seems difficult for people who are too self -self.

My friend told me such a thing. A girl asked her boyfriend to treat all festivals as Valentine's Day. I usually want the other party to buy anything and never consider the price; brush the food at a time in the morning, and wake up the boyfriend who has just finished get off work, and let him bake egg tart to eat. The key is that everything at home, in fact, she can do it herself

—— but she feels that since you say you love me, you should do your best to take care of my emotions and life.

Love is not a complex relationship that can be summarized by "unilateral compromise", but many girls are like this. When they are in love, they think boys should obey their minds anytime, anywhere.

I am a school girl, and in her sophomore year, she became the "Fengyun figure" of the entire college, just because she asked her boyfriend of the same school to cross the school's oblique angle every day, and took breakfast under the dormitory building to wait for her to take her to class. Essence

One day, because the boy was a few minutes late, she became furious and asked her boyfriend why she was late today to delay her early class.

Finally, of course, it is ugly.

Observed a few couple friends who have been dating for many years. Their tolerance and care are firm double arrows. Boys will take leave to accompany girls to re -examination with strange cities. Girls will get up in the middle of the night to bring toothache to the emergency department.

Love is the experience and feelings of the two parties. It also requires the efforts of both parties to maintain. If you get along too much, if you are too self -immersed in "giving" and "care", it is undoubtedly an excessive weight of the balance of love for love.

There has been no reason to be loved for no reason, and you have to let the other party see "you cherish him too".

Third, the contradictions that are not stable and self -consistent

Just a few days ago, I was pulled by a college roommate to talk about the pain of love all night.

I am embarrassed to say that I thought her object was so diligent before, and it must be a full -class love player.

Although she really understands some love skills than those "love Xiaobai", but because the parents -parents divorced very early, and then they had a new family. Blood, it is difficult for her to have a long -lasting feeling and trust. I always think about the west sensitively, pessimistic and twisted, and I want to be loved, and from time to time to push the other party.

The symptoms are that the unhappy families are not stable and self -consistent, and they are still unstable about their lives in front of them. It is even more everywhere to obtain a sense of security by establishing a relationship with another person.

In fact, as it is linger in the crowd, it is hoped that to get the same redemption from different parties. Run a few more ways to find yourself, see yourself, and stable yourself in the process of seeing the world.

When you don't need the sweetness or security of the outside world so, you will no longer be so fascinating and hysterical about intimacy.Your self is stable, and intimacy really adds icing on your cake.

No matter which stage, love is a very important part of life.

Although I have been unable to agree with good love, there is a template, but the ending of the end is not very good. Looking back, there must be a trace to follow.

It is very difficult for a long -term and stable love to love. It needs to pull away all the clouds and fogs, bypass the charm of the charm, and the wind and rain shakes, but when you see the blue sky after the clouds and fog, from the sunset to the sunrise, the sun will never fall down.Essence

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