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In the past two days, New Oriental Dong Yuhui made a hot search for a billionaire.

Soon, this "Boss Luo" was exposed. His family history was the infamous campus of the originator of the campus.

After that, Dong Yuhui also responded to the pull -out incident in the live broadcast:

"Oriental selection is the company's number, which has nothing to do with me. The director's brother has just graduated from college, and sometimes some personal grievances. He wants to pull black. After hearing it, I feel quite reasonable."

This reply is really advanced, both attitude and irony.

Compared with those stars with hundreds of millions of stars with "Boss Luo", Dong Yuhui's soberness has made countless people clamoring.

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Speaking of which, Dong Yuhui and the New Oriental Live Room suddenly became popular, and the popularity kept high.

Last month, the New Oriental live room suddenly became popular, and "Fang Face Anchor" Dong Yuhui walked into the public sight.

Nowadays, no less than 100,000 people watch each live broadcast. He talks to the camera and looks relaxed and confident.

Who would have thought that just one year ago, he was still in anxiety and pain, and he had been in the darkness in the darkness.

Dong Yuhui was originally a new Oriental teacher. He loves education because it can change young people one by one, which is very meaningful.

However, in 2021, New Oriental suffered the biggest crisis, and the change of career became a choice of having to do.

Dong Yuhui stepped down the lecture hall he loved and bid farewell to many colleagues who once fighting side by side. He began to seriously doubt his value.

When he first started broadcasting, he wanted to give up every day.

When the teacher, as long as you look back, you can see more than a hundred pairs of dedicated eyes and look at him seriously.

It can be done for live broadcast. No audience cares about what he said, and no one listens. At first he couldn't even sell 9 and 9 things.

You have to face the scolding of netizens, and some people will comment: "Can you find a better look in tens of thousands of employees in New Oriental?"

All this made him feel frustrated and frustrated.

Last July and August was the time when Dong Yuhui was the most insomnia. A huge sense of gap broke his pride. He was afraid that he was not suitable for this transformation at all.

Every night he had a hard time to sleep, he had the idea of ​​giving up countless times.

Fortunately, after waking up every day, he will start to reflect on himself:

"Do you do this for this matter and do your best? Is there no regret?"

Dong Yuhui often thinks:

"Every time Teacher Yu Minhong comes, the number of audiences can reach more than 10,000. You only have only one thousand people and two thousand people in front of the screen? It is not that this thing cannot be done. It is not that you are not enough.

Don't think that the track is not worth struggling, you have to cultivate your ability. "

Under such beliefs, he began to focus on improving the level of live broadcast.

Today, am I not accurate words? Did you not make clear product information? Is there no good expression in front of the camera?

In continuous learning and resumption, Dong Yuhui slowly accepted the new track, and his over -anxiety gradually dissipated.

He started selling goods while class, and finally ushered in the popularity overnight.

Dong Yuhui said in the interview:

"Many times luck may come or not, but this does not affect your heart that you must adhere to. Pain comes from dissatisfaction with the status quo. Only those who are not satisfied with the status quo will be painful. All this. Anxiety is also right, indicating that you want to do better. People who pain and anxiety are often real you and me. "

There are some accidents and luck in Dong Yuhui's popularity, but from the initial anxiety of the transformation, to the process of self -acceptance, and reviving the process of re -reviving the constraint, it is an experience that many adults will encounter.

Looking back at Dong Yuhui's transformation, you will find that his mentality changes plays a very critical role, and this attitude is actually worthy of our reference and learning.

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Anxiety is a topic that everyone can't escape or can't get around.

I am academic anxiety when reading; I am employment anxiety at graduation; after work, it is performance, prospect, life ... everything may become the incentives of anxiety.

Recently, I am reading a psychological book "How to Stop Watching". The author believes that a small amount of anxiety is helpful. It can ignite our passion and encourage us to carry out work, but excessive anxiety will "kidnap" our brain.

I agree.

Most of the time, a person's attitude towards pain and anxiety will determine his life state.

A study by Yale psychologist Alia Clarm shows that:

Stress mentality will create your different mental state -anxiety or anxiety.

The so -called stress mentality refers to the psychological "lens" used when you cope or understand some experience.

If your stress mentality is negative, you will often act with fear and worry about all possible negative things.

Then, negative things often follow, like self -realization predictions.

But when you look at the world through optimistic "lens", or deal with new problems without fear, you will be more likely to be satisfied with life.

Life will never be perfect. Time, energy, and brainpower that are used in worries to draw a better future picture of the future, so that even if you fall into the worst environment, you can still control your own life.

With different stressful mentality, you will live a completely different life. It is easy to say that it is easy to say, but it is not easy for people who are used to negative mentality.

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When you are caught in unruly anxiety for various reasons, what should you do to resolve or relieve anxiety?

The key point mentioned in "How to Stop" is that we have to learn to do some little care.

① Find your pause key

Life is too busy, so busy we often forget to care for ourselves.

As a result, many people often rely on addictive behaviors or addiction substances to help them deal with the conflict of life. They do not know that this is a move that actively damages themselves.

So how do we learn to care for ourselves in a busy life?

Psychologists believe that exercise and meditation are all self -care behaviors. It can help you form an inner suspension key.

When you feel uncomfortable or unpredictable, exercise can make you put your mind on the problem, and meditation will make you observe your emotional ups and downs without judging.

Sports and meditation can teach us to pay attention to our own state of thinking, which enhances our ability to press the pause key.

After a period of time, when you develop the habit of exercise or meditation, your anxiety will gradually disappear, and your thoughts will change.

Thinking of a detail that Dong Yuhui revealed in an interview, the house he rented was on the side of the North Fourth Ring Road, and the fourth ring was Peking University.

During the most serious anxiety last year, he insomnia all night, so he turned around Peking University.

As a result, after a lot of turns, he slowly accepted the huge change.

Turning around the campus of Peking University, this is actually close to the state of exercise and meditation.

Take a little time every day, do some exercise or meditation, may make you anxious and harvest unexpected results.

② Listen to the inner voice

A female sculptor in Southeast Asia, all the animals she carved had very long legs, and a black sheep was printed on the floor.

Long legs symbolize difficulties, and black sheep is a sign. Even if you get along well with your "tribe", you can always find a path that allows you to follow your heart and gain success.

This carving style is closely related to the growth experience of the sculptor himself.

She has loved sculpture and love art from an early age, but because of her poor family, she can barely maintain her livelihood. All family members do not support her dream of creating art works.

The family wants her life to be more secure, and art is unreliable.

In addition, the artist himself is also worried about letting his family disappointed, and more afraid of disappointing himself.

She is eager to use art to realize her dream, but she is worried that her family is correct -she will never succeed.

Every day, she is repeatedly tangled in insistence and abandonment.

However, because of her desire for creation, she chose to set aside anxiety, obey the call of her heart, and sneak out of the house to create.

And this time, she eventually made her a popular sculptor.

I gradually discovered that the anxiety of many people actually comes from the extreme incompatibility of reality and inner needs.

For example, it is clearly like creating, but can only engage in mechanical repeated work; introverted personality, but you have to deal with different people every day; obviously like stability, but chose to change the industry with great change ...

This kind of unsuitable, of course, is of course good, but most people will only be decadent in the anxiety of the day.

If you want to reduce the anxiety caused by this non -matching, first of all, you have to learn to obey your heart.

Change the diet structure, get rid of abnormal relationships, replace a promising job, or give up the attempt to squeeze into a "circle".

If you face your anxiety, you dare to jump into the dangerous abyss of "change", maybe you can open the door to the new world.

I have read such a sentence:

"Young people, your responsibility is to flatten land, not anxiety. You do what you do in March and April, and you have your own answers in August and September."

Blessing, blessing and blessing, instead of anxiety in the future, it is better to start, starting from learning to really care for yourself.

Author: Yan Yan, I read the main creators, and my life has the end, and I know there is no end.

Reference materials:

Daily characters: New Oriental Anti

GQ Lab: When a New Oriental teacher starts selling vegetables

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