The biggest regret in the world is that I have never said goodbye

What is farewell?

Dong Qing gave the answer on "Lang Reader":

"Farewell, the end is also the beginning, it is pain and hope; and the best attitude facing farewell is to say goodbye."

In life, there are thousands of farewell every day.

The couple broke up, the marriage was broken, the loved ones farewell, and the friends left, all proved the truth:

There is no eternal gathering in the world, only constantly separating.

All kinds of yesterday, such as yesterday, died yesterday, today, such as born today.

Can't let go of the memories of the past, cutting constant resentment and hatred, can only let yourself fall into the pain and lick the wound silently.

When people reach middle age, they should learn to reconcile with themselves, and to say goodbye: "Goodbye".

01

The past is gone, not blame in the past

In the movie "Manchester by the Sea", a sad story is told.

In the play, the male lead feels that the room is very cold. After lit the stove, he went to the supermarket to buy things, but forgot to put the fireproof board in front of the fireplace.

Then, the wood rolled to the living room and caused a tragedy.

His wife divorced him, and he borrowed wine all day to let him live in endless pain and blame.

Many years later, because of the death of his brother, the male lead saw his ex -wife at the funeral.

At this moment, the ex -wife has come out of the fire, with a new family and children.

The ex -wife let go of it. From the beginning, the male lead stopped and trapped in the past. The different mentality of the two also made them very different in their lives.

It will not be erased in the past. It will become the memory of the memory, but the footsteps must be moved forward, and the eyes are looking forward.

Time will not go backwards, and many people sink or escape in the quagmires in the past, but few people face reality.

The harm of the past, no matter how many regrets now, are not helpful. It is better to turn the past to see the dawn of the future.

Just as the Japanese writer Yimen Benana's words in the novel "Kitchen".

"It is impossible for people to meet with their beloved people forever. No matter how deep the sadness, it will disappear, just like the passage of time."

Yes, life is always going on. Life and death are the normality of the world. Instead of gloomy in the past, it is better to look forward and work hard to spend the future.

Those who died, let it keep my heart forever, in the past, "goodbye" with it.

The memories of being stationed in my heart, whether pain or beauty, will become a kind of experience in life, and eventually turn into a confidence to welcome the future.

02

The feelings that can't go back, say goodbye

There is a question and answer in Zhihu: "Do you want to continue your feelings?"

A respondent said: "No one can go back to the past, but everyone can start from now."

I am not afraid of being distraught for the emotions that I ca n’t go back.

To middle age, the best attitude in the face of the past feelings is to say "goodbye" decently.

In the book "Mountain Tea Stationery Store", the protagonist Bobo mainly made a living on behalf of others. He once wrote a special farewell letter.

One day, a middle -aged man came to the shop and wanted to write a letter to Bobo on behalf of everyone who had attended his wedding.

The original intention of his letter was not to invite these people to participate in his wedding anniversary, but to inform him of divorce from his wife.

He wanted to express his gratitude to his relatives and friends who once warmly guarded their husband and wife.

Fifteen years of marriage, they also spent happily.

At the same time, he sincerely apologized to them, even if there is a blessing of their blessings, he did not let him and his wife work together.

But I also hope that these relatives and friends can continue to support them and move towards different lives.

The way the man farewell to the emotion is the best interpretation of the best, the best of each student.

In life, there are always people who are noisy when they break up, and they are scrambled.

I do n’t know, no matter how much entanglement, I ca n’t return to the beginning of the story, and it cannot change the ending of the separation.

Just like the song "Delivery" singing: "Why do you have to destroy the classics for many years; you have not been delayed and not owed ... if you don't have time, you will retain the dignity of farewell. I love you and respect the story. end."

Once in the happiest attitude, we greet this relationship. Now, we must also say "goodbye" to it with the most solemn ritual.

The relationship to the end is good for gathered, at least what stays in my heart is always the beauty.

Farewell to say goodbye and endorsement for this relationship is the maturity and stability of middle -aged people.

Careful farewell is not only respect for the once emotions, but also retains the last decentness of the two.

03

The farewell of adults is silent

Friends swallow, grew up with me, has a close relationship with sisters.

We go to school and play together every day. From elementary school to high school, we are almost inseparable.

Even if the university is not on a campus, we have to get tired of each holiday, talk about all the life of college life, and spend the whole youth in mutual companionship.

After graduation, we went to different cities and married and had children in different places.

At the beginning, we often maintained contact. Later, their respective focus of life tilted to her husband, children, and countless life trivia.

From the beginning of daily, to several months of contact, in the end, we gradually drifted away, like a stranger.

In the state of the circle of friends, we never saw the group photo and ridicule of the two of us. There is a hidden wall between us, separating each other. It can be visible to each other, but it can no longer be incorporated into each other's lives.

Over time, in the chat and conversation, there is only one avatar left to witness our past.

There is no reason, no signs, the friendship of adults seems to be that should have been, in the calmness, from familiarity to strange.

And this may be the farewell of adults, silent, even "goodbye".

This reminds me of a word that Yishu said:

"Gao happiness is also walking, and the grievances are also gone.

In life, smart people never spend time on death, but cherish every minute and every second, because they understand, no matter how precious feelings, there is also the day of being lost.

Everyone is a cloud, and they will float to the distance they should go with the wind. The real friendship is not to make every effort to please forced, but to let it go.

When you came, I opened my hands and hugged. When you left, I bowed my head silently.

The silent farewell, even unsatisfactory, was better than deliberately disturbing.

Writer Milan Kundera said: "This is a world of popular leaving, but we are not good at saying goodbye."

The world is impermanent. Farewell is the norm in life. Everyone does not like to separate, but everyone must learn to say goodbye.

Say goodbye, do not compare with yourself, do not entangle with the past, do not entangle with others, can laugh at peace.

Life is short, and if you want to go again, everyone can smiled and bid farewell in the age of years, and lived with a smile and lively.

About the author: Mingyue Yuxin, life is endless, the writing is endless, writing with heart, writing with my pen, and writing, each writing is my newborn.

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