In fact, I don't need your "response".

one.

One day when I had lunch, my roommate shared a vibrato video with me, which was a collection of several pairs of JK high heels.

When she saw a pair of black lace JK high -heeled shoes, she shook my arms and screamed, and I could feel: she likes this pair of shoes very much.

The roommate has a cabinet JK, but there is no pair of high heels. Every time she wore JK, she didn't know how to match it.

That night, I secretly found Taobao for more than half an hour, joined the same shoes to the shopping cart, and decided to give her as a birthday gift seven months later.

Prevent yourself forgotten, remember to remember in the label at that time

On the birthday of my roommate, I determined her shoe code with other roommates. On her birthday, she gave her black lace JK high heels.

She was really happy that she changed all kinds of skirts that night, just to better match it, and praised me in the circle of friends.

I like this "response".

Whether it is to others or others.

two.

But it seems that not everyone likes to "respond".

That night, my boyfriend and I were walking by the Lover's Lake. Sitting on the stone bench, I inadvertently saw that his arm was full of mosquitoes, and I thought to himself to give him green grass.

After returning to the dormitory, I made an order in Meituan.

I handed the grass cream in the hands of my boyfriend with expectations, and said to him, "Last night, I watched a lot of mosquito bags on your hand, so I bought it for you."

But when my boyfriend received it, he kept telling me that there was no need to send it.

I don't understand why there is no need to send it, so I asked him.

It turned out that his dormitory had wind and oil essence, and felt that he would waste the grass cream I sent, so I thought I didn't need to send it.

I thought he would be as happy as a roommate.

After that, I started to think: What exactly can move people?

It seems that the response I have always thought is not the answer. After all, I remember the details of "the arms are all mosquito bags", and I also responded -I bought him a grass paste.

But he felt redundant.

three.

So I found a roommate and asked her why she would be so happy that day.

"Please, you are really attentive."

"Moreover, I really need a pair of high heels."

She was surprised to remember that she was happy because of her needs.

She said that before I gave her high heels, she considered whether she liked, whether she needed, and how much shoe code was.

I suddenly remembered my birthday that year.

At ten o'clock a day before my life, I was barbecue at the takeaway group, but unfortunately the boss was not delivered.

At 12 o'clock in the morning, my friend brought me barbecue downstairs in the dormitory to bless me a happy birthday.

It turned out that my friend "grabbed" me in the takeaway group, and kept instructing me to give me a friend: "Let her not eat so full."

He was worried that I couldn't eat the barbecue. I turned to eat the burgers fried chicken, and I couldn't eat it in the end.

I suddenly realized that there were differences between response and response.

If I did not determine the shoe code of my roommate over and over, those high heels could only be ashes in the end.

If a friend did not secretly ordered the roommate, I would definitely eat multiple pizza. Those barbecue would be thrown into the trash can in the end because the roommates did not eat or eat.

Recalling that when I prepared grass paste for my boyfriend that day, I was more immersed in "Oh my god, so he will be happy".

I ignored whether he really needed grass paste, whether there are other alternatives.

I thought it would be enough as long as there was something.

But the fact is,

Even if it is a kind of good intention, it is just superfluous.

Four.

If you now open station B, Douyin searches for "response", you can definitely find many related videos.

It seems that we have always had a response to our mouths, and felt that it was the answer to "how to move people."

But in fact, I don't think it's "responding to everything."

It's as if I shared it with great interest: "I just ate a big watermelon."

Then the other party responded: "Really, what taste."

I think sometimes we are really stubborn.

Feeling a certain characteristic can represent love. For example, the so -called "every sharing has some response."

In fact, ten low -quality, not in place responses are far less than the other party's sincere memory and preparation.

I have brushed such a sentence on Xiaohongshu: "Companion is not attending."

At first I didn't understand this sentence very much, and now I suddenly understand -the so -called getting along is the most afraid of walking.

Suddenly understand how some feelings fade.

When we know the form that the other person wants too much, we will accidentally "go through the field" again and again.

Then in this formalized getting along, confuses the other party's real need.

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