"A Life of an Ordinary Girl"

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The first time I talked to my friends about this problem, it was the day Tangshan's beating incident was just exposed.

A friend asked: Why are there always girls who are injured every time? Is it a girl who is asked to pay attention to that?

We are speechless.

But as a girl, I dreamed of it seriously. From birth to old, a girl wants to have a smooth and comfortable life.

In addition to your own efforts, you also need a lot of efforts to come by yourself and society.

This is the first time you have entered the campus,

Although it is just an ordinary kindergarten,

But the teachers and children there are very good.

At first you are a bit uncomfortable,

But it won't take a few days,

You will make a piece with everyone,

You will drag the teacher’s arm and coquettish,

Like your mother coquettish.

Can you keep this innocence all the time?

Yes, but the premise is:

You will not meet a irritable teacher,

The teacher can't beat people,

No one will bring you to the small black house,

Speaking some strange words,

Do something strange and keep you confidential.

No stranger suddenly holds candy to seduce you,

You can go home every day to eat every day,

Falling asleep in my mother's story.

No one takes strange illustrations and sentences,

Put it into your textbooks and extracurricular books,

You can also from the illustration characters flashed in those eyes,

Find the desire for knowledge and grow up.

Yes, you are just a 3 -year -old child,

Your safety is not enough to rely on yourself.

You start to leave your parents and go to an unfamiliar city,

Start your college life.

in this period,

You will know many people with different personalities,

You have to adapt to living with them,

Learn to get along with different people.

You will also make new friends,

There will be people who like and hate,

You will find a hobby and belief that makes you bloody,

All of this,

Both are named youth.

Can your youth be only happy?

Yes, but the premise is:

You will not be isolated and bullying by the people around you,

The school will not ask such incidents.

You will not encounter the opposite sex that is fainted by hormones,

You have to learn to protect yourself,

You must also learn to seek protection from the people around you.

This is the critical moment when you enter the adult world from the school.

You will find that the world and campus life of adults are completely different.

Many things you have to adapt and learn from scratch.

But the company's colleagues are very friendly,

Colleagues who do not love to make small reports,

There is no relationship with me,

Nor the boss of 996 as a faith,

Although you don't make much money, you are also content.

The city where you are,

Public order and barbecue are good,

Summer night,

You can meet your friends freely,

It can be eaten too late.

You will not encounter an online car driver with unexpected intentions,

It will not meet irritable irritability.

First experience in adult world,

It is not perfect, but it is definitely not bad.

At least you can grow safely and freely,

Such a simple life,

For many girls like you,

It is already an extraordinary thing.

You finally met the man who wanted to get married.

Although at the age of 30, I met true love,

It's really slower than others,

But you know more clearly than yourself in any age,

What kind of person do you want to love,

What kind of life.

He is not so handsome, but his face is beautiful,

The circle of life is clean,

Do not smoke, occasionally drink some wine,

But it always lasts.

He is not a top who is pulling in the industry,

But for work never slack,

I won't complain all day,

You will always become calm and security with him.

He is not rich,

There is a house in the small town,

The house is not big,

Live you two just right.

The important thing is that his parents are very open -minded,

Seeing your first side, it is clear that it will not be born,

I won't live with you,

That clear sense of boundary,

Let respect to the two words look specific.

Although,

Marriage is an essential part of the life of most people.

But fortunately, your marriage,

Start because of heartbeat,

With freedom as the background, it is escorted by respect.

There is another little life in your body.

Accompanied by joy,

It is unavoidable and panic.

Your friend tells you,

After her maternity leave, she is

Forced to adjust the salary reduction,

I went to a job that I didn't like completely.

A neighbor in your community, in order to take care of the child,

The career choice of her husband was a full -time mother.

It was less than half a year,

She was dragged down by housework and children into a person who did not repair.

You often take a walk after dinner,

Hearing her and her husband quarreled.

But once,

They have also been as loving as you,

So you are afraid,

Their will become your future.

I was so embarrassed that the day came to the day when the official maternity leave.

Leader to talk to you alone,

And give you a detailed arrangement after maternity leave,

And promise to retain the original position for you,

Await your return.

And you find a thick diary under your husband's pillow,

The dense hemp is full of how to take care of babies and pregnant women.

I have accumulated many days of anxiety and doubts,

All disappeared.

Very true,

There will be many, many difficulties to have a child,

But because there are these people,

Difficulties will weaken a lot.

Your child received his university admission notice.

On the day when I send it to school,

You suddenly a little stunned,

As if he saw 18 -year -old self.

That summer,

You jumped forward like your child,

I didn't pay attention to the expression of the parents behind me.

At this moment,

You have become the person left,

I finally understood the mood of my parents at that time,

Understand the sentence in the book:

"The love between parents and children is for the purpose of parting."

Before the train starts,

Husband dragged your sleeves,

Pull you back to reality from God,

Ask if you have anything to explain to your child.

You were froze and said:

Peace is good enough,

Don't conflict with others when you go out,

Find the police in danger,

Don't be stubborn.

This sentence,

It was the year you left home at the age of 18,

Your parents said to you.

At that time, you felt that parents were too weak and no effort,

Now I have changed the role to understand,

For parents,

Children's peace and health are the biggest things in their lives.

This year,

You and your husband bid farewell to your job.

Participate in work from the age of 22,

Retired at the age of 60,

For nearly forty years,

You have long been used to busy,

I am used to the crowd, and get used to the morning and evening peaks.

Suddenly say goodbye to all of this,

Makes you feel like your body is taken away halfway.

Children who have settled in other cities invite you to live there,

You want to promise,

But hesitated or rejected.

Because the child also has his own half,

You also need your own independent space,

You think of your parents and in -laws' attitude towards you,

I feel that I have the obligation to continue this freedom and respect.

After three days at home,

My husband can't stand it anymore,

Pull you out of the door,

Go to a very hot top cafe.

You complain about him and waste money on your mouth,

He tells you mysteriously,

The predecessor of this cafe was the first date in your date.

When he said this,

The orange sunset is covered with half the sky,

You look at the wrinkles in front of you,

Old man with loose teeth,

I still felt good.

You agreed,

I will go to many places together in the future,

Make up the time when I was stolen by work and life.

That night,

You are lying on the bed,

I have listened to the snoring sound for decades.

Think of the bit by bit of these years,

From ignorant children,

To a wife and mother,

You bump into the living law of life.

I was also frustrated,

I was also anxious,

I also envy others,

What would happen if I had a chance to come back?

I only understand at this moment,

Someone was guarded as a child,

There are faith and freedom in youth,

I can still be loved and understood by adulthood,

After the old age, he can reach the hands of the old man.

This seemingly ordinary life is the best life.

We have the topic of this article because of Tangshan's beating incident,

But in the process of writing,

There are various news and social topics that have appeared in my mind in my mind.

Students of corporal punishment, child molestation, campus bullying, workplace bullying, 996, PUA, domestic violence, marriage and giving birth, mother -in -law relationship, marriage relationship, etc.

We all know that they should not occur.

But they seem to be accompanied by our lives,

Everyone either heard or experienced.

To avoid these issues,

It's not a person or a family to work hard,

It requires the whole society to work together,

Defend the kind of life we ​​should have enjoyed together.

I hope everything that makes us angry today,

It will happen for the last time,

I hope girls can really live a free and safe life,

Rather than just fantasy.

I hope everything that makes us angry today,

It will happen for the last time,

I hope girls can really live a free and safe life,

Rather than just fantasy.

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