A person who pretend to be sleeping cannot be awakened, and can only wake up

I have heard a word: You can never wake up a person who pretend to sleep.

A person is clearly awake, but pretend to be asleep, no matter how you wake him up, he will not help him.

Because he didn't want to wake up at all, so he pretended to be sleeping.

And if you want to wake up alone, you can only wake up when there is no way to retreat.

Just like the "psychological swing effect", the human heart is like a bell swing. Only when it is willing to stand still, will it not be disturbed by the outside world.

You will never call a person who pretend to be sleeping

I was emotionally paranoid personally. Once I met the person I wanted, I would always persevere in all the ways to work hard to move each other.

It was just a deep affection again and again.

At that time, I was always thinking: Isn't I not working hard enough? Isn't me good enough? If I do my best, if I do better, I can move him?

However, the more I worked hard at that time, the more I wanted to use my frequent sense of existence. The more I thought about him, the more he needed him, the more he was away from and alienated.

It turns out that people who don't love you can not wake up.

It turns out that people who don't like you are pretending to sleep.

And these truths only understand it many years later. Thinking of myself was really stupid, no matter how many times my girlfriend hinted at me: Don't be attached, he is not worth you.

I still think about it: You are not me, how do you know that I can't do let him like me?

How stupid! For a person who can't wake up, for a few years of feelings for a paranoia, and spending a few years of feelings, he still thinks that this is the disappointment of himself.

Everyone's heart has two sides, one side is positive, and on the other is negative and negative.

For those who don't love you, it is not that he is not active, but is pretending to be negative. For people who are not interested, I just want to pretend to sleep, I just want to escape.

Because pretending to sleep is the instinct of humanity, it is a disguise of politeness, and it is also an euphemistic persuasion that does not want to explain nor disassembled nor disassembly.

Psychologists believe that people's feelings have multiple and polarity under the stimulation of the outside world.

Sleeping is the negative side of the polarity. The alienation of the boy's instinct is pretending to sleep, and my moth's thought of the fire is also a pretend to sleep.

However, not all pretending to sleep, you can wait until the flowers bloom.

People who wake up can continue to discipline

After reading hundreds of psychological books in recent years, I understand whether everyone's excellence or not, does not require others to define, and no need to be sought after by the outside world to prove it.

I like four words more and more: let it go naturally.

This may be a great realization after the wake -up. After being awakened by life and being beaten, everyone is becoming more and more understandable. Everyone

It is impossible to live at the peak, and life will not be at the trough forever.

Others don't like us, it does not prove that we are not good enough, nor is we not good enough.

I don't like the differences between the differences, the differences in values, the differences in life goals. This is normal. The terrible thing is in life, but when you encounter negation, you will instinctively escape.

This is not a way to facing self -faith, nor is it a way to solve the problem.

Haruki Murakami said: pain cannot be avoided, but suffering can be selected.

In real life, we will inevitably encounter some terrible misfortunes, disasters or unwillingness to accept. These are unavoidable and unavoidable.

It is the easiest and easiest way to choose to sleep, and it is also the first choice for everyone when they encounter problems. It's just that the person who pretend to be sleeping is unable to be awake, let alone learn self -discipline.

Only internal consumption and endless anxiety and inferiority under comparison.

Only by accepting reality and accepting the status quo of your efforts, he does not love your status quo, can he avoid causing himself to fall into a low tide. Everyone will encounter low tide and misfortune, and they will encounter frustration.

When sadness flows into the river, it is not difficult, but after being sad, let yourself wake up early and learn to relieve it. It is never the environment or the recognition of others, but our response to things and the choice of life.

If you want to get out of the sleep, you are not desperately pleased, let alone to live according to the preferences of the other party. Instead, you can accept the darkness in life, make yourself full of strength, make life full of sunlight, and avoid confusion.

Never try to "wake up" love

In the hit drama "Happiness to Wanjia", when she was lucky, her boyfriend Daxun kept asking if she was touched and whether she was watched by other men.

Fortunately, I kept crying, and begging my boyfriend not to ask again. There were countless times, and countless times were sad.

Until the boyfriend's breaking up, luck was still trying to explain that she wanted her boyfriend to give himself a chance.

How sad! Fortunately, she was unfortunate when she encountered marriage, but even more unfortunately, she had a humble attitude towards feelings.

Take a step back, even if there is no marriage. Is Daxun really lucky? Is he loved for a temporary luck and purity, or is her feelings and souls?

Fortunately, she never thought that when she encountered pain, her boyfriend's first reaction was not comforting and persuasion, but a chattering question. The meaning of the intention was whether his girlfriend was lost?

This seemingly fierce and careless feelings are not love, but selfishness and coolness.

As a woman, can you fantasize about getting a sense of security from a thin man, can you get true love from a man?

This also inspires all women: a man who only loves your body and does not love you itself, he doesn't love you, just for fun.When playing is enough, when the game is over, everything returns to the original point coldly.

If a woman still fantasize about the love of the city, and fantasize the perfect love and spoil, what is it?

Born as a person, we must be kind, but we must also be good and sharp.Others are hypocritical, don't be sincere, let alone "youth feeds dogs".

Because it is not worth it, think about a beautiful and cute life, do not be led by your nose, stay away from internal consumption and delay. When you can control yourself, you will become the owner of emotion.

Sleeping is too deep, pretending to be more painful, instead of being awakened, it is better to wake up early.Time and youth do not wait for anyone, every inch of you is valuable.

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