Don't put your key to others

Author: Tangtang

Source: Fan Deng Reading (ID: ReadingClub_BTFX)

After hearing a word: Life is like a lock, the heart is the key.

In our life, we will turn on a variety of locks, and the keys in your hand often determine your direction.

The confused person entrusts all the keys to others, and puts expectations on others. In the end, they will only be empty and nothing.

People who live a sober life have long understood that the locks of life must be opened by themselves, and no one is worse than by themselves.

When we no longer pin their hope on others, many problems in life will be solved.

A person's top cleverness is not to hand over his key to others' hands.

Don't bind the key to emotions on others

The speaker Anthony Robin once said:

"The secret of an outstanding life is to know how to control the power of emotions, rather than being countered by this force."

People who are really amazing are masters of emotional management and will not be easily tied up by the emotions of others.

I have read a story in the book.

After years of devoted to a painter, he finally got a collector from a collector.

The collector funded him to hold a personal exhibition.

On the day of the exhibition, the painter confidently introduced his work to the guests present.

At this time, a man who was full of alcohol interrupted the painter's commentary and said loudly that these paintings were simply garbage.

The painter froze for a moment, ignored him, and still calmly explained his work.

The man interrupted him again, roaring angrily: "Why don't you answer? Do you admit that I am talking about the facts?"

The painter's expression was calm and said with a smile: "Of course not. Just you didn't pay me tuition, why should I tell you, what is right?"

The guest present listened and couldn't help laughing. The man lowered his head embarrassed and left.

Through this exhibition, the artist successfully started his popularity, and his paintings were also loved by more people.

The so -called winner of life is half of the talents, and half is the ability to control emotions.

We often think that those bad people and things make life worse.

In fact, many times, the key to your emotions is tied to others.

As Bai Yansong said:

"Sometimes, we live very tired, not our life is too thin, but that we are too easily infected by the outside atmosphere and are controlled by the emotions of others."

We can't control the thoughts of others; we cannot control the words and deeds of others.

The only thing we can do is the key to managing emotions, not affected by others.

In this life, it is more important to control his emotions than anything.

Don't pin the key to happiness on others

In the recently explosive TV series "Menghua Record", Song Yinzhang was a Qiantang music worker.

She is very envious of Zhao Pan'er who is out of the country and becomes a good people.

Occasionally, she met Zhou She. On the surface, Zhou She is a businessman, which is actually a frequent guest of the Qinglou Gambling Hall.

For more than half a month, Song Yinzhang determined that Zhou She was a good man who could entrust life.

Without extra consideration and measurement, she hid all the people who cared about her and went back to Zhou She.

As a result, on the first day of marriage, Zhou Jian not only snatched her private money, but also hit her fifty kills and almost interrupted her legs.

In the following days, Zhou She has intensified. Tie Song Yinzhang next to the big tree in the backyard, and often adds sticks, intimidating her to continue to give her money to pay for her debt for him to eat, drink and play.

At this time, Song Yinzhang regretted it, hated himself so much trusting this man so that he had settled in such a miserable situation.

Life is like this. The reason why we hurt is often because we pin happiness to others.

But the happiness given by others will eventually be unreliable; real happiness always depends on itself.

Like a song in a song:

"Waiting for others to give happiness, often not happy."

When you pin the key to happiness on others, disappointment and injury will come immediately.

No one will be your forever, only yourself is your most solid backing.

If you think about it, life is better.

Rather than pinch hope on others, it is better to spend more time to improve yourself.

When you live independently and self -reliance, happiness will come quietly.

Don't deliver the key to the choice to others

Yu Qiuyu wrote in "Borrow Me":

"The path of life, depending on yourself step by step, is your own choice that can really protect you." People will face many choices in their lives. At this time, some people always want to help you make a decision. There are always some some people. Sound interfere with your choice.

But the more time, the more we need to keep the determination, do not hand over the key to the choice to others.

Chen Yujia, a native of Shangguan Di Village, Bohai Town, Ning'an City, Heilongjiang Province. After graduating from university, he became a public school teacher.

Her hometown Shangguandi Village is growing rice and selling rice as its main source of income all year round. In the past two years, due to the market conditions, the village's rice was slow -selling, and the villagers couldn't do it.

In order to help the village open the sales of rice, Chen Yujia had the idea of ​​going back to his hometown to start a business.

I heard that she was going to resign from the public office, just like a drop of water splashed into the oil pan, and the relatives and friends around him "exploded":

"How stable is a teacher, resign? Wait for regret."

"Back to the village to sell rice, are you crazy?"

"Really, holding a rice bowl to find rice."

The voices around me were full of Chen Yujia's ears.

But in the end, Chen Yujia insisted on his choice under pressure, returned to the village, and started to start a business.

She said, "There must be dreams in life, in case the dream is realized."

Today, Chen Yujia not only activated the rice industry of his hometown through the live broadcast of the live broadcast, but also brought local rural tourism to help the folks cross the day over the days.

Do you have such experience?

Standing at the key crossroads of life, there are various voices in the crowd. Everyone's opinions are different, noisy and chaotic, making people don't know where to go.

At this time, if you blindly obey the opinions of others and ignore your voice, the choice will make you regret.

The greatest soberness of adults is just to love you and love, do what you do, obey your heart, and ask nothing about West East.

I really like this sentence:

"No matter what the future is, it is my own choice. Living according to my choice is to give my best gift."

I always believe that only the life I choose is the best life.

There is such a line in "The Demon Boy of Nezha":

"Who am I, I only know myself; my life, I said it myself."

With a life you said, you will not come to this world.

Keep your key in your own hands, and you can lock yourself, so you can meet your better yourself.

Not because anyone disrupts his emotions, he can live a relaxed life;

Do not send your own happiness to others, so that you can have unlimited confidence;

Do not hand over the choice of rights to others to live out the life you want.

In the future, I hope you and I can be your own sun. You can live shining without relying on the light of others.

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