The social truth of an adult: the more cold the relationship, the more reliable

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Eason Chan sang in "Best Friends":

"The unfamiliar in the coming year is the closest than yesterday."

Many people thought they would accompany their lives, but they drifted away halfway.

The relationship between people cannot escape the law of gathering and clutch, and some people have dispersed inadvertently.

After half a lifetime, I understand what is the most comfortable social state.

Take the initiative to talk about money and keep the boundaries

San Mao said that the world's comedy can be generated without money, and most of the tragedy in the world is not related to money.

Money is like a mirror, looking at all beings, and looking at people's hearts.

There is such a fragment in "Twenty Not Confusion".

College student Jiang Xiaoguo has excellent academic performance, but his family is poor. However, when he heard that his classmate Wang Wei had difficulties, he borrowed 300 yuan for her.

Soon, Jiang Xiaoguo's mobile phone failed, and she decided to change one, but the money was a little worse.

After knowing that Wang Wei could receive a school aid, Jiang Xiaoguo hurried to find her to repay her.

However, Wang Wei didn't mean to pay back.

At the beginning, she wanted to pretend to be confused, and after being exposed, she pushed three obstacles. Finally, she was anxious and asked Jiang Xiaoguo with a grievance:

"Why are you like this? I said it is to pay back, but not today, isn't it just 300 yuan, do you humiliate me like this?"

After the incident spread, Jiang Xiaoguo, who took the initiative to borrow money, was identified as an aggressive, hypocritical and selfish wicked.

It was a kind of goodwill, but was finally beaten, which was really chilling.

I like a paragraph that I have seen in the circle of friends:

"The relationship between good friends is focusing on frankness, and the focus is on comfort. I don't want him to come to me to borrow money and it is difficult to open up, and I don't want me to be careful when looking for him to pay back."

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Writer Xie Kehui told such a story.

A boss entrusted a friend for investigation. After receiving the data, he immediately called.

The friend declined, "We are friends, I have never thought about charging."

However, the boss said, "Because we are friends, you should pay more money. Separate money and friendship, the most pleasant."

Later, he talked: "I like to talk about money actively, as well as those who take the initiative to be friends. Active talking about money is a sense of measurement of each other. The more clear the money and friendship are, the longer the relationship can be."

Talking about money and love is the real bright and generous.

As the old saying, the brothers also have to settle accounts.

Talk to the money on the face, talk about things, and keep principles.

Talking about money is not to violate the interests of others, but also tell the other party's bottom line.

Put the money under the sun, do subtraction to the relationship, do not mix other things, know each other, and the relationship can naturally go longer and longer.

If you have something straight, don't guess everything

In "Happiness Triple", Xi Mengyao has a performance that is praised by the audience.

When playing the glory of the king with He Yanjun, because Xi Mengyao did not play the game for a long time, the operation was not very skilled, and there were many mistakes.

He Yanjun began to complain: "The next one you want to shake like this, we must lose."

Unexpectedly, in the second game, because the neighbors sent them to them, the two hung up and lost again.

So when he opened the third, He Yanjun began to complain again.

At this time, Meng Yaoyao said directly: "Why do you always scold me?"

He Yanjun immediately explained: "Baby, I am not scolding you. I am too anxious, it's my problem."

You see, if you have an idea, you can say it directly, and you can solve the problem in two or three sentences.

If you do n’t say, it will be like a thorn, stuck in his throat, and from time to time, it will destroy the relationship.

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Xun Mengyao also admits on the show:

"Mario and I were the novice couples of 'Pisces' and' Capricorn ''. They all felt that it was very important to say something.

"In daily life, we must communicate with each other's needs and ideas in a timely manner. I say boldly, and I feel at ease. I think this is also a process of building a sense of trust in husband and wife."

There is a term "seeing healing" in psychology.

What is said is that many confusion and troubles are not necessarily caused by specific events, but because they fail to express their true feelings, their emotions fail to release, causing psychological conflicts.

If we speak directly and the emotions are vent, even if things are not resolved, our mood will be much more comfortable.

In "The Story of Qi Qi", Huang Zhizhong once said:

"In the final analysis, the problems of life are eighty -nine.

If you can't say anything, if you are in the throat, it is yourself who hurts himself in the end. Over time, it will eventually consume the love of people.

Dressing with others, talking without a pinch, without covering up, the relationship can go longer and longer.

Go to two -way, give back to each other

Haruki Murakami once said:

"For those who love each other, the other person's heart is the best house."

Whether it is love or friendship, it is meaningful to only know how to go in both ways.

In 2005, Xue Zhiqian officially debuted in "My Type Me Show", and Zhao Shuai was his brother.

When they made their debut, they had no money, and lived together.

It was during that time that Zhao Shuai created songs such as "What are you still for me", "Actor" and "Rain" for Xue Zhiqian. Xue Zhiqian began to be famous.

At the same time, Zhao Shuai has developed very well. He has written theme songs for many movies, and has been recognized in the industry. Dapeng and Xu Yan and other directors have actively invited him to write songs. However, soon, Xue Zhiqian was deeply trapped in the emotional storm, and his reputation plummeted. Many friends were afraid of "getting angry" and did not dare to come out to speak.

But Zhao Shuai made a public voice to Xue Zhiqian.

On Christmas Day, Xue Zhiqian needs to record songs in Qingdao to participate in the show. Zhao Shuai flew to Qingdao without saying a word, just complained that "the plane did not put on the plane."

Later, Zhao was handsome.

Since then, Xue Zhiqian has accompanied his good brother Zhao Shuai to go to major hospitals for treatment, find the best medicine, and find the best doctor.

In this painful experience of anti -cancer, Xue Zhiqian accompanied him twice through the ghost gate. Every time Zhao Shuai wakes up, he will say "don't cry."

Zhao Shuai stayed at the age of 34, but their friendship continued.

When Zhao Shuo was working together during Xue Zhiqian's trough, Xue Zhiqian was inseparable when Zhao Shuai was sick.

Support each other and go to each other. I saw the best friendship in them.

The two people who are suitable, if you don't care about each other, will slowly be unfamiliar;

No matter how deeper feelings, if you don't care for each other, you will slowly fade.

If you do not get a response, it will only make people feel discouraged; the unscrupulous request will only leave people chilling.

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It is comfortable to get along with each other, getting farther and farther, not only the mouth, but also the hearts of each other and each other.

For the rest of my life, I hope you meet a person who knows you and understands you, so that every time you pay, you can carry your life.

Life is very bitter, and the money is very tired, so it may be simpler to make the relationship.

Concern from each other, talk about money, keep each other's boundaries;

Understand each other, say something straight, don't worry about guessing;

Give each other, go in both directions, and give back to each other with your heart.

Rather than running a misunderstanding and unwillingness, it is better to explain the words without leaving regrets.

Encountered fate, and get along with each other.

I hope that for the rest of my life, you can see the efforts of others, keep the warmth, and be worthy of every sincerity.

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