People who live transparently often have these four characteristics

On the title page of "Life", Lu Yao wrote such a paragraph:

"No one's life path is straight, no fork. Every time you go wrong, you can affect a period of life and affect your life."

In this regard, a popular discussion was launched on the Internet: What should I do to live this life?

The most praised answer is:

"I don't want to have expectations for anyone, and I don't try to change anyone easily. I know the truth that the circle is different. After hard work, I can accept my strength. So, it is enough."

In just a few words, the philosophy of life is summarized.

Many times, the oily world can protect people for a while, but often wise and open -minded can protect the one of the people.

People who live transparent understand this truth.

Don't pin hope on others

In the novel "Wife and Pushing", he has received new education, but chose to marry a female student from rich people, Song Lian, and finally crazy.

The writer Su Tong used the brushwork of Bai to describe Song Lian's tragic life experience.

The hard -working tea factory closed down, and the overwhelmed father committed suicide, and only took a year of college Song Lian to drop out of school.

In the empty house, Song Lian, who lost his father's care, faced the difficulties from his stepmother alone.

The stepmother asked her to choose to work or marry herself on the grounds of "weak support".

Without hesitation, Song Lian chose "Marry, and must be rich."

The stepmother yin and yang said weirdly: "Marry a rich man, then you can only be small."

Ke Songlian didn't care, she just begged for wealth and so that she could export evil in front of her stepmother.

Finally, she was like the fourth aunt Chen Zuoqian's four aunt Chen Zuoqian.

That year, Songlian was 19 years old and Chen Zuo was 50 years old.

Originally, for the young Songlian, there are many choices in life: diligent work and study, and enter the narrow door. You can also choose to eat it ...

No matter what ways, even if you live a little bit, you always live more dignified.

She chose a "shortcut" to sell her youth in exchange for the shelter of the Chen family.

The world's magical machine has no way, and he is clever and clever.

Some people think that they can break the opportunity and hold shortcuts, and they can protect their future. As everyone knows, there is no shortcut in life, and only traps at the end of the shortcut.

In this truth, the vigorous Song Lian never thought about it.

Of course, the Chen family of the deep house courtyard, of course, more than one, Song Lian ranked fourth.

Each wife is counting on how to monopolize the favor of the master. To this end, the calculation of the hooking corner has not stopped for a moment.

Song Lian thoughtly thought that the eldest wife was old Zhuhuang, and the second wife was bloated.

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According to the love of the master, his life was eaten in Jinyi.

Unfortunately, she was wrong.

Song Lian, who was not involved in the world, did not understand the wrongdoing of the big family, and could not understand the change of the Chen family with the changes in the current realm, and could not let go of his wife's identity.

Her unknown time attracted anger, and the master also lost tolerance and patience about her. The big wife rebuked in person, while others saw the wind to make her rudder, let alone put her in my eyes ...

In the end, she was crazy.

Hayao Miyazaki said a word:

"Don't easily keep it on others, it will become your habit. Whenever and whereabouts, you must learn to walk independently. It will make you go more frankly."

Everything is hoped on others, looking for security on others, and will eventually lay hidden dangers for themselves.

Don't try to change others

In "Little Prince", the little prince who left the planet began his interstellar trip.

He met a toss king at the first stop.

When he saw the king, the little prince couldn't help but yawn, and the king was angry at him: "I don't allow you to yawn, so there is a loss of etiquette."

When the little prince argued because "I was tired of walking and couldn't hold back", the king said, "Then you call a few more, this is the order."

The little prince was at a loss.

Later, the king made a series of requests to the little prince: let him go to the minister, the ambassador ...

But the little prince has no interest in these.

Many times, people always have a kind of obsession, that is, changing others.

But many troubles of life come from here.

The hardest thing in this world is to change others.

"It's worthwhile in the world" wrote: "Don't try to change a person, not only do you not get the results you want, but also make yourself in pain and unable to extricate yourself."

Colleagues Erica experienced such setbacks.

Erica is a sales manager of a Fortune 500 enterprise. She has encountered a employee who almost brings her to collapse.

The employee relied on his qualifications, his performance was unconcerned, and he did not obey management.

At first, the two were flat, and then Erica was promoted and became the boss of the old employee.

But the employee did not look at Erica, and the messy sales performance was countless times.

In order to improve his performance, Erica suggested that he visit the customer diligently, but he refused: "If there are patients in the family who want to take care of, they cannot go away. If I really want to go, I must return that day."

The speaker was afraid, and the listener was stunned.

In order not to affect team performance, Erica can only think of helping him improve his business ability.

To this end, Erica worked hard for him to fight for training opportunities, and re -set up the team's performance assessment criteria ... Unfortunately, all the efforts have little effect.

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After tossing for more than a year, Erica, who was exhausted, finally realized: "This person can't change at all, you have to find a way to change it."

Subsequently, Erica transferred him to deal with after -sales.

Erica also provided sales positions in the outside area for him to participate in the competition. Sure enough, he refused to go out from a distance.

For 3 months, the employee took the initiative to leave the resignation and leave.

There is an unknown tombstone standing in the basement of Westminster's church with a section of words on it.

When I was young, I felt that my ability was superb and could change the world. When I grew up, I found that the world was too big and too small, so I just wanted to change others. After you have experienced setbacks, finally understand that in this world, the only thing you can change is yourself.

Being with people with the same frequency

At the recording site of "Hundred Family Forums", the speaker Zhao Yuping asked questions to the audience:

"If a crane is standing in the middle of the chicken group, everyone thinks, is the crane more uncomfortable, or the chickens are more uncomfortable?"

Most people think that the crowd of chickens is like a reduction of dimensions: cranes will not be uncomfortable, chickens will inferiority.

But Zhao Yuping said:

"I think the crane may be uncomfortable. If the noble crane eventually chose to join the chicken, there were only two results, either by chickens or being forced to death by chickens.

"This is just verifying a law: the circle you live, determine your destiny."

This is true.

In life, everyone lives in their respective "circles".

If you want to live comfortably, you must choose a "circle" with the same frequency as yourself.

The "circle" is like a mirror that witnessed the changes of the world, growth or fallen, and the circle will be showing.

"Super Speaker" champion Liu Yuanyuan has shared such a story.

The teacher's daughter loves to study, and all of them are spent on reading in their spare time. What I want to learn is how to learn foreign languages.

The surrounding students are always the most discussed star gossip, and how they are thinking about how to make up and how to make a boyfriend.

The girls don't look down on these unknown classmates, and the classmates don't look at the girl's "pretending" faction.

Does this state look like the crane in that chicken group?

The crane is prominent in the chicken group, but the chickens are not places where cranes should stay.

It is extremely painful to stay in a circle that is not suitable for you.

It is a big blessing to communicate with people of the same frequency and go hand in hand.

In order to leave this environment as soon as possible, the girl secretly worked hard and finally entered the prestigious school as expected.

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After that, everything changed.

The girls are surrounded by students who have concentrated on learning and excellent grades. Everyone focuses on her studies. The shortcomings of the outside world no longer affect her learning rhythm.

Here, the girl is like a fish, and she doesn't have to worry about being a "incompatible monster."

The so -called fools, wise men are the same frequency.

On the road of life, a circle of friends with "the same frequency resonance" is lucky to have a circle that makes you comfortable.

No wonder Mo Yan once said that with the people of the same frequency, it has the years that can be used to look back, which is the most wonderful life.

Reconcile with yourself

There is such a lyrics in the song "The Road of Ordinary":

"I used to lose all directions and lost all directions until I saw ordinary answers."

There is such a message in the comment area of ​​this song:

"When I was a kid, I went to the market to sell vegetables with my father. I was frightened and worried that she was worried about being seen by my classmates, so she desperately hid myself.

"Looking back now, that street, the green tree is lined, the mottled sunlight is sprinkled on the bluestone slab. If you don't miss it because of hiding, it must be one of the most beautiful scenery you have ever seen."

Writer Di An once said that a person's maturity starts from accepting his ordinary.

No matter how prosperous life is, it will eventually belong to ordinary.

Everyone firmly believes that they will eventually be extraordinary, but there are always few people who can really harvest the extraordinary life.

Some time ago, the three -year -old girl who graduated from the three Beijing University was hot.

In the video, the 32 -year -old world was easily ridiculed with the other two friends of the world.

In 2007, the town girl was admitted to Peking University.

She went to Beijing alone and sat on a taxi and said excitedly to herself, "The door of the new world is about to open for me."

On the day of Peking University, the world was persistently walking the road of "specializing in academic" that he had already planned.

To this end, she transferred from the Department of Law to the Chinese Department, and then read the master's and doctoral degree.

But the plan never changes fast.

When her doctor was about to graduate, in her research group, other students published an important papers in the same research direction as her.

This means that she must start from scratch.

Realizing that his talents and energy were not enough to complete the follow -up studies, he abandoned his doctorate in the fourth year of the blog and graduated as a master's degree.

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At that time, she said annoyedly: "I have made my best, but the door to the new world has not opened to me."

Many years later, if you talk about this, she laughed lightly: "I won't regret it. I am an ordinary person. Since I have tried my best, I shouldn't be blame." In life, the most important thing is not how to face it to face In the highlights of life, but after working hard, they calmly accept their ordinary and accept the ending of that force.

Writer Zhou Guoping said:

"Everything in the world is extraordinary, and in the end, you must return to ordinary, and you must use ordinary life to measure its value. Only when you really live a good life, life is a complete life."

This is not a compromise, but transparent.

Not obsessed with "losing" and "not obtained", getting your own happiness and beauty from ordinary life, this is the greatness of mortals.

A writer said:

"Your suffering today, the loss of suffering, the responsibility of the responsibility, the sin, the pain of the endurance, and the end will become a light of light."

In life, God's any starting point is to give you a chance to be a person who distinguishes the direction.

Even if you are born and ordinary, you must live transparently and have the ability to change unremittingly.

Only then, your progress will become extremely firm, and you will have the opportunity to see a better world.

People live in one life and have a transparent way of living, which is really more important than anything.

mutual encouragement.

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