Why do people get more "love" to middle age?

Most of the young people can't get along with people after middle age.

In addition to the generation gaps in things, some young people may also feel that middle -aged people are too difficult to speak, too enthusiastic, and too bad.

As everyone knows, every middle -aged person has the same ideas when he is young.

Just after the hammer of life, he slowly changed himself.

The young world is always noisy and enthusiastic, and it is only at a certain age that too fierce life will often have bitterness.

The lover is too full, it is a disaster, it is too profitable to treat others.

If you live for a lifetime, the proper "love" can make life just right.

At the end of the fairy tales, the prince and princess often love each other and love each other until they are old.

However, in real life, from love to the end of the end, it is a long -term journey. If you are too deep, you may not be able to make good results.

In the TV series "The Sea of ​​Stars", Jian Da Guo and Liang Xiaoyan are a middle -aged couple.

The two have been married for more than ten years, and Jian Da Guo has always loved Liang Xiaoyan and took Liang Xiaoyan as a child.

Jian Da Congress made breakfast for Liang Xiaoyan on time, because Liang Xiaoyan had a bad stomach, he had to watch her eat.

He also stares at Liang Xiaoyan every day to take gastric medicine. Which one is to eat before meals and which one is to eat after meals. Even if Liang Xiaoyan knows, he still says nothing about it.

Liang Xiaoyan went out to work. Jian Daguo was worried that Liang Xiaoyan was blown by the wind and rain. He chased the umbrella behind him. Liang Xiaoyan showed unwillingness. He kept persuading until Liang Xiaoyan took the umbrella.

Afraid of Liang Xiaoyan tired, he also proposed to let Liang Xiaoyan resign at home and persuade her to work overtime.

Jian Daguo tried his best to grasp Liang Xiaoyan.

The lovely love, like the roses in their hands, caught too tightly, often hurt each other.

What Liang Xiaoyan wants is freedom, and Jian Da's country is tight.

In all aspects of Jian Dagong's care, Liang Xiaoyan couldn't say anything bad, but made her feel free of freedom. In the end, she proposed a divorce.

This made Jian Da's pain in pain and even embarked on a journey.

When people reach middle age, we must gradually understand that love is my love for you, and you like my intentions.

Unilaterally excessive force, often it is difficult to make life as what you want.

Long -term love is like agreed wine. It must be able to cover the aroma overflowing and cover it deeply.

Pay when it is close, and "feel love" when it should be calm.

Lover seven points, remained soberly, gave the other person a breath of breathing, and turned to himself with a foot.

I watched a video on the Internet. As the senior year graduation season, 6 girls living in a dormitory took a videos together.

At the beginning, all the members waved at the camera, then 5 people waved their hands in the camera, and then 4 people ...

When the last person waved at the camera, he looked back and looked around, and when he saw the empty surroundings, tears flowed down.

This video also watched many netizens. Many netizens left a message saying that they had experienced such a parting, so they couldn't see such a scene.

Time is the most ruthless, no matter how good friendship, there will always be a separate time.

I have a friend Qinqin. A few years ago, we started a business together in Shanghai and opened a small shop.

Because there was no money, we both rented a single room. The two guarded the store together during the day and returned to the rental house together at night.

Eat at a table, sleep in a bed, and work in the same space.

I joked and said, "24 hours a day, I have 22 hours together for 22 hours, and 2 hours are not together. It is used to wash and go to the toilet."

In this state, we have maintained for 3 years.

I used to think that, with our relationship, even if I separated in the future, I would always come and go all my life.

But then I went abroad, she returned to my hometown, and we were separated by more than 10,000 kilometers.

Over the past 6 years, we have never seen it before, and we have almost broken contact.

Li Shutong said: "Life is rare to gather together, but there are many parting."

No one is used to parting and no one likes parting, but parting is through everyone's life.

In reality, some beautiful wraps are always in the torrent of time, which makes people unforgettable, but they have nowhere to pursue it.

The fate is coming, and the fate is scattered, which is the norm of life.

There are always things in the world. We have nothing to do. Since we cannot change, we can only face it.

As long as people live, what is unavoidable, what is it?

The answer may not be uniform, but I want to "deal with people" must be one of the answers to this question.

How to get along with others is a university question.

The book "Zhang Daqian Art Circle" records a story about Qi Baishi:

Qi Baishi has a disciple who is going to study in Japan, named Gao Xishun.

Before leaving, Gao Xishun took the opportunity to paint with Qi Baishi when he said goodbye to Qi Baishi's family, expressing his wanting to be a memorial.

Qi Baishi nodded and said yes, and after asking how big the size was, Gao Xishun: "Come to take it the next day."

When Gao Xishun went to Qi Baishi's family to pick up painting, Qi Baishi had been indifferent and did not mention painting at all.

Seeing this heart, Gao Xishun took a red paper bag containing a stack of silver dollars from his pocket and handed it over.

Qi Baishi took out a character painting and said to Gao Xishun:

"Xi Shun, this time your heart is peaceful, and my heart is also peaceful!"

For other people, Qi Baishi is the same. No matter which relatives and friends ask him to paint, he will first ask "the money brought?"

In some people's eyes, this approach may be a bit affectionate, but this is the wisdom of Qi Baishi. Because he is an artist who lives on painting, all talks about it, why do you think of it?

The old saying said: "According to love, things are abolished in love, affection, and affection coincidence."

If you live for a lifetime, you cannot live like everything, intersect with others, and it is not possible to be satisfactory everywhere.

If you have a choice, you can live well.

Proper "thin love" is a high -level survival ability. If you don't want to do it, you refuse, and you should obtain it.

In order to "kidnapped" and not aggrieved yourself, you can live a little sweetness in this hardship world.

There is a saying in "The Human Type": "All the unhappy in the world comes to find a balance point between reality and your mood."

Fate is made by yourself, and the realm will turn with your heart.

The so -called "living well" is just to see, let go, persist in the bottom line, and learn "love".

A little bit of love for love, sometimes the deeper, the deeper the injury. For friendship, you can live a good future. It is more affectionate for others. No one deserves your caution. Life is your own.

For the rest of my life, be a person who is passionate, should let it go, and forget to forget. In half of the soberness, I learn to be relieved and pass the half.

Author | Xu Jiuqing, Personal Number: Du Zi Jiuqing

Picture | Visual China

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