Good life, clear zero in time

Author:Ask Zen Time:2022.07.20

Everyone has a period of awakening, but the awakening morning and evening determine the fate of personal

Author: Yaya

Source: 10 o'clock reading (ID: gxsh789)

How long have you been packed in the room, how much useless clothes and packaging bags have been accumulated?

How long has your computer cleaned up, did you become a lot more stuck than before?

Whether it is a room or a computer, it will become chaotic without cleaning up for a long time, and life is the same.

Live you as you want, take a step by step, although it is free and easy, but if you stop and take a closer look, you will find that a lot of useless things are piled up in your life.

A good life should learn to clear zero in time.

Clear resentment in time and make your mind sober

The former President of South Africa Mandela had a 27 -year prison career and suffered all kinds of non -human torture.

Later, when he finally walked out of the prison as a winner, the outside world was speculating, what kind of "revenge" would he bring.

However, his answer shocked everyone:

"When I walked out of the prison door to a free prison, I had clearly knew that if I couldn't leave sadness and resentment behind me, then I was still in prison."

In this life, Mandela has undergone the pain that the vast majority of people can't imagine, and is the person who should have the most reasonable resentment.

However, he chose to clear his resentment and use a peaceful heart to illuminate the world.

Because he understands that resentment is the most useless thing in the world, and will only push people off the abyss.

The American social psychologist Fasteiger once told such a story.

In the morning, the husband washed his face and brushed his teeth, and put his famous watches on the bathroom.

Afraid that the watch was wet, the wife got it on the table. Whoever wanted to play with the playful son broke it.

The husband complained that his wife had a nosy, and also rebuked the child to play.

The resentful husband only found out that he only took care of the fight and forgot to bring a briefcase, and the key of the house was in the bag.

He had to call his wife who was already at work to go home to open the door.

On the way home, the anxious wife hit the fruit stall on the side of the road and lost a sum of money.

The husband couldn't help but start complaining, blame his wife on the way, and this morning.

When he finally arrived at the company, the husband was scolded by his boss for too long, and his heart was even more resentful. He went home to his wife and son at night.

But he didn't realize that if he had not been controlled by his grievances from the beginning, the series of unlucky things in the back may not happen.

As the well -known Festinge law says: 10%in life consists of what happened to you, and the other 90%is determined by how you react to what you happened.

People who always complain about in the event are full of negative energy. Not only will it make themselves faint, make more mistakes, but also make others dare not approach.

Sanmao said in the column:

"Occasionally complaining that life may be a certain emotional vent, and it is essential, but habitual complaints and not seeking change are not smart people."

Really smart people will never be resentful.

Knowing the resentment in time to make your mind sober.

Clear desire in time and make the days peaceful

Hu Yinmeng, the ex -wife of the famous writer Li Ao, once evaluated the "desire": the desire refracted the anxiety in the heart.

What is anxious?

She said that we are all busy in the world, operating, operating, and developing our career achievements, and then to achieve the satisfaction of desire and the realization of ourselves. It is nothing more than wanting to improve our quality of life.

But what is the so -called "improvement of life quality"?

The increase in luxury homes, famous cars, LV leather bags, brand -name clothing, and deposit numbers in the bank ... These do represent a part, but it is a very small part.

"The larger part should be whether you are healthy and mental, whether you are relaxed, and have you feel a sense of completeness and a high degree of self -worth."

As Schopenhauer said:

"Life is a group of desire. If the desire is not satisfied, it is painful. If you are satisfied, you are boring."

The desire for success, the pursuit of fame and fortune is actually desire.

Pursuing a better life is certainly not wrong. But the problem is that in the process of chasing, many people are often fascinated by endless desires, so that they will lose themselves in the end.

A friend Ajuan's husband, a person who was particularly tossing when he was young.

The couple opened a textile factory with good benefits, but he was not satisfied. He listened to the other people's crickets, hiding his wife secretly getting the money on the public ledger, and finally lost money.

The fund chain was broken, the cloth could not be done, the order could not be completed, and the factory was forced to close. He also carried a debt of his ass.

Fortunately, now he is no longer so good, and after paying off the debt, he opened a small restaurant with A Juan, and his life was dull and satisfied.

Kitano Wu said:

"People like this, no matter how bright the appearance is modified, there is only a bunch of desires left after peeling a layer of skin."

Human desires are always not easy to satisfy.

After three meals, you want the fragrant car BMW; after getting it, you will tear more.

Knowing how to restrain your desire and be able to clear the desire in time in time, you can keep your days peaceful and live down to be down -to -earth.

Clean up in time to make the circle change to change the circle to change the circle Simple

The famous rock musician Peng Lei is a different number in the entertainment industry.

He has a nickname, called "Friend's Circle Pulling Black Magic".

In his list of friends, there were the most famous directors and actors in China, such as Xu Yan, Ning Hao, Lu Chuan ...

However, these people soon were either deleted by him or on his blacklist.

Once, he went to the variety show "The Story of Qi Qi" and was forcibly added by Li Xuan at the scene.

Li Xuan returned home, greeted Peng Lei, and found that he had been hacked.

Peng Lei's explanation for his "confusing operation" is: clean.

It is just a "friend" who has no need to communicate because of the face or other reasons. It is useless to add it.

Although many people have criticized him as a person, he is too much to do, but his mentality to keep his circle of friends is quite admired.

Everyone can use this function, but not everyone dares to use it.

I have seen a saying that 90 % of those people on the address book exist because you want to call him, but for him to call him who you can know who he is.

Of course, there are really few people who will call you.

In modern society, everyone is busy with their own lives. There are many friends around them, but in fact, many of them are unrelated and have not contacted for a long time.

Some people may have been in close contact with you for a certain period of time, but now I can no longer find a common topic;

Some people may have brought you laughter and tears, but now it has become blurred in your heart.

Do not have to persist in leaving everyone with you, and timely invite some people to your life in a timely manner.

Everyone has their own way to go, so why not force to travel.

Mature does not mean losing friends, but taught us to choose real friends.

Clean up your circle of friends in time, leave those like -minded people, say goodbye to those who are dripping away, make the circle simple and let yourself live comfortably.

Good life, clear zero in time