Don't use other people's minds, think about your life

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How do others think of you, it is a matter of others, how do you live, make a decision yourself

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Author: pavillery

Source: 10 o'clock reading (ID: gxsh789) ‍

There is a question on Zhihu: "What minimalist life suggestions do you have?"

A high praise replied, "Don't listen to the advice of others all day."

The enthusiastic persuasion of the people around, the evaluation of relatives and friends, and the point of pointing at the point of the unrelated to those who have not been related. We have heard too much. When we are confused, we do n’t know which one to believe.

In fact, the lessons of other people's experience may not become yours.

Since you make a decision, don't use others' brains.

Other people's suggestions, responsible for your responsibility

All suggestions, some are random, some are real experience and it is difficult to distinguish.

But no matter what kind of, don't rush to copy because it is your own business.

Since the media person Frank, he heard his suggestions and learned chemistry. He slowly felt that he was not interested, and it was difficult to find work. He wanted to transfer to the Internet.

But parents say that science and engineering must find a counterpart.

He asked several old professors in the college, and answered that he also asked him to read a graduate student again and stay in his own.

Hearing it, he directly chose the most difficult to graduate organic synthesis direction, and after 5 years of graduate students, the surrounding students caught up with the Internet and transferred to the real estate.

At this time, he listened to the suggestion and read the doctor.

From beginning to end, he didn't want to do research, and he missed good opportunities.

But if you think about it, every step is taken by himself. No one is forced, no one is blame.

The person I suggest is not to hurt you, but those exaggerations may be just a common view. There may not be more attentive, and it may not be suitable for you.

If you don't want to listen, you can only be frustrated in the end. It can only be yourself.

In "I'm an Actor", Zhang Ziyi once asked the player "Who forced you to make a movie" and told them not to take over any bad scene.

She did only make good movies, and she succeeded in her talent, seemed to be convincing.

And Hao Lei on the side point out the truth:

"I am not as lucky as Ziyi. I grew up in a mess, but the director did not give me a chance because I filmed bad plays."

No one wants to make bad plays, and novice who are not lucky enough and cannot receive a good script can only hone acting skills in a bad drama.

The strong is experienced, but only you can see the most clearly.

Every step is your responsibility. Anyone will not bear it for you, give up thinking, and move the experience of others. The consequences are also you to carry it.

Responsible for yourself, which way you want to do is to your future.

The vision of others cannot determine your life

There are a lot of people who point you, but the ridicule and predictions of those who are open to the river have nothing to do with you.

Only yourself who can live around you.

Netizens talked about a friend named Ghost Dong, who wandered in Beijing for five years and was counted by his brother every day.

He worked hard to make music, but his brother called him for three days and persuaded him to return to his hometown for development and let him do "serious work".

According to the eyes of the family, his income was unstable, and there was no preparation. He was a mixed in Beijing.

And he just wanted to fight for his dreams.

Frequently moving, his career is difficult to improve. He can boil. Listening to his brother's contempt, he couldn't help but grievance.

It is determined to persist. What is the use of increasing and sinking?

Doubt and derogation are in my heart, and they are becoming more and more unconfident, so that they will lose more and more.

No one can fully understand you, and how valuable you are, is not that others can be defined in a word.

How about choosing, only you are the most qualified to evaluate, whether life is proud and comfortable, only you can experience it.

A child with a disabilities was bullied and joked by classmates every day. He was said to have broken his brain, and he even believed it.

Until the father's father asked him:

"What kind of person do you want to be? What do you have to get in the future?"

He suddenly woke up: the daily sinking daily, he didn't want it.

From then on, he no longer cares about those ridicule. He pierced into the book, psychology and neuroscience, and focused on it.

He is Quick, the teacher of the Queen of Talk Show Oprah, and his "Infinite Possibility" sells the top three in the Amazon bestseller list.

The writer Canber once said: "For happiness, you must put the question of‘ how do you think of me ’."

How other people think of you, it is a matter of others, how do you live, and make a decision yourself.

The evaluation around is always messy, but you don't have to be serious.

Do not live in the eyes of others, block your ears halfway, and your way is really in your hands.

In the end Pass

How many sincere friends and how many people are chaotic will change your life.

If you think about it, you have to rely on yourself.

In "No questioning West East", Wu Lingnan, who likes liberal arts, chose the science of science and follow the tide. The old professor found him and only let him "real".

Listening to people's persuasion, the premise is that you listen to yourself first.

Following the flow is not a bad thing, but at least follow your heart and find your water channel.

1. Find your own rhythm

Life is like a rush, and the speed and frequency of each person are suitable.

The actor Zhang translated, the acting of nearly 40 only burst into acting, "Dear" and "Flying Flying on the Heaven" continued to win the prize.

I heard that the male actor was over 28 years old, and he basically did not play, but he did not abandon himself.

The countless dragon sets that have been abolished and restlessly have become his accumulation. He has been steadily fighting. He has passed the age and instead walks uphill.

Recognize your own rhythm and sink, so you can wait for the time.

2. Discover your expertise

It ’s the road of others. You will never go well. If you want to have achievements, you can find what you are good at first.

Chen Danqing was forced to drop out of school, but his talent for playing with watercolor and painting has always been prominent.

When he came to northern Jiangsu, he learned to paint himself and soon became a famous "educated youth painter". Later, he was admitted to the Central Academy of Fine Arts in the first professional course.

His "Shepherd" was auctioned to 32 million.

Finding the expertise to cultivate deeply, even if you work hard, you can do more with less.

3. Find your own happiness

Not only "should", you should also have "happiness". Find your interests so that life can taste.

Cai Lan kept asking herself from making movies and being a businessman to hosting food shows.

He never played a card in accordance with common sense, but he could find fun every time. He devoted his enthusiasm to a field and infected countless audiences and customers.

Do your own happy things and live in a happy way.

A journey of life, your life is your own.

You don't have to hurry up, don't have to shine, let alone be someone else, just do it yourself.

"Deep in Lonely" said:

"We are usually thin and inconspicuous small people, but at some times, we can be different from others."

In the case of unknown situation, the matter of others is to add chaos to others, and when you close your eyes, listen to others, and even add them.

What do you do, you just need to see, what others say, you only need to listen.

But always remember that you make a decision with your own head, because there is no suggestion or evaluation, which is better than your heart.

If the surroundings are too noisy, click on it, and use Bob Dylan to respect them:

"Let me be myself, a tender me, a ruthless me, a gentle me, all kinds of me."

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