The most worried social hidden rules, the sooner you know the better

Is there such a person around you?

If you are interested in yourself, you always have to ask for your own feelings, and ignore your feelings;

In front of everyone, reveal your shortcomings and embarrassments at will, and you will be a blind eye to your embarrassment;

After meeting his requirements, he put forward more excessive requirements, and did not take your bottom line at all.

Such a person seems to be informal, but it is actually a loss of social.

The writer San Mao once said: "Friends are intimate, and the scalled should not be lost. I think it is familiar.

Interpersonal communication needs to have "degrees". The following three hidden rules, the sooner you know, the better.

You don't have to explore people

I have a colleague who has a good relationship. I met from the recruitment written test, and I was divided into the same department after I joined the job.

When I first met, I found that she was walking. The people in the department were tacit, and no one asked her leg.

Occasionally a few times in a hurry, she would rather keep her teeth and keep up with us.

Later, the old employees of the unit gradually became familiar. Some people from other departments came to ask me at every interlocking time: "What is the leg of the girl in your department?"

I replied, "It's not clear."

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When I ate a few days ago, a very good colleague also asked me the same question, and I still answered it.

But she was a bit unwilling: "You and her a department, it is easy to communicate, it is better to ask you and ask me."

I immediately refused: "I don't ask, you'd better not inquire again."

Her legs may have congenital diseases and may be injured as a child.

Whatever reason, she is unwilling to be known to the past.

Bi Shumin once said: "Keeping the distance close to it is the most appropriate way of communication."

Do not lift the veil is a respect for a friend, and also trust in a relationship.

There is a pro -friendly, and you can get along well; you can get along comfortable with each other.

You do n’t say, I do n’t ask, it is the rare tacit understanding.

Knowing people don't have to speak up

Zeng Guofan once said: "persuading people must not point to it, they must be beautiful first."

Everyone has the desire to protect themselves. Even if the relationship is good, they can't speak.

Chen Daguang in "Flying to the Sky" is a young man who goes out of Chenjia Village in Yiwu. He is very good at doing business, but he has never been recognized by his father -in -law Chen Jinshui.

Later, Daguang was successful, and he was going to return to his hometown and his wife Qiao aunt to make a wedding.

Daguang was anxious to prove himself, the best choice for ordering rice to pick up rice, and drove a Mercedes -Benz car.

Who knew that on the wedding day, Chen Jinshui, who had never showed up, even picked the cargo Lang, and also performed the small business of Chenjiacun's family to get rich -chicken feathers changed sugar.

Then, he picked up the microphone, generously criticized the concept of wealthy people overnight, and bluntly said that Da Guang could make money, relying on finding a relationship of relationships.

On the side of the big light, the expression on his face from bitter smile to embarrassment, to anger, the bride's face was extremely ugly.

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However, Chen Jinshui didn't mean to stop at all. He also said that the Mercedes -Benz car was borrowed from the facade, and the audience was uproar.

Da Guang's face was lost, and he begged his father -in -law to not say here, but Chen Jinshui still ignored it.

It wasn't until I finished my own truth that I sipped the "chicken, duck, fur goose hair to change the sugar, and the copper and rotten iron to change the sugar."

Although Chen Jinshui's words are not wrong, and Da Guang is indeed in right to do business, it is too unprecedented to expose people in such a wedding.

Later, the relationship between the two became more and more stiff, and it also had a lot to do with this wedding.

There is a saying good: knowing but no words, saying, is the highest emotional intelligence of a person.

People need to be frank, but they need to be frank.

The disadvantage of the other party is best to stop; the other party's embarrassment is best to keep his mouthful.

With the banner of being a good person, it is likely that the other party is embarrassing and embarrassed.

Getting along with others, I am most afraid of overestimating their relationship with others. Instead of covering up, it is better to say three points.

As Xunzi said: "To be honest, know;

Words have a ruler, so you can please others; seeing through or not, is the greatest goodwill.

No need to be exhausted

I have read such a sentence on the Internet:

"For those who only know others but do not understand gratitude, your concession is the horn of the opponent's attack."

We can choose to take a step back and wide the sky, but we cannot retreat to the edge of the cliff and let ourselves fall into trouble.

Since the media author@自 自 Share a story.

A few years ago, Wu Yang was obsessed with a handmade wool doll and watched a group of wool wool on her hands. She felt very fulfilling.

Every time she woven a doll, she basically sent a circle of friends. When a friend watched, he expressed his favorite, hoping that Wu Yang could send her one.

Wu Yang didn't want to send it, because every doll devoted himself to his own efforts and was very emotional.

But considering her friend relationship, she was embarrassed to refuse, so she couldn't bear to cut her love.

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I did not expect that soon after, my friend took the child to Wu Yang's house to play, and he thought about the doll she carefully placed.

Friends' children grabbed several dolls and refused to let go. Those dolls were all her "good heart".

Wu Yang looked at her friend and motioned her to stop it with her eyes.

But not only did my friends turn a blind eye, but taught the child to ask for her coquettishly. In desperation, Wu Yang had to show his position: "These are the hard work of aunt. If you really like it, your aunt can consider selling one for you, but the price is not cheap."

Unexpectedly, my friend changed his face directly after listening, and scolded the child. He accused Wu Yang of being stingy and talked about how to collect a child's money.

After listening to this, Wu Yang was fortunate that he rejected them. Such friends would not make friends.

Many times, we want to be expensive, and even if we suffer some losses ourselves, we will not care too much.

But the more tolerance is that the more we are tolerant, the more we think of us as a soft persimmon.

Tolerance is a kind of wisdom, so that you have won respect;

Faced with the person who gets into the ruler, only by using a sharp position and refusing to make a clear attitude, can you keep your bottom line.

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There is a sentence in "Five Methods":

"If you know people, you don't have to explore, and you can blame them; you do n’t have to speak, you do n’t have to speak, and you do n’t have friends; you do n’t have to retreat.

The most comfortable social distance is always just right.

You can speak freely when the topic specifies, and you can have your own space when you are frustrated.

Mother -in -law getting along, leaving a distance is considerate; nodding the same, keeping distance is respect.

In the future, I hope you are in your heart, relaxation, and in every relationship.

Author: Hulu City, like to walk thousands of miles, and also read thousands of books. Editor on duty: Zhang Aoyang.

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