Douban 8.3 "My Ben Fragrance": She used her life to reveal the cruel truth of marriage

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"The wise will never enter the river", this is what the men and women who are mostly injured in the world often say.

Feelings are the most difficult and complicated in the world, but they are also the most likely to be trapped in it.

Someone asked: Is love eternal?

Regardless of how the film and television drama promotes the love of Mary Su, love is one of the people's feelings. It will change over time and change with a realistic chicken hair. It will become indifferent, or change into family, or disappear.

Marriage is not a necessity of life, but for most people, it is an important part of life.

Nowadays, many people prefer to maintain singleism and are unwilling to enter the door of marriage.

The reason may be the many indifferent factor in the marriage: family disputes, deterioration of husband and wife feelings, children's support education ...

A good marriage is happy, but a bad marriage is the beginning of tragedy.

Some people say that the four unfortunateness in marriage: mothers choose spouse, nanny -style wife, widowed parenting, widow -defense marriage.

And these four unfortunate revealing is the lonely character of women from two people to "one person" in marriage.

These four unfortunateness reflected in Hui Cai's body in "My Fragrant Fragrance".

Grandma Yang Benfen wrote his life's life with a pen next to the cooker table in the year of Huajia, but in this story, many Chinese women's true portrayal in marriage.

01

"Forced" to get married

When Huicai was studying in Jiangxi, a chance occasionally met Dr. Lu under the introduction of a good friend Wen Zhi.

Dr. Lu worked in the county hospital. He was very good. His parents died. They lived alone, but they were not born.

Hui Cai also felt inferior because of the problem of birth. He heard that Dr. Lu's life had a bit of sympathy for him.

When Huicai and Lu met again, Lu invited her to take a walk and told her the truth of her bad origin.

Huicai thinks that this person is honest and trusty, and trusts her, probably like herself.

Later, Lu visited his dormitory with Huicai and sent a photo of his own half.

Huicai likes Lu very much. She feels that she is drifting outside and studying outside.

Huicai's grades in school are good, and they will graduate in a few months. But fate joked with Hui Cai: she was decentralized because of her bad background.

Huicai came to Jiangxi from his hometown of Hunan to study, but he wanted to study, but now the book can't continue to read, and the family can't go back.

At the suggestion of friends Wen Zhi, Hui Cai asked Dr. Lu who had known for his first acquaintance. They all felt that Dr. Lu was a good person and should have a way.

Dr. Lu said that he could help Huicai, and to continue reading for Hui Cai, but Hui Cai had to marry him first.

In order to have the opportunity to read books, it is also for a relying on survival, and Hui has no choice but to agree to Lu's request.

Hui Cai wanted to be independent, but in that case, she had no independent capital, so she married Lu Cang.

She didn't know Lu's real person, but just hoped that she could continue to study, and then used action to repay Lu for her goodness to her.

Marriage is a lifetime event. Although the concept of marriage is not as conservative in the past, it is not as conservative as the past, but it is responsible for each other's life without having to understand each other.

02

Fortune and misfortune of marriage

Huicai wanted to be independent and wanted to study, so she still wanted to continue school after marriage with Lu. She didn't want to be regarded as a parasite or because she was attached to Lu because she was married.

Later, Huicai found a residence in the countryside and participated in the labor score of the local production team.

When she wanted to continue her thoughts with her reading, she found that Lu did not want to help her find a school, which made Huicai very lost.

Huicai has a room where she lives on the production team. Although the room is very broken, this is a place where she has since settled in the helpless talent. She cherishes.

Huicai lived in this empty room alone. As soon as the night, the mice moved on the floor, the dark fear and the nightmare made Hui Cai's fear of the night, fear of loneliness.

Hui Cai and Lu complained that Lu Neng would accompany her, but Lu did not agree, but returned to the hospital alone.

Lu's behavior made Huicai feel sad: "You shouldn't be like this when you get married."

Indeed, it shouldn't be like this.

Lu Hehui's marriage was obviously the marriage of two people, but Lu seemed to live himself, and Hui Cai was just his nominal wife.

How many people in this world have obviously entered the marriage but still maintain the habit of being single. Marriage not only means those who live together, but also the responsibility of two people and two families.

And this, as her husband, does not seem to have done it.

Lu's life was actually very sad. When he was a child, he was given away by his biological parents, and his parents committed suicide during the Cultural Revolution.

Unreliable Lu wanted to return to his biological parents but was rejected, so Lu remembered his biological parents.

Huicai proposed to go back to see his parents with Lu. She thought that marriage should let her parents know, but Lu Jian couldn't go, and Hui Cai could only go alone.

Later, Huicai and Lu had three children. She proposed to go back to see Lu's parents with Lu again, and Lu refused again.

Lu's abandonment of his biological parents can be understood in fact, but it was not easy to survive at that time, and Lu's parents were unable to speak. Lu is very good for people outside, good heart, and good temper, and treating work is also due to duties.

But when he returned home, he was another face to his wife.

Lucai did not take care of Lu during pregnancy, and even after Hui Cai had given birth to a child, Lu did not feel that he had the obligation and responsibility to take care of a hard -produced wife.

Lu's indifference made her chill, but for her children, she was willing to pay.

Hui Cai has tried suicide because of Lu's indifference and the hardships of life, but the child has become her stumbling. In order to give birth to the child's responsibility, she chose to continue alive.

People in the world say that marriage is the only way to life, but how many people choose to continue tolerance because of their children in marriage?

Fortunately and unfortunately in marriage, only people in the marriage know that good marriage is lucky, but not everyone has such good luck.

If you do not get the good luck of this marriage, I hope you can work hard for your children and yourself.

03

"Singleist" in marriage

There are many people who are married but they don't seem to get married, because they still have the habit of being single.

As the saying goes: "One person is full, the whole family is not hungry." Probably the "singlesist" in marriage.

Lu is such a person. Some friends go to the house as a guest. He will take out all the house to eat and drink, and he will not consider several children who are waiting to be fed at home.

Lu believes that it must be good for others, and it doesn't matter to his family.

His idea is also the idea of ​​many people in life. Because it is a family, is it okay to neglect?

The family will tolerate you and love you, because you are a family, but others are not people who live with you.

Should we more love to be good for ourselves, and we can protect the family who love ourselves to protect the family and the one who loves you.

Huicai had several opportunities to work and study, but in order to take care of her children and families, she chose to give up.

And Lu's indifference to Huicai hurt Hui Cai's heart again and again.

Although the marriage between Huicai and Lu was very hard, under the influence and education of Huicai, their three children were excellent.

In the first half of his life, Huai Cai still did not leave Lu. In the second half of his life, he was reliable. Their three children left their home one by one and set up their families.

Hui Cai and Lu also came to the envious diamond marriage in the eyes of others. Sixty years of marriage, the two have been with each other for so many years, when Hui asked Lu: "Do you still want to be with me in the next life?"

Lu said firmly: "Unwilling."

Hui Cai and Lu both were tragic and lonely people. They should have loved each other, but they did not love each other.

At the time of the twilight, they realized that in this marriage, they were not happy.

04

Conclusion

There is such a line in the movie "The Great Father in the World":

"I thought the worst thing in the world was loneliness. In fact, not, the worst thing is to grow old with those who make you feel lonely."

Although Huicai and Lu were old, they were lonely.

Huicai uses his life to reveal the cruel truth in the marriage relationship:

① Which one do you choose to love you and you? Love is lucky to go in two -way, what will you choose without this luck?

Some people are not able to move with your action, and you can only hurt yourself in the end.

If you still hesitate, high -quality single marriage will make you happier than the marriages of one place.

Learn to love yourself to let others love you. Good feelings need you to wait patiently.

② Do not easily enter the door of marriage without understanding the personality of the other person's personality, stay away from those who avoid the evasion.

Lu is a typical avoidance attachment. He has been injured, does not know how to love, and does not express love. Flash marriage with such people, don't mention how big the risks are.

Flash marriage may be brave and romantic, but for most ordinary people, you need to bet on the happiness of your life to verify whether the person you meet is right.

③ Marriage is a siege, people in the city come up, people outside the city want to go in.

Fang Hongjian and Sun Roujia in "Siege", after the combination of two intellectuals, is still full of chicken feathers.

A good marriage needs to be seriously operated with each other, and the premise is that both people think of each other and choose each other, and hold the courage and responsibility of earnestly to care for each other.

Such a marriage can go further in the trivial life of chicken feathers.

May you have the courage to love and be loved.

mutual encouragement.

Author: Zhou Yao, a member of the Reading Club. Cultivate in the dust and survive in the vulgar world.

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