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A few days ago, I brushed a typical niche video on my mobile phone:

The woman cried and said no, the man grabbed the girl's hand that she wanted to break free, and began to kiss. The romantic music sounded, and the barrage passed by love.

I have 10,000 question marks in my head: What? Intersection Intersection Isn't this sexual harassment?

This reminds me of the concept of sex consent. In the book of Luo Xiang's "Agreement System in the Criminal Law", the definition of consent is: the main body recognizes the sexual behavior of sexual behavior through explicit or implied. Behind in a short sentence, there are actually many issues that need to be defined.

When this concept falls into the specific interaction of gender, there are often some unclear blurred areas. In East Asian culture, women are often not so easy to say that no.

In this issue of emotions, several editors talked together to talk about a series of issues that said no in the relationship. After reading it, you may find that this is a question of individuality, but it is not just a matter of one personality.

I understand all, but I don’t have the courage to say no

It is a bit embarrassed to say, I actually pursue the physical instinctual desire, and the person who is eager to get in touch with the limbs (strange and strange, what's embarrassing). In the ambiguous stage, you can be frankly saying yes, but after entering the relationship, Say No is difficult.

In the ambiguous relationship, YES seems to be gradually established in the feedback of interaction and interaction. From TA is willing to embrace me without pushing me, I take the initiative to kiss me, and directly express my desire for each other. The advancement may be that I may be the other party. This process is often frank, and because of each other, it has a good impression on each other, and it is easier to be smooth and beautiful.

One of them was particularly beautiful! Walking on the way to the hotel with my ex -boyfriend, I was talking about the topic related to the movie. He suddenly paused and asked if you regret it now. This sentence dispelled my hesitation. The other party gave me the space for me to hesitate, and chose to go forward or back half a step back. He gave up the way back, but gave me the courage to continue.

Don't look at Say Yes so smoothly, once the relationship is established ... I am a lot of say no -breed!

After establishing a relationship, it is difficult to determine where your line is. When the other party puts forward sexual needs and he is actually not in the state, it is difficult to make rejection, or after saying no, the other party only needs to insist on it, sprinkle a coquettish, and give birth to life. I was obedient -it seemed that when I proposed that I rejected, I was destined to disappoint each other. I was not a good girlfriend who could not meet his needs.

It is not difficult to understand that behind this is actually connected with my own psychological issues for a long time, such as scarceness and uneasiness, shaking self -esteem, instinctively avoided the fear of being abandoned. In all moments of Say No, my subconscious choice to satisfy these things first.

Different from the time that I was frankly obeyed by Say Yes, in these moments that I dare not say no, I was not frank and loved by myself -as a so -called new era woman, I still did n’t have the courage to be good. It is quite frustrating to admit this fact.

▷ British drama "London Life"

Isn't it a way of flirting? The vulnerability of men's power

Women are not difficult to say in sex, which may be related to a toxic tradition of East Asian sex culture -that is, to treat women as a way of flirting.

Yaji Butterfly, do n’t mean this in Japanese. Even if you do n’t look at Japanese adult films, you may be familiar with this word, because the frequency it appears is too high. Girls are afraid not to do, it has become a way to please men and stimulate men's sexual excitement. Behind it is a kind of power and conquest desire, but this sense of power is too fragile.

Think back to myself, I think I still care about and can express my feelings in sex. You can clearly say yes and no. But I will still (unconsciously) to make an improper way of flirting, and even occasionally I feel very enjoyable (

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