The baby must bring it by himself in the first three years?Cake Mom: How many people are deceived by this sentence

Recently, a problem in our backstage has been raised more and more, that is, "send a baby back to my hometown."

For example, when the work is on the rise, it is often too tired to take care of the baby, so you will also consider "send the baby back to my hometown for a while?"

My mother -in -law sees you weaning, and from time to time, you will say, "You see you have weaning, can the baby go back to my hometown?"

Especially the baby who has already entered the park has also ushered in the summer vacation recently. Or occasionally you need a business trip or what you meet at home, and you will consider this issue.

but--

"Suddenly separate the baby, will the baby feel insecure and have separation anxiety?"

"The safety issue is the most worried. What should I do if the elderly careless?"

"Also, will you develop a lot of bad habits in your hometown?"

The parenting book says: It is best not to separate from the parents before the age of 3, which affects the baby's personality and sense of security!

But people who come here often tell you: go back and go back. The baby is happy.

The cake mother actually wants to say: Don't be too anxious in everything!

Just two weeks ago, we took my brother to Tibet to travel to self -driving for a week, because there was no way to get too small, and we asked him to go back to his hometown with his grandmother.

Although I know that the hair cake is "social cattle" and the adaptation ability is good, after all, this is the first time he returned to his hometown alone. As a result, the performance of the hair was beyond my expectation: he "mixed" in the village I am also very happy. The old man said that it was okay if you didn't come back.

I have to sigh, rural areas are really more fun than in the city:

The remaining sand left next to the house, just play ↓

It's hot, take a bath in the stream ↓

Happy labor ↓

And in fact, the old man's performance was also very surprised. I didn't expect my dad to bring such a "wild". You must know that when he went to the city to bring a baby, he was very cautious.

Maybe it is really on his own site, and the old man is very relaxed. Of course, he is really responsible. He takes his baby to play with his body and sees the safety issues.

So today I want to talk to you. For "sending a baby back to my hometown for a while", our mentality, as well as how to make the baby more adaptable and relax ourselves and their family.

In fact, when Dabao's rice cake was young, I was more anxious about it. It was not until the middle of the middle of the winter and summer vacations.

Now I have relaxed a lot. Whether let the baby go back to my hometown with the elderly in the short term, or the old man usually helps to bring the baby in the city, I will relax a lot, so I feel nothing, let go.

Children, not so easy to break.

Back to my hometown, there must be no baby beside himself, tightly or so fine, but from another angle, do we usually control these children too much?

There is indeed a close connection with children and family members, but this does not mean that they must be tied together all the time.

Recall that our own childhood, do n’t you come here many times? During a short vacation, enjoy the old man's love for himself. Mom and dad do not have to "naggers" next day. Isn't it great?

No one finally said that I played water everywhere! ↓

1. Familiar people and supplies, do not create too unfamiliar new environments

Grandpa and grandmother are actually familiar with their children. From time to time, they came to change with grandparents.

Although sometimes a little sparse at the beginning, children, basically take him out to visit the street, and mix another two or three days, all of which are his "good friends".

Then this time we drove him back. Some of the bathtubs, bowls, snacks, cars, picture books, and picture books, including dining chairs, all the beds that were brought in. Sleep.

In the morning, I was held by my grandfather to buy meat ↓

The overall feeling is still with a familiar and kind atmosphere. If you do n’t say that you change to live, you feel completely unfamiliar.

And for the development of good habits, the role of some items is still critical, such as a dining chair, there is no problem of eating around after having a dining chair; there are also picture books, you can calm down to read books and learn in the morning and evening.

2. Communicate in advance, the child can actually understand

We also told him early this time: Grandma and grandmother are your good friends.

He will also try to explain to him: Mom and Dad take your brother to Tibet, why can't you go this time.

Because for the baby, Tibet is not fun and takes him to take a long car for too long.

Essence

Then we would say: But my parents love you very much, do you know?

Faying cake: Know!

"Let's come back from Tibet to pick you up?"

"it is good!"

3. Don't connect too often

The frequency of our video communication is the next day, and the cake dad sometimes shows him the blue sky and white clouds and the scenery through the video.

Later, we found that when we couldn't pick him to play, it would affect him to play, and it became when he was sitting in a dining chair before eating, and contacted him.

There are many families pretending to be monitoring. Parents can not help but shout to the monitoring to the children anytime, anywhere. Better.

Not as good as it is more than one, right? ↓

What else do you say?In fact, it is okay, including we did not specifically explain to the elderly this time.Some of our parenting is not particular, so it's okay.Today, I will talk to you about this topic. I also want to show my personal point of view and some views from the perspective of people. Everyone makes a reference.

For children in rural areas, for children, it is more a pleasant and novel experience that will become part of his growth, so this is why "the children will play better after returning to their hometown."The reason.

Whether it is it yourself, the elderly, or sometimes you need to put the baby back to his hometown, I hope that everyone can try to use a peaceful mentality instead of too much concern and worry.Can grow up well, so let's relax!

Four people who have been lost for a long time when they come back ↓

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