700W of Internet celebrity father and daughter circle, praised by CCTV: The highest -level showing wealth is to raise such a child

Author:Read Reading Time:2022.06.30

Today is the 3182 days that I am intensive to accompany you for life -long growth

Recently, I was praised by a pair of CCTV fathers and daughters.

Other net red circles rely on talent, face value, and food. The dad of Sanshi only shared his daily life.

For example, I will go to school at 7:45. Seeing 45 points, her daughter Xiao Yu is still picking breakfast. It was obviously painful by her daughter -in -law, but when she was a dad, she closed her mouth, not rushing, and waited quietly.

The ringtone sounded, and the classmates jumped away from school, but Xiao Yu inserted his pockets with both hands and looked up at the sky with 45 °. The three -stone dad who waited for a long time at the school gate could only sigh in despair and leave a faceless expression.

After class, other children were having noisy. Only Xiaoyu was lying on the road along the road, holding Erlang's legs and shaking his feet, looking at the book in his hand leisurely.

"Heaven is a quilt, the earth is the bed, and it is not glorious with the world. I can have you so chic." This is the admiration of the old father from the heart.

Xiao Yu, who was chronic, became popular in an instant. The father and daughter were also named by CCTV. They said that Xiao Yu was the hottest elementary school student. Sanshi was the most patient father of the entire network.

Many netizens said that Xiaoyu, who saw that she was late in school, dragged dinner, and worked hard, because they also had the same children in their family.

However, treating such a child, the anxious parents are basically a rush to roar, and they are anxious to jump their feet; the better temper is also to give the child the truth in anxiety.

But the result is always unsatisfactory. The more anxious the parents are, the more slowly the child is, and the carelessness of the carelessness and time has nothing to do with me.

It is not the best way whether it is authoritative or force to suppress or give the child toughly, because this practice not only does not achieve the effect, but also hurts the relationship between parents and children.

In the book "Anti -anxiety: How We Be a Parent", there is such a point: The saddest thing is that the relationship with the child is broken.

Psychologist He Lingfeng mentioned in the book:

When getting along with children, the most important thing is the emotional atmosphere in the process of getting along, which directly determines what the child's emotional experience when you are with you. Is it nervous or relaxed, whether it is negative or pleasant, is it a sense of accomplishment or no sense of accomplishment, is it seen or not seen ...

If the emotional atmosphere is negative, then you tell the children that there is no way to help, and they will only get more and more reverse.

Whose child is most willing to listen? The answer is simple: who you like, just listen to whom. It doesn't matter if this person speaks, it doesn't matter.

So what kind of adults recruit children like it? Wu Zhihong mentioned a scene in the article "Parent to the Parent, Listen to the Children's Words".

This scene is a word after the new semester starts at the beginning of the new semester. After the new teacher introduces himself, different teachers will have different words, and the discussion of students under the podium will also be completely different:

Teacher A: You, you, are really down generations. Do n’t worry about eating or worrying about it. You have the opportunity to read well, but you do n’t cherish it. Do you know how easy it is to go to school at that time? I really don't know blessing in blessing! You have to align with our generation.

Classmates discuss:

"This old thing is so much!"

"Looking down on us! Do he think he is amazing?"

"It is estimated that it won't be long, he will say that we are the worst student he have brought!"

Teacher B: I think you have special thoughts, and often look at things from some unexpected angles. You young people are vitality! I feel younger and can learn a lot of things with you, and I can learn a lot.

Classmates discuss:

"This teacher feels better than before!"

"Do you say that the teacher's child will be older than us?"

"I have seen a teacher playing badminton before, we can call him next time."

Needless to say, students must prefer Teacher B.

Because Teacher A's words were clearly cleared with the students at once, and with the meaning of preaching, it was easy to cause students' resentment and hostility.

In contrast, Teacher B expressed it pleasant: I appreciate you very much, I came to grow with you.

Teacher B's approach is to establish a good emotional atmosphere with students, and the relationship between teachers and students can easily get closer.

What kind of emotional atmosphere determines whether the child is willing to listen to you.

The same is true of Dad Sanshi's practice. When daughter dragging, since it is useless, it is better to wait quietly. This will at least not destroy the relationship.

To make her daughter aware of her problem, Sanshi Dad also has a way.

In order to take her favorite art class on time, Xiaoyu packed up her schoolbag early and stood at the door and waited for her father.

At this time, the father of Sanshi learned his daughter, picked up the rice in the bowl, a small piece of side dishes, and divided into several sips. Regarding her daughter complaining loudly, my dad was blushing, and a expression of "you want to worry about you first".

Through guidance to think in other places, I subdued my daughter's love for late love.

The best way to let children learn self -discipline and independence is not to urge and persecute, but to let the child grow up.

Only when children can feel that they can control their lives can they become more and more self -disciplined.

Many people know the famous "marshmallow" experiments. As a result, at the age of 5, they can hold back their mouths and wait for the second marshmallow children. After that, they will be more successful in learning and work. In 1998, after 30 years after the marshmallow experiment, Michelle can figure out how long the child was born to see if he had the ability to delay satisfaction? He did another experiment with her students called the "strange situation" experiment.

They chose children for about 18 months as trial. The experiment is divided into three stages:

The first stage: free activity

Mother and children stay in the laboratory room alone, playing for 5 minutes like at home.

The second stage: separation

The mother received the phone, walked out of the room, and only left the child and a volunteer for two minutes. When the child was present in advance, he had 17 minutes of interaction with the volunteer.

During this time when his mother left, if the child showed uneasiness, the volunteers would simply comfort him and tell him that his mother would come back soon.

Third stage: reunion

After the mother and the child were separated for two minutes, they returned again. At this time, the volunteers quietly left the room and let the mother and the child move for 3 minutes.

The experimental results foreshadowed the child's behavior in the marshmallow experiment in the future: the child who diverted attention in the last 30 seconds of the "unfamiliar situation" and adhered to the child for 2 minutes. When they grew 5 years old, they could also get the second one more effectively Marshmallow.

Michelle explained: Babies with better self -control can usually cope with the control of the mother, but they do not keep the mother tightly, but keep a distance from the mother (more than 1 meter), discover and explore the room, and play toys. To divert attention.

In other words, once the child can control the distance between himself and his mother, he can not fully obey the mother's control when making a decision. And the parents who control their children are likely to secretly destroy the child's self -control development.

Therefore, we have to be a mentor on the road of children and the companion of growing up, not the interference in the direction of his life.

Just like Yi Nengjing said in the variety show "The Great Sister": I must have a sense of boundaries with my children. Do not use 40 years of experience to educate 20 -year -old children.

Really senior parents will tell their children to share, but they will not guide, because the child is experienced his life, and we cannot deprive him of the process of obtaining experience.

The book "Anti -anxiety" mentioned:

Everyone who is a parent today does not know what kind of world will their children face in the future, and the state of that world is definitely more suitable for them, and it is not suitable for us. Therefore, when educating children, parents use their own values to judge what the future is, which is actually particularly terrible.

Every era has the abilities and qualities that some previous generations do not have.

As a parent, although life experience is more rich, in this rapidly changing era, whether adults and children are actually "novice".

We should allow children to grow up slowly in our own way.

People always say that educating children must be patient.

This patience is not to be patient "repeatedly talking", but to spend patient "establishing relationships with children".

When parents and children get along, always maintain a positive emotional atmosphere and make the child feel pleasure, he will return you to surprise.

Xiaoyu's daughter Xiaoyu, because of her free mind, was carefully taken care of. Although she was not outstanding in learning, her imagination and hands -on ability were very outstanding.

In Xiaoyu's view, eating watermelon is a performance art performance, loosening a pig eight precepts in minutes.

After eating the leftover banana peel, after her clever hands, she changed into a lively octopus.

Under her careful carving, she turned into a cute turtle and staged a "turtle meeting".

There are also crabs, under her tincture, it becomes a scalp -made tingle ...

Lai Nianhua, a Taiwanese educator, said: "The higher the creativity of a child, the healthier the psychological development, because he will not always be fixed at a certain point. When a person is always fixed at a certain point, it will appear to appear Passion.