What are what parents do to you, but you will never do it to your child?

Author:Cool brain Time:2022.06.24

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Translation | Liu Zihan

Grade -Cool Brain Creative

Artist | Old carving worm

Edit | yjj

Parents are the first teacher of the child. However, this does not mean that all their actions are right. In fact, some parents' inadvertent moves will leave a huge shadow for their children, and even lingering in their hearts even after their children are adults.

In the past few days, netizens on Reddit have shared many their parents to do it to themselves, but they will never do what they have to do with their children. Their experiences may be worthy of everyone or those who will become parents in the future.

"Either over -protect them, or disdain them. In my growth process, these two situations are included. My dad is excessively protected to me, and my mother is very disdainful to me."

Via: Reddit

"Forced my child to eat his meal. Studies show that this actually increases the possibility of obesity. It should be full, rather than eating too much to ask the child."

"I have developed a very unhealthy eating habit because of this, and I still fight against it. This is because I grew up by my grandmother. Want to stuff food into my throat. She likes to say to me very much, you eat less than cats. Even if I tell her that I am full, she will deny that you are not full. You still have food in your plate. Essence

I love my grandmother very much, but she has the wrong idea of a healthy diet. "

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"I will not vent the conflict with another parent, nor will I force the child to stand on my side.

My dad told me how my mother was derailed every day. He also told me that I was the only reason to maintain their marriage. I was still in elementary school. Not every marriage can be smooth, this is a fact.

But you definitely have no reason to make your child hate another parent. I can't explain how much the impact of this incident on me. It has made me still live in sadness for so many years, because my memories of my childhood are a painful man who talks about his "evil" wife and his Bad life. "

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"When the children do well, their parents will never encourage them, but tell them that they are worthless, useless, hopeless, and incompetent. If I have children, even if they fail to do things, I will encourage them.

My parents always see the negative impact of me doing things. If I consciously washed the bowl, they were indifferent to this. I consciously washing clothes and drying my clothes. I only got an evaluation of "I didn't hang the clothes correctly", and I even blamed me to "have no ability to complete such a simple task." If a job is 20 points, I score 15 points, and it will never be good in their eyes.

No matter what I do, it is not good enough, or it is not good at all. Now I have no self -esteem, I am afraid of failure. Every time I do one thing, I always think that my performance is very bad.

When the children do the right thing, they need to be encouraged. They need to have confidence in what they do. They need self -esteem. I will never be the reason why my child is degenerate. "

Via: Reddit

"Dividing household chores according to gender. Parents always let me clean up the bathroom that my brother shared, because my hair is everywhere, and my brother may accidentally see menstrual supplies in the garbage.

At the same time, I have to clean up all the urine stains on his toilet, and all the small hair on his shaving knife. Although my brother also needs to do housework, it is usually working in the yard. If I have children, they will take turns to do all different housework instead of dividing responsibilities based on gender. "

Via: Reddit

"Ignore the growth of healthy children for those weak children.

In any case, ignoring is still ignored. Just because the child is healthy, he tells him to keep understanding the surrounding environment, which will cause the child to accept such a fact: they will always be the second choice, and nothing related to them is not the most important thing.

Parents often fall into such a predicament, thinking that vulnerable children should get more concern and sympathy. All children need to care and love, just because children want more love, they say that the child is bad, and does not know how to be considerate and tolerated. This is a completely wrong idea. "

Via: Reddit

"Give birth to the child. Seriously, if you don't want a child, don't bring them to this world."

"I have the greatest respect for those who know that I don't want to raise children or they will become incompetent and choose not to children."

"The problem is that if people really realize their incompetence, they are good parents in most cases because they will reflect on themselves. The purpose of many children in life is only because they want. They overestimate Your own maturity. "

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"I don't plan to have children, but if there are new young members in my family, I will never laugh at their interest.

If they come to me and tell me they feel that they are not heterosexuals, I will undoubtedly believe them. If they come to me again, I will continue to believe them. Unless they close their hearts because they are afraid of what may happen, I always want to express my support loudly in other times to prevent my family from ignoring me to find me to solve the problem. When complaining and opposition are growing, I want to be the role I do when I was a kid. Because I know if I am indifferent, others may doubt whether I was safe and loved. "

Via: Reddit

"I will not ignore difficulties, but important topics like my parents, such as sexual behavior, self -protection and drug use."

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"When I was 14 years old, my mother always sneaked into my room, read my magazine, and then laughed at the content inside. I would never do such a thing to my child."

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