Is it better for children who do not recognize birth?This may not be a good thing. Parents should not be complacent first

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Do you want to be a baby who wants his baby?

In this way, no matter who holds the baby, the baby will not refuse, and the mother will be free. And those babies who are born, can't wait to stick to their mothers 24 hours a day, and others don't want them. In this case, Bao Ma was really tired while being sweet.

If you do n’t recognize the child, it seems that it is recognized by everyone.

However, is it really a good thing if you really have children who do not recognize life and are very good?

Or is it really a bad thing at home?

Is it better for children who do not recognize birth? This may not be a good thing. Parents should not be complacent first

In the fan base of Guo's mother, a mother -in -law said that she was counted by her mother -in -law because of her child.

Most of the time you take your own baby in Youyou, and the mother will come to help every three forks. My mother -in -law occasionally comes to see the child on the weekend.

When the baby is about 5 months old, it is a bit recognized, and basically only Youyou and his mother can hold it. At that time, Mother -in -law came over and wanted to hold the baby, but scared the baby to cry. The child returned to Youyou's hands.

In order to hug the baby, her mother -in -law also hugged the baby out, thinking that the baby may not see the mother, but it would be better, but this did not work. After holding more than ten minutes, the child cried for more than ten minutes.

In the end, the mother -in -law was very angry to throw the child to Youyou, and said, "How do you bring the child, the children will not recognize the birth, and the children you bring. You can hardly take it yourself, take it yourself! "

Youyou is really anxious. The child can only be arranged by her mother -in -law. When the mother -in -law left, she also said to the baby: "Mom is bad, let the baby afraid of grandma!"

Although this mother -in -law is too unreasonable, many people do have such a concept: if the baby recognizes the birth, he feels that the mother is too much to take the child to take a look at it. Get along with other family members. They feel that the baby who does not recognize the birth is the best, the mother is easy and the family is easy.

However, the fact is that the baby recognizes life is actually a very normal and growing significance.

The 9 -month -old family of relatives' house is very happy to be at home with her mother every day, but in the evening, I have been watching the door in the evening. When I hear the doorbell, I hurried to my mother to hide. The doorbell was actually a father.

Seeing his father coming in, Yaya would cry. Dad is very depressed every time. Although he didn't take the child by himself, he would come back every day, and the child didn't recognize himself?

In fact, it is a good thing for children to recognize birth, because this can at least prove that the child's attachment is in place.

Psychological perspective, attachment relationship is a very important relationship between babies and mothers, and even affects the growth of children. From birth to eight months, it is an important stage of establishing a relationship between children and mothers, that is, the attachment relationship between the child and the main supporter.

If at this stage, the child's recognition phenomenon is justified that the establishment of the attachment relationship is relatively successful, and the mother's work is at least pass.

Therefore, as a "non -main supporter", the child has a slight rejection of Dad and feelings.

Of course, children are naturally more likely to reject other strangers.

The time between children and dads and other family members is relatively short, and they will be admitted, so that they are afraid of dad and other relatives.

However, the 9 -month -old child still recognizes his dad, and he still has exclusion to his father he will see every day. To a certain extent, the attachment relationship between dad and children is relatively poor.

Because after 8 months, children also need to form an attachment relationship with other relatives in the family.

Therefore, Dad and other family members have to "repair" the relationship between the baby. Communicate, play games, early education, etc. Dad and other family members participate more. The children have established a relationship with their dads and other family members. The recognition of dads and other family members will gradually disappear.

In the process, Baoma must be willing to let go. When the child and his father and other family are very happy, don't join it rashly.

The establishment of more attachment relationships is conducive to the formation of children's sense of security.

Therefore, from the perspective of children's development, admitting life is an inevitable stage, but the degree of child recognition is different.

Of course, there are also children who do not recognize life at all. It may be a good thing, but the following situations need to be ruled out first.

Possibility 1: Visatization disorder

On the top, we have been talking about "attachment." Therefore, the phenomenon of adoption of children also explains the attachment relationship between mother and child to a certain extent.

Under normal circumstances, the mother is the main supporter of the child. The child is the most likely mother, so it is the most close to the mother. If the child does not form a stable attachment relationship with the mother, then anyone who hugs the child will not cry. This is the so -called "not recognizing life" in the adult population.

Therefore, "not recognizing life" is a kind of "attachment disorder."

Children with observation disorder will lack a sense of security for everything around them when they grow up. It is difficult to establish a good social relationship with others, and the cooperation ability will be poor.

Therefore, by the age of 1, there is no child who recognizes the situation. Bao Ma needs to reflect on whether there is a problem with the relationship between herself and the child, and then remedy in time to re -establish an attachment relationship. Possibilities 2: Lonely

If there are a lot of daily mothers to accompany the child, but the child's feelings for the mother are also faint, the child cannot form a normal interactive relationship with the mother, and it is also impossible to know the world correctly. Normally know people.

Such children may be autardomy, so they do not know what kind of recognition is.

For children in this situation, parents are best to take their children to the hospital in time.

Possibility 3: low intelligence

If the child's intelligence level is very low, then the brain development will be slow. When the child reaches a certain age, he cannot distinguish between the mother and others, that is, "unknown".

Therefore, this kind of children will be relatively late and even do not even recognize.

In general, if the mother is accompanied by the child, but in the 8 months, the child has no phenomenon of admitting life, then it is necessary to check it, what causes it, and then intervene as soon as possible.

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