Will you apologize to your child?Give your children the best love, learn to be high -quality parents, and start from understanding children

Will you apologize to your child?

"Mom, you see my unit test 98 points," My daughter handed it to my mother with the mathematical test paper.

Mom took over and saw "What are you wrong with these two points? Why don't you do the question carefully?" Mom said to her daughter after reading

"How much do you see me wrong? Don't you see how much I did right?" The daughter said angrily

"It should be right, do you think that it is wrong to be full?" Mom blame

The daughter took the papers and went back to the room.

As parents see such a scene, what do you feel? Mom is too strict for her child? Or should mothers encourage education instead of blame?

This is a friend's personal experience. She said that her daughter has always been her pride, looks good, and has excellent learning. At that time, the child went home to share his achievements, but was blamed.

Afterwards, she learned that the exam was more difficult. Although her daughter did not get a full score, she was also the first. As a mother, with the past thinking, I feel that my daughter's scores have declined, and learning does not need to work hard.

Since then, her daughter rarely share her academic performance and rarely talks about learning.

I asked her, since I know the truth, why don't you apologize to your daughter? She said that she couldn't speak well. The traditional Chinese parents knew that she was wrong and would not apologize.

Yeah, generally only the children do something wrong, and the parents will ask for an apology, but the parents are wrong, but they take the initiative to apologize to the child. It seems that it is really difficult to open their mouths.

In our family education guidance class, the teacher has repeatedly said that as a parent to educate children, you must first use your children as an equal person. We must respect each other and understand each other.

In the book "Seven Steps of Family Education", the book "You must understand the child first before the child can you understand you."

Learn to be high -quality parents and grow together with children. Everyone will make mistakes, so what should I do after making mistakes?

Adopting remedial measures after making mistakes is one of the most important things that people must learn, and apology is the most critical step.

This is a suggestion made by the author in the "Seven Step Methods of Family Education".

"Family Education Seven Steps" is the translation of Heideviger Monagemari, translated by Wang Pei, and was published by Beijing United Publishing Company.

The author is Norwegian psychologist and family therapist. She has been engaged in family treatment and has 20 years of family treatment experience.

She also set up many children's development courses for her parents, teachers, and others. This "Family Education Seven Steps" is her work, with 5 volumes in the book, and sells well in 26 countries.

In this book, guide parents to understand their children, learn to accept children, love children, and make role models for children.

Yes, each of us will make mistakes, and it is inevitable that our parents will be emotionally out of control. I blame my behavior afterwards, but what should I do after blame?

Remedy in time. Do n’t have the burden of “home”. Some people feel that they are parents and apologize to their children. It seems that they ca n’t get my face.

Some parents will give their children all kinds of excuses, as if they apologize, but they feel like they are shaking the pot to the child.

Doing so will make the child feel guilty, or the child is unconvinced, causing the parent -child relationship to slowly alienate.

These are the wrong ways. Our parents should apologize to their children sincerely, apologizing from the heart, and children can feel it.

When we do this, we are also leading by example. They speak to teach, so that children can understand that it is not terrible to make mistakes. It is normal to regret it. The most important thing is to find a remedy method and take the initiative to admit mistakes.

The book "Family Education Seven Steps" is known as its name. In 7 steps, it teaches parents to raise children in all aspects, and uses scientific methods to start from the perspective of psychology, but there is no professional psychological vocabulary. My parenting experience tells us how to be a high -quality parent.

Many of the concepts in the book are that our parents need to learn to master and accompany their children to grow. We need to continue to learn.

The child is not someone else, but he is himself.

This is the same as the family education instructor course I learned before, and the teacher repeatedly emphasized the same concept. Everyone is an independent individual. We must learn to respect and understand.

The child is not just your child, he is also himself. Although there are some problems on him, we need to correct it. What our parents need to point or two, rather than pointing at the child to make the child feel frustrated.

The best love for children is the harmonious relationship between parents

Parents' relationship is harmonious and is good for children's growth. Family life is happy and happy, children are more secure and happy.

When a pair of parents is not good, even quarrel in front of the child. Imagine what would the child think? fear? Fear? Worried that you are not doing well enough to make your parents unhappy?

Children see their parents happy and happy family. The child is optimistic in such a living environment. The child knows how to love each other. Parents give their children a sufficient sense of security, so that children can grow better.

In short, the author of this "Family Education Seven Steps" uses his many years of experience to know the misunderstanding of family education. In this book, a simple and operable parenting method is gathered in this book.

This book is suitable for prospective parents and parents with children in the family. The book has general parenting rules and parenting suggestions from all ages.

The author uses a professional attitude, in popular language, and is full of wisdom and feasible methods. Let our parents learn, practice, accompany their children to grow, and be a high -quality parent.No one is born to be a high -quality parent, grow up with children, and accompany the child while we continue to learn, make progress with children, let children take less detours, and make ourselves get better and better on the road of parenting.

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