The subtlety is the soul of family education

Zhang Xionglin, Teacher Zhang Xionglin, Sun Town Junior Middle School, Pucheng County

Family education is an important topic of long -term and meaningful. In real life, family education has different ways, and at the same time, it also shows completely different educational effects.

According to my many years of observation, understanding and summary, I divide family education into four different levels. The worst education effect is "scolding" education, followed by "command" education. Both family education methods do not respect their children's performance. Especially the "scolding" education seriously hurts the healthy development of children's physical and mental. As a minor, the child has lost his personality and dignity, leading to the seeds of depression and complaining psychology and thoughts. Such education is impossible to have any effect.

Mr. Lu Xun said in "What We Now Be a Father": "Elderly needs to be a guidance, but should not be the commander." In the process of family education, the effect is "equity" education. When a child has a problem, parents can communicate and communicate with their children calmly and to respect their children's opinions and ideas, and provide reasonable suggestions for the child to solve the problem.

In fact, the highest level of family education is "subtle". Friend's child Xiao Li reads in the fifth grade of elementary school. At home, Xiao Li always puts things messy. The desk is messy. The peel crumbs on the floor are also messy, and there is almost no habit of sorting and cleaning. In this regard, friends have educated his children many times, but it has no effect. Later, my friend personally cleaned up the "battlefield" made by the child. After cleaning up, he asked Xiao Li: "Do you see Dad clean up?" After a long time, the number of times, Xiao Li took the initiative to take care of his messy items. And over time, Xiao Li has developed a good habit of clean and tidy. Xiao Li's conscious changes did not change because of the preaching of the parents, but because of the actual actions of his father, Xiao Li was infected and influenced and brought about a good educational effect.

Parents should play the role of "bricks" and "attracting jade people" more often. Qian Yonggang is the son of Qian Xuesen, the father of "Chinese Aerospace". Once, the cook at home solemnly said to Qian Yonggang: "Your father is a knowledgeable and cultural person." Qian Yonggang said at the time, "This is still you who said, of course, I know." But cooking What the member continued to explain, but Qian Yonggang remembered his life: "Every time you see your father, you wear them neatly and never wear slippers and vests. This is what he can look at us and respect us." Qian Yong I have just learned from my father since then, and so far retain the habit of eating neatly. This "non -teaching" educational concept is full of philosophy, and is the best interpretation of the subtle force.

Sneaked into the night wind, moisten things silently. In actual life, some children do not like to learn and play very much. After returning home during the holidays, watching TV and playing mobile phones, the little Liu husband and wife did a very successful problem about this kind of headache for parents.

During the renovation of the new home, Xiao Liu's wife intends to design the layout and structure of the decoration. The two houses of their husbands and wives and children use similar design schemes. They both have bookshelves, both learning tables and chairs. The walls of the houses are also on the walls of the house. After living in a new house, each child goes home from school, and the husband and wife are either studying in the house or studying online. The child is not used to the changes in parents and feels strange. It didn't take long for the child to take the initiative to learn after returning home, and gradually developed good learning habits.

The virtue of parents is the greatest wealth and vast sky of children. Zhong Nanshan's son Zhong Weide said in an interview that my father's influence on me should be the greatest. After I was sensible, I saw his father rushing to work. The happiest thing he was the happiest was to see the patient's illness. Happiness was deeply infected with me, and I also determined to be a good doctor with medical ethics, serving patients wholeheartedly. Zhong Weide turned his father into an example of learning. He adhered to his father's self -denial, and he was responsible for the medical practice of the patient, worked hard, and won the highest honor of China's urology "Wu Jieping Urology Award", the third prize of Chinese Medical Science and Technology and 6 provinces. Municipal National Science and Technology Progress Award. Although Zhong Nanshan did not have much time to get along with his children, he and his wife Li Shaofen's preach of the tutoring, which subtly influenced the character and habits of the two children, and achieved their future.

Parents are children's mirrors, and children are the shadow of parents; parents are the first teachers in their lives, and they are also eternal examples of children in their lives. Teaching is always more important than words, and parents' words and lines all affect the direction of their children's progress.

Find a role model for your child and set a benchmark to allow children to grow in the spring and rain. I hope that all parents can open the paddles of "physical strength", raising the sail that "subtly involved", and escorting the children's beautiful tomorrow.

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