Starting school countdown!"Putting rotten chicken baby" hot discussion: the biggest shortcut of education is to conform to the nature of the child

In fact, children have the ability to learn and love as soon as they are born.

Therefore, the most important thing in the education process is to respect the nature of children.

In the past few days, the school has started school one after another.

At this time, not only the children's start of school phobia, but parents will not consciously infected with anxiety.

Today, in the serious educational volume, countless parents regard the "chicken baby" as a creed of life, and when they mention the study, they will be tightened.

But a mother was very different.

She is Li Qi, the mother of Li Xiaoshuai in the recent documentary "The Great Mom".

Li Qi is one of the founders of returnees and Google. Her lover is given all the way to the university. The couple are highly educated intellectuals.

However, in Li Qi's education, there were no unclear interest classes, nor endless tuition lessons.

She supports children to do business and study digital hobbies, focus on cultivating children's independent character, and let go to give children more free growth space.

This "rotten chicken baby" concept coincides with Selina Alpha Rez.

Selina put forward a subversive point of view in the book "The Rules of Children's Nature":

Education requires not an innovation system, but the law of nature.

Only by following the laws of children can children release brilliant nature and draw a different life.

High score parents know how to conform to the nature of the child

As parents, the easiest mistake we make is to pay too much attention to "how to do", and forget to understand "what is" first.

The first step in education is to understand the development law and nature of children.

As the saying goes, two -year -old children are suspected.

When each child is two or three years old, parents will usher in a huge challenge:

Adults go out in a hurry, but children must wear shoes and clothes in their own way;

At first, there is an inexplicable persistence. The things must be lined up in a straight line, and the items must be classified according to color.

Parents think that the child is unreasonable.

Children in this period began to build their own inner order, which was extremely keen to the laws of things.

If we know the development of children, we can accept this construction period calmly, replace the blame with patience, and wait for the child to grow with peace of mind.

At the moment of the child's birth, he is an independent person. He will have his own development law and will continue to show his natural nature.

Parents should not regulate their children's behavior according to their own wishes, nor can they ask each child with a set of standards.

The so -called "good for you" may ruin the child's life.

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Adapted from Zheng Yuanjie's short film "Taming Rabbit", telling such a story.

Pipiru, a naughty boy since he was a child, came to a school with the goal of "turning all children into a rabbit".

The standard of "turning into a rabbit" is: not naughty, not talking, and obey the teacher's words unconditionally.

Under the education of the school, all children in the class became rabbits, except Pipiru.

The head teacher was very anxious. She tried her best to put pressure on Pipiru, and even jointly cooperated with her parents to give Pipiru medicine just to make Pipilu become a rabbit as soon as possible.

At the end of the story, Pipiru chose to put on a rabbit hood.

Famous scholar Wu Bofan proposed at a forum: Why is our innovation ability so much different from the United States and Sweden?

The answer is: we are "creating tools", and they are cultivating "people".

Some parents are like carpenters who only carve their children into their favorite appearance according to their hearts, while some parents are like gardener to respect their children's choices and help their children's healthy growth.

Cultivating children with full personality into a dumb -headed appliance is the most failed education in the world.

High score parents know how to conform to the nature of the child

The environment is the third teacher of the child

The Italian early childhood educator Lelis Maragukic put forward a point: among the parents and teachers, there is still a third teacher, that is, the environment.

In order to prove this view, Selina set up pilot classes in areas with weak educational power:

It does not occupy the tables and chairs mostly in the classroom, no fixed courses, and no one who has no one.

At the beginning, the noisy and chaotic scenes were staged almost every day. I did not expect that after a period of time, the amazing changes occurred.

In the first year, children who originally had backward learning ability exceeded the average line, and became self -disciplined, confident, and polite.

In the second year, the level of the children's disciplines far exceeded their peers, especially reading and mathematics.

In the third year, almost all children were reborn and became consciously proactive and high.

For education, the most critical factor is not genes, but the environment.

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In the book "Little Doudou by the Window", the experience of the protagonist Xiao Doudou also confirms this sentence.

Xiao Doudou has been empty since the small sky and is curious. In the first grade, he was dropped out of school by the school because of naughty mischief and transferred to the Pakistani Academy.

Pakistani Academy advocates free learning. Students can choose courses and seats, and have a lot of opportunities to get close to nature.

Here, Xiaodou has spent a very happy time.

No matter how nonsense she thinks, the teacher will always treat it seriously and communicate with her;

In order to find a wallet, she found it in the toilet. The teacher did not criticize, but wanted to know the reason she did.

She has never been criticized and punished, and the principal always tells her: "You are really a good boy!" Soaked in a love and free environment, Xiaodou beans gradually changed from the "bad child" in the eyes of someone else, and gradually changed Be confident and become a good child that everyone can accept.

Makianke said:

Even the best children, if they live in a poor group, will soon become a group of beasts.

The power of the environment is so powerful, but we are seriously underestimated.

As a parent, creating a love, freedom, and orderly growth environment for children is the best nourishment for children.

The real shortcut of education is to follow the laws of children's nature

Why do you have no indifferent children?

Why do you read a lot of parenting books and learn a lot of parenting courses, or do you know where to start?

With a 3 -year pilot and long study, Selina found the key to children's growth.

She believes that the key to education problems is that we have always used the rigid institutional rules to replace the natural laws of children's growth.

Change the old ideas and follow the laws of children's nature is the real shortcut of education.

① Parents of examples

Lev Tolstoy said: "All education, or 999 thousands of education is attributed to the example."

As the first teacher of the child's growth, the parents' words and deeds have an amazing impact on their children.

There is a study called "Difficulty of Childhood", and 42 families from different classes have been selected to observe parent -child interaction between children from 7 months and 3 years old.

Statistics have found that 86%-98%of languages ​​used by 3 -year -old children, and even children's ways and vocabulary are from their parents.

In addition to language, the formation of children's behavior and personality is also closely related to parents.

Therefore, if you want children to be optimistic and cheerful, parents should also be positive; if they want to cultivate their children's exercise habits, parents must also exercise frequently.

Parents are the best life manual for children.

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② Experience learning

There is a well -known "Maze Little White Rat" experiment:

One group of little white rats found exports after running many times in the maze, and after touching the wall, the other group of mice was placed on a small cart, and the maze was sent directly all the way.

When the two groups of mice were put into the maze, the self -reliant mice could quickly find the exit, while the other group was much slower.

There is a saying: "Experience is like a candle, you can only illuminate the people who hold it."

Learning must be done.

Only in practice fails, correct mistakes, and try again, will the fruit of success really belong to themselves.

The best learning is to learn in experience and accumulate in perception.

③ Growth in freedom

Selina once made such a metaphor in the book:

When driving, hang the gear to 5 gears, but at the same time pulled the handbrake, the car rang, but could not move forward.

Once you fall into a step -by -step life and lose the right to free activities, your brain will be pulled up on the "handbrake".

At that time, no matter how much effort was, it also had little effect.

Many studies have shown that children with more free space have more comprehensive mental development.

Because they need to arrange their own activities, this process not only exercises thinking, but also improves its execution.

On the contrary, a child who has not had a chance to make a decision for himself has been unable to decide his life when he grows up.

As a parent, learn to put away the banner of "good for you" and try to let go of the hands of imprisoning children. Children may fly higher and farther.

Really effective education is never control, but guidance.

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④ Love is the ultimate secret

Harvard University had done research on happiness. As a result, the more love a person had, the healthier and happier, and it was easier to succeed.

Love is the ultimate secret of all growth.

Parents, we must love children, and to educate children in a way of love.

When the child makes a mistake, he is less scolded and blame, and more patient communication;

When the child is naughty, one less criticize and educate, and think more about it.

The love of parents is the source of the child's power and the armor of the child's life.

Children who have grown up by AIDS can also travel through the storms of life with love when they grow up.

At the end

Mr. Lu Xun once wrote in the article "What are we doing now":

Wake -up parents should educate children with loveless love.

First: Understanding, if you do n’t understand it first, you do it, it will be very caused by the development of the child;

Second: Guidance, the elder must be the instructor and the negotiator, but it should not be the commander;

Third: Liberation, children are not me, and children should be owned by themselves as an independent person.

Education is not in charge, nor does it matter, but watching.

As parents, what we need may not be advanced educational methods, nor is it a detailed operating manual, but to fully understand the children's development laws and natural nature.

The laws of adhering to growth, not invading the growth of children, and giving them love and freedom, this is all the meaning of education.

Because all education is to make children a "person".

Pay attention to "readers" and encourage everyone.

Author: Fang Yuan. Source: Fan Deng Reading (ID: ReadingClub_btfx) Reading Life Life.

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